

529 - Yes, You Can Think Your Way Out of Your Feelings (Sometimes)
31 snips May 13, 2025
The hosts dive into cognitive reappraisal, exploring how we can think our way out of negative emotions in relationships. They discuss the fine line between healthy self-reflection and self-gaslighting, especially when triggers arise. Listeners learn about emotional regulation, the impact of upbringing, and the importance of pausing during tough conversations. With humor and personal anecdotes, they offer practical strategies for navigating feelings, fostering mindfulness, and enhancing emotional dynamics in romantic connections.
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Emily's Daily Emotional Reappraisal
- Emily shares how she often uses cognitive reappraisal daily to manage emotional reactions in relationships.
- She reflects on rethinking triggers to see different perspectives and regulate emotions.
Contradiction in Emotion Regulation
- Psychological health studies praise emotion regulation for stress reduction, while physical health shows it may increase physiological stress.
- This contradiction suggests different types of emotional regulation affect mind and body differently.
Conflicting Emotional Upbringings
- Many learn early to control emotions or to act on feelings without restraint, reflecting different upbringing messages.
- These conflicting teachings impact how people manage feelings in relationships.