EP 277 — Mark England and Kimberly Kesting: Achieving Mental Freedom
Jan 23, 2024
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Mark England and Kimberly Kesting discuss achieving mental freedom, imposter syndrome, mindset, victim mentality, goal-setting, and the power of breathing and positive language in this entertaining and insightful podcast.
Language plays a significant role in perpetuating a victim mentality and inhibiting individual potential, but by reframing language, individuals can shift their internal dialogue and create an empowering narrative.
The Enlisted Method offers practical mindset coaching tools to empower coaches, helping them take control of their lives and support their clients' transformations.
Imposter syndrome and self-doubt hinder individuals from fully showing up as leaders, but by consciously observing thoughts and language, individuals can rewrite their narratives and unlock their potential.
Effective coaching involves distilling complex stories into simple and actionable steps, guiding clients towards clarity and resolution.
Using clear and concise language can have a significant impact on communication and coaching effectiveness.
Celebrating wins is essential in coaching, as it helps shift clients' perspectives and create a more empowering narrative.
Deep dives
Importance of language and stories in self-limiting beliefs
Many individuals who want to teach and lead are held back by a story of not feeling good enough. This story creates a barrier that prevents them from fully showing up and making an impact. Although they may present a confident exterior, internally they constantly question themselves, doubt their abilities, and feel blocked. Language plays a significant role in perpetuating this victim mentality and inhibiting their potential. By observing and reframing the language they use, individuals can shift their internal dialogue, challenge their limiting beliefs, and create a new narrative that empowers them to take action and achieve their desired outcomes.
The Enlisted Method and training for coaches
The Enlisted Method, created by Mark England and Kimberly Kesting, offers practical mindset coaching tools to empower coaches, teachers, and leaders. By addressing the power of words and stories, the Enlisted Method helps individuals take control of their lives, optimize their mental wellbeing, and support their clients' transformations. With certifications and training courses delivered virtually, Enlisted provides coaches with the essential building blocks and tools to facilitate change in their clients' narratives and create lasting results.
The impact of language on mindset
Language is a powerful influencer of mindset. The words we use, consciously and unconsciously, shape our feelings, emotions, mental imagery, posture, and even our breathing patterns. Most people are unaware of the language patterns that reinforce their victim mentality or self-doubt. However, by externalizing these thoughts, observing them, and reframing them, individuals can take charge of their mindset and create a new narrative aligned with their goals and aspirations.
Shifting from victim mentality to empowered thinking
Imposter syndrome and self-doubt are common challenges experienced by those who want to lead and make a difference. Often rooted in childhood experiences and negative beliefs, these stories block individuals from fully showing up and hinder their ability to help others. By consciously observing their thoughts and language, individuals can recognize their self-limiting beliefs and actively choose to rewrite their narratives. Shifting from victim-oriented language to empowered thinking unlocks their potential, improves client interactions, and creates lasting change.
Distilling Complexity and Simplifying Stories
One key aspect of effective coaching is the ability to distill complex stories into simple and actionable steps. By helping clients simplify their stories, coaches can guide them towards clarity and resolution.
The Power of Economical Language
Using economical language can have a significant impact on how we communicate and convey our thoughts. By using clear and concise words, we can better direct our clients' energy and attention, making the coaching process more effective.
Celebrating Wins and Shifting Perspective
Celebrating wins is an essential part of coaching. By acknowledging and highlighting the positive aspects of clients' lives, coaches can help shift their perspective and create a more empowering narrative.
Using Art Therapy to Transform Stories
Art therapy can be a powerful tool for transforming stories. Encouraging clients to paint or draw their emotions and then find ways to convert them into something beautiful can support healing and growth.
The Power of Stories and Addiction
The podcast episode explores the concept of addiction and how it relates to repeated behaviors that do not produce desired results. The host introduces a four-step box process to understand addiction, including belief, expectation, outcome, and satiation. By examining the underlying beliefs and desires that drive addictive behaviors, individuals can gain clarity on what they truly need and seek healthier alternatives.
Conspiracy Theories and Personal Storytelling
The podcast delves into the allure of conspiracy theories and how they can affect personal storytelling and perception. The host emphasizes the importance of understanding one's personal stories and working through any trauma or victim-centric beliefs before exploring conspiracy theories. By addressing personal stories and beliefs, individuals can navigate the complexity of conspiracy theories with greater awareness and discernment.
Importance of Basics and Energy for Transformation
The podcast discusses the significance of sticking to the basics and maintaining energy for personal transformation. The hosts highlight the influence of foundational habits such as quality sleep, hydration, movement, and nutrition on building vitality and creating lasting change. Recognizing the connection between mind, body, and energy levels is essential for individuals to enhance their overall well-being and successfully shift their stories.
Are you a spectator or the main character in your own life story? And, what are you doing to develop your own skill sets to become a better coach and a better person?
Unravel challenges with imposter syndrome and discover how your internal dialogue affects your external relationships with Enlifted's Mark England and Kimberly Kesting in this conversational Living 4D podcast.
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Timestamps
A greater need to cover the basics sparked the creation of a new enlifted course. (7:05)
The 17 definitions of mindset. (10:48)
Your story can be so big and loud that it could haunt you throughout your life. (13:10)
Simplify the story. (17:31)
Imposter syndrome: The fear of being seen. (25:59)
The “just the way I am (thinking)” game. (39:40)
Are you living in different flavors of a doom loop? (52:32)
The victim mentality. (58:28)
The main difference between professional coaches and amateurs. (1:04:27)
A good tip for parents: Celebrate your child’s wins every day. (1:05:29)
