Reset Your Life with These 3 Proven Frameworks (No Matter Your Age)

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Jul 21, 2025

Discover the power of starting over, with insights from experts like James Clear and Brené Brown. Learn a four-step formula for habit change that lasts, and embrace vulnerability as a strength. Hear personal stories about rewriting life narratives after setbacks, including how to navigate broken engagements. The discussion emphasizes the importance of growth through relationships and encourages reframing failures as opportunities for self-discovery. It's all about cultivating a mindset that welcomes change and connection!

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ADVICE

James Clear's Habit Framework

To build lasting habits, make them obvious, attractive, easy, and satisfying, as James Clear advises.
Internalize the identity of the person you want to become to reinforce these habits consistently.

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ANECDOTE

Cherie’s Don’t Break the Chain Habit

Cherie uses a calendar to mark each day she goes to the gym, creating a chain she doesn't want to break.
This visual habit tracking motivates her to maintain consistency and feel accomplished.

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Jean’s Yes-to-Social Invites Strategy

Jean took on the identity of someone who says yes to social invites to break old routines.
This led her to attend new events and meet a dating prospect at a friend's party.

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Building Habits for a Fulfilling Life

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Embracing Change and Vulnerability

08:33 • 9min

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The Power of Vulnerability and Reinvention

17:10 • 4min

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Outgrowing Relationships: Embracing the Journey of Learning

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Courage in Self-Identity

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Rewriting Your Personal Narrative for Growth

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In 'Daring Greatly,' Brené Brown delves into the topics of vulnerability, shame, and courage. The book, inspired by a quote from Theodore Roosevelt's 'Citizenship in a Republic' speech, argues that vulnerability is essential for living a wholehearted life. Brown discusses how vulnerability is often misunderstood as weakness, but it is actually a sign of courage. She provides insights from her research on how vulnerability affects men and women differently and offers practical advice on overcoming shame and embracing vulnerability in personal and professional life. The book emphasizes the importance of connection, shame resilience, and the distinction between guilt and shame.

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Atomic Habits

James Clear

Atomic Habits by James Clear provides a practical and scientifically-backed guide to forming good habits and breaking bad ones. The book introduces the Four Laws of Behavior Change: make it obvious, make it attractive, make it easy, and make it satisfying. It also emphasizes the importance of small, incremental changes (atomic habits) that compound over time to produce significant results. Clear discusses techniques such as habit stacking, optimizing the environment to support desired habits, and focusing on continuous improvement rather than goal fixation. The book is filled with actionable strategies, real-life examples, and stories from various fields, making it a valuable resource for anyone seeking to improve their habits and achieve personal growth.

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🌀 Starting over isn’t failure. It’s power.

In this vulnerable, tactical episode, we walk you through the 3-part toolkit for reinvention — with wisdom from James Clear, Brené Brown, and Esther Perel.

Whether you're recovering from heartbreak, making a big move, or just feeling lost, this episode will help you hit reset with confidence.

𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂’𝗹𝗹 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗻 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗲𝗽𝗶𝘀𝗼𝗱𝗲:

◦ James Clear’s 4-step formula for habit change that sticks

◦ How to become the kind of person you want to be

◦ Vulnerability as a tool for connection, not weakness (feat. Brené Brown)

◦ How to rewrite your romantic or personal story after setbacks (Esther Perel-style)

◦ The real story behind Jean’s broken engagement — and how she reframed it

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⏰ Timestamps

00:00:00 Starting over at 29 and 36

00:03:05 Why atomic habits work when you feel stuck

00:04:53 Jean’s “Don’t Break the Chain” habit system

00:06:05 Saying yes to social invites → dating success?!

00:08:39 Why starting over doesn’t need to wait until January

00:10:33 How to use vulnerability as a career superpower

00:12:39 LinkedIn layoffs, social accountability, and owning your story

00:15:07 Weakness or strength? The mindset shift that changes everything

00:17:51 Rewriting your narrative — Esther Perel’s framework

00:22:19 The real story behind Jean’s broken engagement

00:25:12 Bonus exercise: say it out loud for the first time

00:26:42 Final mini exercise — and how to reframe the old story

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