492- Interrupt the Cycle of Self-Sabotage in the New Year
Feb 27, 2024
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Learn about the behaviors linked to ADHD like procrastination and perfectionism, and how to break the cycle of self-sabotage. Discover tips for overcoming negative emotions, seeking professional help, and building self-acceptance. Explore strategies for navigating self-sabotage in relationships and challenging overspending behaviors for personal growth.
Recognizing self-sabotaging patterns involves unpacking behaviors like procrastination, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and risk-taking.
Exploring the root causes of self-sabotage involves delving into underlying emotions and stories behind one's behaviors.
Deep dives
Recognizing Self-Sabotaging Patterns
Recognizing self-sabotaging patterns involves unpacking behaviors like procrastination, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and risk-taking. These behaviors can hinder progress and relationships, particularly common among individuals with ADHD. Understanding these patterns and their impact is crucial for breaking the cycle of self-sabotage.
Identifying Behaviors and Emotions
Identifying behaviors and emotions that lead to self-sabotage is essential. By examining specific examples like a client upset over an interview, a spouse accidentally discarding pizza meant for his pregnant wife, and the speaker's own struggles with writing a manuscript, individuals can uncover negative thought patterns and emotional triggers.
Exploring Root Causes of Self-Sabotage
Exploring the root causes of self-sabotage involves delving into underlying emotions and stories behind one's behaviors. By considering the story behind the emotions, individuals can gain insight into their fears of failure, perfectionism, lack of self-awareness, and coping mechanisms like avoidance or substance abuse.
Overcoming Self-Sabotage
Overcoming self-sabotage requires developing self-supporting behaviors, setting boundaries, reframing negative emotional experiences in a positive light, and seeking professional help when needed. Strategies like setting daily priorities, establishing boundaries at work, and finding alternative ways to practice self-care without overspending can empower individuals to break free from self-sabotaging patterns.
Tamara Rosier, Ph.D., highlights the behaviors linked to ADHD — procrastination, risk-taking, aiming for perfection, people-pleasing, etc. — that hold us back, and how to interrupt this self-defeating cycle with new habits that lift us up.
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