4 Steps to Improve Your Self Awareness to Reach Your Goals & How to Change Your Perspective on Rejection
Mar 24, 2023
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Rich Roll, an ultra-endurance athlete and author, dives deep into self-awareness and personal growth. He shares insights on the double-edged nature of social media, emphasizing its potential for positive change. The conversation highlights methods to transform rejection into opportunities and the importance of reflecting on passions to create a nurturing environment for growth. Roll discusses the balance between ambition and emotional support in relationships, urging listeners to prioritize meaningful connections.
Discovering passion can lead to taking a different path in life.
Unexpected inspiration can spark a pivot in one's journey.
Living both as a monk and in the real world offers unique perspectives.
Deep dives
Discovering the Power of Service and Selflessness
The speaker recounts their transformative experience of meeting a monk who introduced them to the power of selfless service. Initially skeptical, the speaker was struck by the monk's message of placing the talents and skills for the benefit of others. This encounter sparked a deep curiosity to learn and share this philosophy, leading the speaker to organize weekly sessions at university, where they dissected movies and delved into philosophy, science, and psychology. This experience laid the foundation for the speaker's current role in teaching, sharing, and living a life focused on service.
Living the Monastic Lifestyle
The speaker describes their decision to become a monk and their three-year experience living in various ashrams in locations like London, Mumbai, and Europe. An average day usually began at 4 a.m. with collective prayers and meditation, followed by personal meditation time until 7:30 a.m. A morning class on philosophy was then held for an hour, fostering a love for the deep philosophical teachings. The rest of the day involved activities centered around self-care and service, where the speaker and the other monks spent time feeding children, building sustainable villages, and helping others. The communal living situation provided ample opportunity for introspection and facing personal challenges.
The Transformative Power of Service
During the speaker's experience in the ashram, they encountered the notion that life is meant for selfless service. Despite initial resistance and skepticism, the speaker observed that true happiness and fulfillment came from redirecting their focus away from self-seeking pursuits. Whether through community service or fulfilling personal callings that benefit others, the speaker discovered the joys and rewards of helping and serving others. They emphasize that everyone is inherently wired to serve, but societal conditioning often obscures this natural inclination. By recognizing this and embracing a service-oriented mindset, individuals can find greater satisfaction and purpose in their lives.
The Significance of Living Mindfully and Meeting People Where They Are
The speaker reflects on the importance of living mindfully and meeting people where they are in their own journey. They stress the significance of observing the frequency at which one operates and being open to diverse perspectives and experiences. The speaker shares personal stories of struggling and growing through experiences of ego, vulnerability, humility, and empathy. They highlight that true happiness is not achieved solely through personal achievements, but also through selfless acts that benefit others. The speaker's aim is to inspire others to embrace a philosophy of service and explore alternative paths for personal growth and fulfillment.
The Power of Protecting Your Purpose
One of the main insights from the podcast is the importance of protecting your purpose. The guest emphasizes that when you protect your purpose, your purpose protects you. This involves guarding your strengths, passions, and skills, even when others may question their value. By valuing and nurturing your purpose, you can create a strong foundation for success and fulfillment.
Disengaging to Reengage Effectively
The podcast episode discusses the idea of disengaging from distractions, such as social media, to learn how to reengage more effectively. The guest highlights the importance of intentional consumption, where consuming is done to create or improve oneself, rather than mindlessly scrolling. He advocates setting rules and boundaries, such as creating no technology zones and avoiding phone usage in the morning. By focusing on intentional engagement and setting boundaries, individuals can maximize the benefits of technology without being overwhelmed by it.
Finding Your Element, Environment, and Energy
The podcast explores the concept of element, environment, and energy as key factors in living a fulfilling life. The guest suggests that discovering and embracing your element, which is your true calling or passion, is crucial for performing at your best. Additionally, he emphasizes the importance of finding the right environment where you thrive. This may involve creating spaces with minimal distractions or solitude, depending on individual preferences. Lastly, the guest discusses the significance of understanding and aligning with your energy, meaning engaging in activities that energize and inspire you. By identifying and nurturing these three aspects, individuals can experience a greater sense of purpose and fulfillment.
Finding a Balance Between the Spiritual and Corporate World
The speaker discusses their journey of transitioning from a monk in an ashram to working at Accenture in a corporate job. They faced challenges in reintegrating into the corporate world and finding their identity. However, they were able to create a role for themselves in the social media and digital department at Accenture, where they learned valuable skills. The speaker emphasizes the importance of finding meaning and passion in a job, even if it may seem unrelated to one's spiritual path.
Applying Spiritual Concepts in the Modern World
The speaker explores the concept of detachment from a spiritual perspective, highlighting the difference between detachment and indifference. They explain how detachment means using everything for a higher purpose and being engaged rather than consumed by one's possessions or achievements. The speaker also discusses the importance of being process-oriented rather than result-oriented and how this mindset can lead to greater success and fulfillment. They encourage self-awareness and applying spiritual principles in daily life to enhance relationships and personal growth.
Today, I am going to share with you the conversation I had with Rich Roll in his podcast. I talk about my experiences as a monk and share insights on meditation, mindfulness, and conscious capitalism. I also talk about the double-edged sword of social media and how it can be used for good. Our conversation also touches on the topic of happiness, and I provide tips on how to reframe one's perspective on life. We should reflect on one's passions and expertise, find patterns in one's life, and create an environment for opportunities to come later.
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Key Takeaways:
00:00 Intro
02:30 Finding a life-long partner takes a lot of work, dedication, and time
08:55 "If you can't explain something simply, you don't understand it well enough."
11:47 Growing up in London bullied for being overweight and dealing with a rebellious phase
15:42 Discovering your passion and finding a different path for yourself
19:48 Finding inspiration in someone you least expect and pivoting from your current journey
30:50 Getting the chance to live both options of life: monkhood and real life
38:11 What is it like to live a life in service to others?
46:40 Here is a glimpse of how a monk lives day to day
50:43 This is how monks train themselves to avoid the follower mentality
55:18 There are an infinite of seats in the theater of happiness, you just need to find your own seat
57:26 How do you find your passion and what you can do to genuinely identify them.
1:05:32 Asking the right questions to help develop self-awareness and positive intuition
1:09:44 “When you protect your purpose, your purpose protects you.”
1:19:29 Venturing into the social media space and finding a career opportunity
1:22:34 The truth about detachment and you can use it to your advantage
1:25:56 Jay explains the process of purification
1:29:39 Maintaining a routine can be hard but it is a beneficial practice
1:36:24 Disengagement is the beginning step of re-engagement
1:42:55 The three things we aren’t aware of - Element, Environment, and Energy
1:49:23 Jay explains the different relationship tools for a healthy partnership
