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#784: Dr. Becky Kennedy — Parenting Strategies for Raising Resilient Kids, Plus Word-for-Word Scripts for Repairing Relationships, Setting Boundaries, and More

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Dec 26, 2024

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Becky Kennedy

In this discussion, Dr. Becky Kennedy, founder of Good Inside, shares innovative strategies for raising resilient kids. She emphasizes the power of emotional connection and self-awareness in parenting. Dr. Kennedy introduces the concept of the 'Most Generous Interpretation' to foster healthier interactions. She also delves into the balance between setting boundaries and allowing kids to face challenges independently, offering practical communication scripts for repairing relationships. Her insights empower parents to nurture confidence and emotional strength in their children.

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The Parent's Job Description

Parents often experience "role confusion" because they lack a clear job description.
A parent's job is to set boundaries and connect with the "good kid" underneath any misbehavior.

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Setting Effective Boundaries

State boundaries as actions you will take, not as demands on the child.
Follow through consistently, even if the child becomes upset.

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Most Generous Interpretation

Practice the "Most Generous Interpretation (MGI)" of your child's behavior.
Avoid the "Least Generous Interpretation (LGI)", which often leads to negative assumptions and reactions.

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Dr. Becky Kennedy is the founder and CEO of Good Inside, a parenting movement that overturns a lot of conventional, modern parenting practices to empower parents to become sturdy, confident leaders and raise sturdy, confident kids. She is the author of the bestselling book Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be, a chart-topping podcast, a TED talk with nearly 4 million views on the power of repair, and an upcoming children’s book, That’s My Truck! A Good Inside Story About Hitting.

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Timestamps:

[00:00] Who is Dr. Becky Kennedy?

[06:49] The power of repair.

[09:44] “It’s never your fault when I yell at you.”

[13:49] What does it mean to be a “good” parent?

[15:26] Activating curiosity over judgment.

[18:27] Alternatives to saying “Good job” as a confidence builder.

[23:16] Making kids happy vs. building capability.

[26:44] A pilot metaphor for sturdy leadership.

[31:56] Role confusion.

[34:30] Defining boundaries.

[38:44] How parenting becomes a two-way mirror for growth.