Live Event: How To Stop Yelling - Hunter Clarke-Fields [437]
Jan 9, 2024
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Hunter Clarke-Fields, global speaker and bestselling author, shares practical tools and insights on calming parenting frustrations, building trust in parent-child relationships, breaking the cycle of reactive parenting, and the impact of yelling on children's behavior. The podcast explores the power of mindfulness, the importance of self-care and stress management, and the positive impact of mindfulness and meditation in parenting. The guest also introduces a mindful parenting course and highlights the benefits of joining a community that promotes effective parenting strategies.
Self-awareness and self-regulation are crucial aspects of effective parenting, which can be cultivated through mindfulness practice.
Yelling is detrimental to children as it triggers their stress response, impairs their ability to learn, and perpetuates a generational pattern of aggression.
Recognizing triggers, practicing self-awareness, and utilizing coping strategies like slower exhales and calming body postures can help parents reduce reactivity and build cooperative relationships with their children.
Deep dives
The Importance of Mindful Parenting
Mindful parenting is emphasized as a way to address frustrations and struggles in parenting. The podcast host shares personal experiences of being overwhelmed and losing control with their child, leading to the realization that a crucial aspect of effective parenting is self-awareness and self-regulation. Mindfulness is introduced as a practice to cultivate calmness, presence, and access to the whole brain in order to make conscious choices in responding to children. The speaker highlights the significance of reducing reactivity and creating cooperative relationships through practices like slower exhales, shaking it out, calming body postures, and using calming mantras.
The Negative Impact of Yelling in Parenting
The podcast addresses the question of why yelling is detrimental and ineffective in parenting. It discusses how yelling scares children and triggers their stress response, impairing their ability to learn and leading to more negative behaviors. Yelling also models aggression and teaches children to yell. The speaker emphasizes the need to recognize yelling as a stress response and the responsibility to break the generational pattern. Practicing self-regulation, the podcast offers practical tools such as slower exhales, shaking it out, calm body postures, and using calming mantras to calm down in difficult moments with children.
Coping Strategies for Difficult Parenting Moments
The podcast presents coping strategies for handling difficult parenting moments. It suggests recognizing triggers and acknowledging frustration as the first step towards self-awareness and self-regulation. The option of removing oneself from the situation is provided, highlighting the importance of not reacting in the heat of the moment. The podcast then offers resources for calming reactivity, including slower exhales to activate the rest and relax response, shaking it out to release stress energy, calming body postures like forward folds to soothe the nervous system, and using calm down mantras to shift perspective and mindset. The speaker emphasizes the importance of practicing these coping strategies to become less reactive and cultivate closer, more cooperative relationships with children over time.
Reducing Overall Stress and Practicing Self-Care
To reduce yelling and improve parenting, it is crucial to reduce overall stress levels and prioritize self-care. While it may be challenging due to the lack of support in our modern society, taking steps such as getting enough sleep, engaging in regular exercise, and spending quality time with supportive family and friends can significantly reduce stress. Prioritizing self-care is not selfish but essential for effective parenting. By reducing overall stress, parents can regulate their own emotions and have better decision-making abilities, providing a positive model for their children.
The Power of Mindfulness Practice
Mindfulness practice can greatly decrease reactivity and enhance emotional regulation in parents. Research shows that regular mindfulness practice can lead to significant improvements in mental well-being and brain function. It can reduce anxiety and depression, increase emotional resilience, and improve sleep quality. Mindfulness practice helps build the ability to pause, regulate emotions, and respond more skillfully to parenting challenges. Starting with just a few minutes a day, practicing mindfulness can create positive changes in brain structure, improving the connections between the prefrontal cortex and reducing the size of the amygdala. Mindfulness can benefit parents in modeling calmness and emotional regulation for their children.
How do you really calm your reactivity? Over the past two years, Hunter has spoken internationally on how to stop yelling. In this episode, you’ll hear the audio from one of her live talks around the world and find out exactly what it takes to calm that parenting frustration.
ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is the host Mindful Parenting Podcast (Top 0.5% podcast ), global speaker, number 1 bestselling author of “Raising Good Humans” and “Raising Good Humans Every Day,” Mindfulness Meditation teacher and creator of the Mindful Parenting Course and Teacher Training.
Find more podcasts, Hunter’s books, blog posts, free resources, and more at MindfulMamaMentor.com.
