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485: High Functioning Codependency with Terri Cole

Jun 2, 2025
Terri Cole, a licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert, dives into the concept of high-functioning codependency, shedding light on its connection to narcissism. She shares personal anecdotes and practical advice to help listeners recognize toxic patterns like love bombing and the importance of setting boundaries. The conversation emphasizes self-awareness and the significance of addressing these dynamics for healthier relationships. Terri's insights offer a fresh perspective on balancing empathy while safeguarding mental well-being.
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INSIGHT

Defining High-Functioning Codependency

  • High-functioning codependency (HFC) means overinvesting in others' outcomes to your own detriment.
  • It's different from caring: you feel responsible for others' feelings rather than compassionate about them.
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The Exhaustion of Auto-Accommodation

  • Auto-accommodating others is exhausting and distracting from your own needs.
  • Worrying about issues not on your side of the street drains your mental energy unnecessarily.
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Narcissist-Codependent Magnetic Draw

  • Narcissists love-bomb to create euphoria and fast-track closeness.
  • High-functioning codependents, who care deeply, are magnetically drawn to narcissists' charm and attention.
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