Sex With Emily 5 Things Secretly Stealing Your Pleasure
Nov 21, 2025
Dr. Emily Nagoski, a renowned sex educator and author, joins for a candid conversation on the complexities of desire and pleasure. They dive into the impact of stress and societal myths, like the misconception of "blue balls," which hinder sexual enjoyment. Discover practical tools to calm your nervous system and prioritize pleasure over momentum during intimacy. Also discussed is the importance of unlearning shame around sex and fostering healthy conversations with kids about sexuality without pressure.
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Sex Experts Lose Desire Too
- Desire fluctuates and experts like Emily Nagoski and Emily Morse lose desire too, often from stress and burnout.
- Pleasure, not frequency or orgasm count, is the true measure of sexual wellbeing.
Brakes And Accelerators Of Desire
- Sexual response depends on accelerators (turn-ons) and brakes (threats) per the dual-control model.
- Identifying both helps you manage desire rather than blame yourself.
Use Breath To Regain Presence
- Use breathwork to calm your nervous system and reset presence during sex.
- Anchor to your five senses to return from dissociation and increase pleasure.
