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#397 - Dr Benjamin Hardy - A High Achievers' Guide To Happiness

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Nov 13, 2021

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Benjamin Hardy

Dr. Benjamin Hardy, an organizational psychologist and author, tackles the paradox of high achievers' unhappiness. He explains how the drive for success often leads to feelings of inadequacy and jealousy. Hardy provides insights on reframing success to prioritize personal contentment over societal standards. He stresses that true happiness stems from within and offers strategies to combat complacency. Listeners will gain practical advice on setting values-driven goals and measuring progress against their past selves, fostering genuine fulfillment.

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ADVICE

Focus on Gains

Measure progress against your former self, focusing on gains.
This fosters gratitude, confidence, and intrinsic motivation.

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ANECDOTE

Book Launch Failure

Benjamin Hardy felt like a failure when his first book didn't become a NYT bestseller, despite considerable progress.
This illustrates the "gap" mentality, where achievements are devalued against what "should" have been.

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INSIGHT

Origin of Gap Mentality

Gap mentality originates from external comparisons imposed by systems like public education and societal measures.
It hinders the development of an internal referencing system based on personal values.

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Staying Engaged: Overcoming Complacency in Personal Growth

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The High Cost of Success and Finding Personal Happiness

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The True Measure of Success: Happiness vs. Achievement

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Dr Benjamin Hardy is an organisational psychologist and an author.

Many high achievers are unhappy because the same motivation which drives exceptional performance often also leads to feelings of insufficiency, jealousy and comparison. So how can driven people reframe their worldview to come from a place of gratitude and happiness, whilst still keeping that competitive edge?

Expect to learn how comparing your performance to your potential is a recipe for disaster, why success without happiness is a pointless pursuit, Ben's best triggers for realising when you've fallen into The Gap, how to protect yourself against complacency when feeling happy with your performance and much more...

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