Psychiatrist Dr. Pooja Lakshmin discusses real self-care vs. faux self-care, setting boundaries, distinguishing between goals and values, escaping martyr mode, and the power of saying 'no' for authentic wellness.
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Self-Care as the New Recycling
Societal structures shift responsibility for systemic issues onto individuals.
This is exemplified by blaming burnout on individuals rather than systemic issues like lack of healthcare and paid leave.
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Faux Self-Care vs. Real Self-Care
Faux self-care involves external products or activities, creating a temporary fix but not addressing underlying issues.
Real self-care is an internal process driven by boundaries, compassion, values, and power, leading to dynamic shifts in relationships and potentially larger systems.
question_answer ANECDOTE
The Yoga Example
Two people attend yoga; one focuses on external comparisons, feeling worse afterward.
The other sets boundaries and connects with their values, experiencing the true benefits of yoga.
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297. REAL Self-Care: Burnout Is Not Your Fault & the Way Out with Dr. Pooja Lakshmin
Psychiatrist Dr. Pooja Lakshmin shows us how to tell the difference between the Faux Self-Care we’ve been sold versus the Real Self-Care we desperately need.
Discover:
How to incorporate boundaries through the power of the pause and how to navigate the post-boundary ick with ease;
A simple tool to know whether you are being driven by your goals or driven by your values (and how to find and start living by your values today); and
Whether you might be in ‘martyr mode,’ and the key to getting out of it.
About Pooja: Dr. Pooja Lakshmin is a board-certified psychiatrist, author, keynote speaker, and a contributor to The New York Times. Her debut book, REAL SELF-CARE: Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble-Baths Not Included, is an NPR Best Book of 2023 and a national best-seller. Pooja serves as a clinical assistant professor of psychiatry at George Washington University School of Medicine, and maintains an active private practice where she treats women struggling with burnout, perfectionism, and disillusionment, as well as clinical conditions like depression, anxiety and ADHD. She frequently speaks, advises and consults for organizations on mental health and well-being. Pooja writes the weekly Substack newsletter, Real Self-Care.
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