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467: Ask David: How can I help grandma and my mom?

Sep 15, 2025
This discussion tackles the delicate dynamics of caring for a demanding elderly relative, emphasizing the importance of empathy in family relationships. Strategies for communicating effectively with loved ones are shared, highlighting the impact of acknowledging emotions. The conversation also navigates challenging interactions with people holding extreme views, urging listeners to cultivate compassion even in difficult circumstances. With real-life examples, the hosts inspire a deeper understanding of human behavior and the transformative power of kindness.
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ADVICE

Start With Empathy, Not Fixing

  • Use the Five Secrets: empathize, ask, and listen before trying to fix others.
  • Change yourself first by acknowledging feelings instead of rescuing or controlling them.
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Invite Collaboration With 'Change The Focus'

  • Try a 'change the focus' conversation after empathizing to invite collaboration on change.
  • Ask gentle questions like, "Is this something you'd want to work on?" before suggesting solutions.
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Use Honest 'I Feel' Statements

  • Use 'I feel' statements to express your feelings honestly and lovingly to both parties.
  • Acknowledge their likely emotions and ask if your understanding fits before proposing change.
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