Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

The Fawn Response: People Pleasing, Self-Abandonment, and Standing Up for Yourself

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Jun 17, 2024

Dr. Rick and Forrest explore the fawn stress response, discussing people pleasing, self-abandonment, weak boundaries, and self-sacrifice. They cover the roots of fawning and provide tools for healthy boundaries and self-acceptance. Key topics include power imbalances, personal history leading to fawning, shame, self-expression, and becoming your own source of safety.

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Intro

00:00 • 2min

Understanding the Fawn Response to Stress

02:17 • 18min

Breaking Free from People-Pleasing Behaviors

20:05 • 15min

Exploring Nutrition's Long-Term Effects and Skincare Solutions

35:32 • 2min

Exploring the Fawn Response and Self-Acceptance in Relationships

37:41 • 2min

Exploring Self-Acceptance, Authenticity, and Releasing Bottled-Up Emotions

39:57 • 4min

Breaking Free from People-Pleasing Patterns

43:48 • 18min

Understanding the Fawn Response and Stress Responses

01:01:53 • 12min

Dr. Rick and Forrest finish their series on the stress responses with the fawn response: an appeasement strategy where we manage stressful situations by giving others what they want. Rick and Forrest start by discussing common symptoms, including people pleasing, self-abandonment, difficulty saying no, weak boundaries, and chronic self-sacrifice. They talk about the roots of the fawn response and its connection to complex PTSD before exploring people pleasing in detail. In the second half of the episode they focus on practical tools for developing healthy boundaries, self-acceptance, and a stronger sense of self.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

2:15: What the fawn response looks like

9:05: Power imbalances, shame, and contempt

11:35: What personal history tends to lead to fawning?

20:00: How to work on the tendency to fawn

36:30: Shame, self-acceptance, and opening up to self-expression

41:25: The fawn response in relationship

46:40: Becoming your own source of safety

52:20: Making equitable arrangements, and acknowledging your best efforts

1:01:50: Recap

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