How to be happier, with Sonja Lyubomirsky, PhD

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In *The How of Happiness*, Sonja Lyubomirsky offers a detailed yet easy-to-follow plan to increase happiness. Drawing on her extensive research, Lyubomirsky explains that while 50% of happiness is determined by genetics and 10% by life circumstances, 40% can be controlled through intentional thoughts and behaviors. The book provides over a dozen uniquely formulated happiness-increasing strategies, including practicing optimism, savoring life's pleasures, and staying active. It also includes diagnostic quizzes to help readers understand their 'happiness set point' and select activities that best fit their personality, resources, and goals. Lyubomirsky emphasizes the importance of personalizing these strategies to achieve long-term happiness[1][4][5].

In 'iGen,' Jean Twenge analyzes the cultural changes affecting today's teens and young adults, born after 1995, who are the first generation to spend their entire adolescence in the age of smartphones. The book draws from nationally representative surveys and in-depth interviews to document how technology has influenced their socialization, mental health, attitudes toward religion, sexuality, and politics. Twenge argues that this generation is distinct due to their extensive use of technology, which has led to increased levels of anxiety, depression, and loneliness, as well as changes in their developmental pace and social interactions. The book is divided into chapters that explore various themes, including the impact of internet use, changes in social behaviors, mental health crises, and shifts in religious and political attitudes.

In 'The Myths of Happiness', Sonja Lyubomirsky challenges common assumptions about what brings happiness and misery. She argues that our misconceptions about the impact of major life events, such as marriage, children, wealth, and failures like divorce or illness, can significantly affect our long-term well-being. The book emphasizes the concept of hedonic adaptation, which shows that people tend to return to their initial happiness level after significant life changes. Lyubomirsky provides scientific evidence and practical lessons to help readers make wiser choices and find happiness by looking beyond their initial emotional responses and focusing on their mindset rather than circumstances.