What makes for a loving relationship that lasts? For over 40 years Drs. John and Julie Gottman have devoted their life to answering this question with the research and practice of fostering healthy, long-lasting relationships. Through studying thousands of couples, publishing over 200 academic articles, more than 40 books on the topic and co-founding the Gottman’s Institute, John and Julie have created interventions to change the way that couples relate to each other to help people succeed in the future of their relationships. In the conversation, John and Julie give me a masterclass in everything there is to know about building long lasting relationships, we cover the four key reasons why relationships fail, communication strategies, rituals to cultivate deeper connection and their latest book The Seven Day Love Prescription which distills their work into a seven-day action plan for deeper intimacy. Enjoy :)Sponsored by Huel - go to https://www.huel.com/deepdive and with your first order you’ll get a free t-shirt and shaker.Sponsored by Trading212 - download Trading212 app and use the promo code "ALI" after signing up and depositing to receive a random free share worth up to £100.Sponsored by Brilliant - visit https://brilliant.org/DeepDive/ and the first 200 of you will get 20% off Brilliant's annual premium subscription.Sponsored by WeWork - visit https://www.we.co/ali and use the code ‘ALI’  at checkout to redeem 50% off your first booking. 📚Check out my New York Times Bestselling book Feel-Good Productivity!AmazonWebsite(00:00) Intro (02:06) Why do we need research about love and relationships? (04:37) Research methodology for analysing couples (06:42) What are the things that predict a relationship will be happy?(07:52) The 4 reasons why relationships fail (16:04) Strategies to overcome anger(18:35) What can people do to overcome conflict in relationships (24:30) Why logic vs emotion is a false dichotomy(33:10) Common mistakes men make in relationships (38:12) Your research into LGBTQ+ relationships (40:18) The biggest difference between men and women in relationships(43:40) Decision making in relationships (48:01) Rituals of connection (51:01) Relationship reviews (56:35) What is the function of marriage?(01:07:31) Is there an ideal age gap? (01:10:44) Relationships therapy and pre-commitment counselling (01:14:12) The love prescription formula(01:26:06) Book writing🔗 CONNECT WITH JOHN AND JULIE📕 The Seven Day Love Prescription 📱 The Gottman Card Decks App 💻 Website 🐦 Twitter 📸 Instagram 🔗 CONNECT WITH ALI📚 Download my FREE 100 Books To Live Your Best Life Reading List🎥 YouTube Channel💻 Website📸  Instagram🐦  Twitter👥 LinkedinFind the show notes and the transcript on the website: https://aliabdaal.com/podcast/Leave a reviewIf you enjoy listening to the podcast, please do leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts - even one line helps! You can also Tweet @AliAbdaal with any feedback, thoughts from the lessons you've learnt from the episodes and we can thank you personally for tuning in 🙏Want to start your own podcast? We use Transistor! https://go.aliabdaal.com/transistor Check out the episode on the Deep Dive YouTube Channel.See privacy policy at https://transistor.fm/privacyCreators & Guests Amber Baxter-Clarke - Producer Ali Abdaal - Host

The single most important thing this episode will teach you is that the greatest investment you can make is in yourself. My guest is Simon Alexander Ong, a personal development entrepreneur, coach and public speaker who has recently published his debut book ‘Energize’ which became an instant bestseller. In the episode we talk about how the power of coaching unlocks human potential, as well as talking through mini coaching session frameworks that you can apply yourself and final how to access the four dimensions of your energetic field so that you can transform your life for the better. Enjoy!Sponsored by Huel - go to https://www.huel.com/deepdive and with your first order you’ll get a free t-shirt and shaker.Sponsored by Trading 212 - download the Trading 212 app https://trading212.com/promocodes/ALI and use the promo code "ALI" after signing up and depositing to receive a random free share worth up to £100. This is not financial advice. Investments can fall and rise. Past performance is no guarantee of future results. Other fees may apply*. Capital is at risk.Sponsored by WeWork - visit https://www.we.co/ali and use the code ‘ALI’  at checkout to redeem 50% off your first booking.📚Check out my New York Times Bestselling book Feel-Good Productivity!Amazon Website (00:00) Intro(01:49) How did you become a coach?(05:59) The practicalities of coaching (13:01) Selling yourself and authenticity(22:52) How does someone figure out what they actually want(31:16) Whats the difference between vision and mission? (32:49) Coaching role play(42:59) The unregulated side of coaching(46:11) Do you recommend coaching as a career path? (53:21) The power of energy(01:00:09) You book: Energise(01:08:38) How to understand consistency (01:15:57) The question of privilege and enjoyment (01:19:49) How does someone become a coach?(01:27:50) Parting thoughts🔗 CONNECT WITH SIMON 💻 Website📸  Instagram🐦  Twitter👥 Linkedin 🔗 CONNECT WITH ALI📚 Download my FREE 100 Books To Live Your Best Life Reading List🎥 YouTube Channel💻 Website📸  Instagram🐦  Twitter👥 LinkedinFind the show notes and the transcript on the website: https://aliabdaal.com/podcast/Leave a reviewIf you enjoy listening to the podcast, please do leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts - even one line helps! You can also Tweet @AliAbdaal with any feedback, thoughts from the lessons you've learnt from the episodes and we can thank you personally for tuning in 🙏Want to start your own podcast? We use Transistor! https://go.aliabdaal.com/transistor Check out the episode on the Deep Dive YouTube Channel.See privacy policy at https://transistor.fm/privacyCreators & Guests Amber Baxter-Clarke - Producer Ali Abdaal - Host

A lot of the time it can feel like we’re living our lives on autopilot, without considering how much or how little our day to day activities actually add value to our lives. But what would happen if you took the time to study your life and figure out what kind of life you want using the magic of intentionality? In this episode I speak to Ryder Carroll, the creator of the bullet journal, about his self-discovery productivity method that helps you organise your thinking around the things that matter to you and ultimately reach your goals. Ryder invented the bullet journal method after being diagnosed with learning disabilities early in life and was forced to figure out alternate ways to be focused and productive. Bullet journalling has now exploded into a global community, used by thousands of people (including me) to effectively track the past, order the present and design the future of their lives. Enjoy!Sponsored by Huel - go to https://www.huel.com/deepdive and with your first order you’ll get a free t-shirt and shaker.Sponsored by Trading 212 - download the Trading 212 app https://trading212.com/promocodes/ALI and use the promo code "ALI" after signing up and depositing to receive a random free share worth up to £100. This is not financial advice. Investments can fall and rise. Past performance is no guarantee of future results. Other fees may apply*. Capital is at risk.Sponsored by WeWork - visit https://www.we.co/ali and use the code ‘ALI’  at checkout to redeem 50% off your first booking.📚Check out my New York Times Bestselling book Feel-Good Productivity!Amazon Website(00:00) Intro (01:52) The bullet journal origin story (03:44) What is the bullet journal method in a nutshell?(06:34) Growing up with ADD (10:30) Building and selling your business (20:16) Finding your most successful productivity tool (23:20) The core principles of the method (34:03) Using intentionality and rituals to organise your time (48:46) The process of migration (54:35) How your daily log works (59:25) Misconceptions about the bullet journal (01:03:50) Turning an idea into your business (01:10:41) How do you feel about the art side of bullet journaling (01:19:13) How did you feel about the kickstarter blowing up?(01:24:54) The writing and design process (01:33:39) Understanding values and anti values (01:39:39) How do you feel about 3-10 year planning? (01:49:16) The bullet journal app (01:52:34) The future of the bullet journal 🔗 CONNECT WITH RYDER 🎥 YouTube Channel 🐦 Twitter 📸 Instagram 💻 Website 🔗 CONNECT WITH ALI📚 Download my FREE 100 Books To Live Your Best Life Reading List🎥 YouTube Channel💻 Website📸  Instagram🐦  Twitter👥 LinkedinFind the show notes and the transcript on the website: https://aliabdaal.com/podcast/Leave a reviewIf you enjoy listening to the podcast, please do leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts - even one line helps! You can also Tweet @AliAbdaal with any feedback, thoughts from the lessons you've learnt from the episodes and we can thank you personally for tuning in 🙏Want to start your own podcast? We use Transistor! https://go.aliabdaal.com/transistorCheck out the episode on the Deep Dive YouTube Channel.See privacy policy at https://transistor.fm/privacyCreators & Guests Amber Baxter-Clarke - Producer Ali Abdaal - Host

If you were to imagine the lifestyle you want and reverse engineer your career from that start point, what would your life look like? How much control do you have over your schedule? What’s your work life balance? What are you known for? This week I sat down for a conversation with one of the most highly requested guests yet, Cal Newport. Cal is a computer science professor at Georgetown University and New York Times bestselling author of seven books including Digital Minimalism and Deep Work where he writes about the intersection of digital technology and culture. In the episode we discuss how to design a career that’s fulfilling to you, the creator business model and how to take control of your productivity in a world where you’re confronted by forces trying to throw you off track. Enjoy!Sponsored by Huel - go to https://www.huel.com/deepdive and with your first order you’ll get a free t-shirt and shaker.Sponsored by Trading 212 - download the Trading 212 app https://trading212.com/promocodes/ALI and use the promo code "ALI" after signing up and depositing to receive a random free share worth up to £100. This is not financial advice. Investments can fall and rise. Past performance is no guarantee of future results. Other fees may apply*. Capital is at risk.Sponsored by WeWork - visit https://www.we.co/ali and use the code ‘ALI’  at checkout to redeem 50% off your first booking. 📚Check out my New York Times Bestselling book Feel-Good Productivity!Amazon Website(00:00) Intro (02:01) How do you approach the word productivity? (05:24) What does a week in your life look like? (13:43) Creator businesses vs academia (27:17) The social status and complexities of careers(33:43) The creatorpreneur lifestyle (43:05) How to design your lifestyle and career(47:18) Book writing (55:59) Contrarian writing (01:07:27) Do you get criticism about Deep Work?(01:11:59) What's your take on toxic productivity? (01:17:09) Personal productivity in corporate jobs doesn't work (01:21:58) What is slow productivity?(01:37:12) What's your note taking method?Creators & Guests Amber Baxter-Clarke - Producer Ali Abdaal - Host 🔗 CONNECT WITH CAL 🎥 YouTube Channel 💻 Website 🐦 Twitter🔗 CONNECT WITH ALI📚 Download my FREE 100 Books To Live Your Best Life Reading List🎥 YouTube Channel💻 Website📸  Instagram🐦  Twitter👥 LinkedinFind the show notes and the transcript on the website: https://aliabdaal.com/podcast/Leave a reviewIf you enjoy listening to the podcast, please do leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts - even one line helps! You can also Tweet @AliAbdaal with any feedback, thoughts from the lessons you've learnt from the episodes and we can thank you personally for tuning in 🙏Want to start your own podcast? We use Transistor! https://go.aliabdaal.com/transistorCheck out the episode on the Deep Dive YouTube Channel.See privacy policy at https://transistor.fm/privacy

Happy New Year! While I’m currently working hard writing my book and getting ready for Season 5 of the podcast which is just around the corner, I thought I’d share with you a bonus episode taken from the livestreams I recorded during lockdown (which aren’t available anywhere else on the internet). This episode is a conversation with Derek Sivers, a writer, musician and entrepreneur who founded CD Baby, an online CD store for independent musicians, back in 1997. He sold CD Baby in 2007 and has since embarked on other ventures including writing 4 books including Anything You Want: 40 Lessons For A New Kind of Entrepreneur - one of the three books that I've listed as changing my life. This is one of my favourite interviews from the livestreams and his advice on book writing felt particularly timely as I sit two years later writing a book of my own. Enjoy :) 📚Check out my New York Times Bestselling book Feel-Good Productivity!Amazon Website (00:45) Background and Career(02:00) Anything You Want Book Discussion(03:00) Writing a Book(07:00) Fear of Plagiarism(09:35) Advice on Writing, Apps and Productivity(16:05) Current Books Being Written(19:00) Building Your Own Store(24:20) Do What Makes You Happy(27:30) Avoid Quoting From Other People(32:50) Identity: Music and Being A Doctor(37:20) Music Theory: Is it really that valuable?(44:45) Musical Originality(46:05) Derek’s Singing Journey(50:15) Ali’s Singing Experiences(53:00) On Making Friends(55:45) What Does Friendship Mean?(59:40) Vulnerability, Exposure and Making Friends(01:07:00) Talking To People On The Phone(01:08:45) The Famous Broadway Musical Composer…(01:13:35) Weird Like Me, Shared Experiences and ‘Burning The Ships’(01:20:00) Connecting With People and Strangers(01:23:20) Replying To Everyone(01:28:30) Replying To People Asking For Advice(01:33:20) Imposter Syndrome(01:35:10) Goal Setting in Life and Business(01:42:45) The Most Powerful Thing to Remember About Goals(01:45:30) Closing Thoughts📝 Live Blog Notion Page🔗 CONNECT WITH DEREK 💻 Website🎙 Podcast 🐦 Twitter📕Anything You Want: 40 Lessons For A New Kind of Entrepreneur📗Hell Yeah or No Your Music and People📘How To Live🔗 CONNECT WITH ALI📚 Download my FREE 100 Books To Live Your Best Life Reading List🎥 YouTube Channel💻 Website📸  Instagram🐦  Twitter👥 LinkedinLeave a reviewIf you enjoy listening to the podcast, please do leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts - even one line helps! You can also Tweet @AliAbdaal with any feedback, thoughts from the lessons you've learnt from the episodes and we can thank you personally for tuning in 🙏Want to start your own podcast? We use Transistor! https://go.aliabdaal.com/transistorCheck out the episode on the Deep Dive YouTube Channel.See privacy policy at https://transistor.fm/privacy

That’s a wrap on S4 of the Deep Dive 🎉 In this episode I look back at some of the key lessons I’ve learned from this season including from conversations with Tara Swart, Alex Hormozi, Russell Foster, Caspar Lee, Timothy Armoo, Matthew Hussey and Lana Blakely. But before I bring this season to a close I have one small favour. At the moment, 81% of people who listen to and watch the the podcast on YouTube aren’t subscribed - I’ve set myself a 2023 goal to bring this number down to 50%. So if you’ve ever liked any of the videos that I make please hit the subscribe button and join the fun. Enjoy!Season 4 Episode 13Sponsored by Heights - go to https://www.yourheights.com and use the code Ali15 at checkout to get an extra 15% off your first quarterly subscription.Sponsored by Shortform - go to https://www.shortform.com/deepdive to get 20% off the annual premium subscription.📚 Download my FREE 100 Books To Live Your Best Life Reading List📚Check out my New York Times Bestselling book Feel-Good Productivity!Amazon Website(00:00) Intro(01:50) Tara Swart: How to improve your brain performance(15:05) Alex Hormozi: How to pay off ignorance debt(27:16) Russell Foster: How to optimise sleep to increase potential(37:29) Caspar Lee: How to break through your comfort zone (45:04) Timothy Armoo: How to gamify business and work (53:21) Mathew Hussey: How to find deep and lasting relationships  (01:07:02) Lana Blakely: How to live more intentionallyFULL EPISODES ⬇️S4 E4 Tara Swart S4 E3 Alex Hormozi S4 E2 Russell FosterS4 E5 Caspar Lee S4 E6 Timothy Armoo S4 E12 Matthew Hussey S4 E9 Lana Blakely🔗 CONNECT WITH ALI🎥 YouTube Channel💻 Website📸  Instagram🐦  Twitter👥 LinkedinFind the show notes and the transcript on the website: https://aliabdaal.com/podcast/Leave a reviewIf you enjoy listening to the podcast, please do leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts - even one line helps! You can also Tweet @AliAbdaal with any feedback, thoughts from the lessons you've learnt from the episodes and we can thank you personally for tuning in 🙏Want to start your own podcast? We use Transistor! https://go.aliabdaal.com/transistorCheck out the episode on the Deep Dive YouTube Channel.See privacy policy at https://transistor.fm/privacy

Author and journalist Oliver Burkeman says that facing our finitude and how little control we have over our lives is key to living a truly fulfilling and meaningfully productive life. With this in mind, in this snippet Oliver explains how to set better goals. Listen to the full episode here 👉 https://open.spotify.com/episode/7yCsfUppC0SMZPiVGnLAeQ?si=Smn2l-TIRmuGcsAb1m-5Nw🔗 CONNECT WITH OLIVER📕 4000 Weeks Time And How To Use It📧 Newsletter💻 Website🐦 Twitter🔗 CONNECT WITH ALI🎥 YouTube Channel🐦 Twitter📸 Instagram💻 Website👥 Linkedin

Now more than ever dating apps seem to be the sole focus of people’s attention as far as finding relationships are concerned. But mostly it’s because it feels like there’s no alternative. So how do you actually break through the two dimensional world of online dating (with it’s ghosting, red flags, icks and all) and start attracting real-life long lasting relationships? In this episode I sit down for a conversation with Matthew Hussey, one of the worlds leading dating experts and New York Times Bestselling author who has helped over 10 million people get the love life of their dreams. In the episode we start by discussing how Matthew found himself in the world of dating and relationships before uncovering his formulas for getting over the fear of approaching someone in-person, understanding the components of deep and lasting attraction and attracting true love that lasts well beyond the honeymoon phase. Enjoy!Sponsored by Heights - go to https://www.yourheights.com and use the code Ali15 at checkout to get an extra 15% off your first quarterly subscription.Sponsored by Shortform - go to https://www.shortform.com/deepdive to get 20% off the annual premium subscription.Sponsored by Skillshare - go to https://www.skillshare.com/deepdive to get your 1 month FREE trial. 📚Check out my New York Times Bestselling book Feel-Good Productivity!Amazon Website (00:00) Intro (01:39) Becoming a dating coach (05:51) Your breakthrough at the Tony Robbins event(13:13) Getting into public speaking (19:59) Stealing like an artist, fears and taking risks (32:31) Rewriting myths about dating & the handkerchief metaphor (40:49) Modern day handkerchiefs (44:33) Two hit theory(53:06) Stages of deep and lasting attraction (01:02:55) The importance of compatibility(01:08:21) Is there a difference between dating advice for men and women?(01:21:55) Your advantages can become your weaknesses (01:34:10) How much is attraction a choice? (01:44:21) Long term relationships & the honeymoon phase🔗 CONNECT WITH MATTHEW 🎥 YouTube Channel💻 Website📸  Instagram🐦  Twitter💌 Find Your Dating Solution Here💪 Discover How To Move On After Heartbreak 🔗 CONNECT WITH ALI📚 Download my FREE 100 Books To Live Your Best Life Reading List🎥 YouTube Channel💻 Website📸  Instagram🐦  Twitter👥 LinkedinFind the show notes and the transcript on the website: https://aliabdaal.com/podcast/Leave a reviewIf you enjoy listening to the podcast, please do leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts - even one line helps! You can also Tweet @AliAbdaal with any feedback, thoughts from the lessons you've learnt from the episodes and we can thank you personally for tuning in 🙏Want to start your own podcast? We use Transistor! https://go.aliabdaal.com/transistorCheck out the episode on the Deep Dive YouTube Channel.See privacy policy at https://transistor.fm/privacy

In these Deep Dive Snippets, I'll be sharing some of my favourite moments from past episodes of the podcast.Whether we like it or not we have subconscious underlying motives for everything we do, and most of it comes down to status. In this snippet, Will Storr author of The Status Game explains how people both measure and claim status. Listen to the full episode here 👉 https://open.spotify.com/episode/76kwNrHOUErPb27FO5qwUU?si=x6hJK_RiTZuPxR72Jcz-HQ 🔗 CONNECT WITH WILL 💻 Website🐦 Twitter📕 The Status Game by Will Storr🔗 CONNECT WITH ALI🎥 YouTube Channel💻 Website📸  Instagram🐦  Twitter

Matteo Franceschetti and Alexandra Zatarain are the co-founded Eight Sleep, the world’s first ever sleep fitness company. They’re on a mission to fuel human potential through optimal sleep with their product the Pod - a sensor layer that tracks and improves your sleep by dynamically heating or cooling the temperature of your bed based on your sleep stages. Matteo grew up in Italy and started his career as a Lawyer but soon quit his job at a law firm when his first business started to take off. Alex grew up in Tijuana and was named as one of Forbes 30 Under 30 in 2017. She met Matteo in San Fransisco and left her job in New York to join Matteo’s company and later develop the smart mattresses as Eight Sleep. Through backing and funding Eight Sleep is now worth $500 million and is currently used by pro athletes and top performers across multiple industries and was recognized as one of TIME's Best Inventions. In the conversation we talk about how to take care of your sleep through exercise, nutrition and thermoregulation, their experiences building the first ever sleep fitness company and advice for entrepreneurs. Enjoy! Sponsored by Heights - go to https://www.yourheights.com and use the code Ali15 at checkout to get an extra 15% off your first quarterly subscription.Sponsored by Shortform - go to https://www.shortform.com/deepdive to get 20% off the annual premium subscription.📚Check out my New York Times Bestselling book Feel-Good Productivity!Amazon Website(00:00) Disclaimer (00:22) Intro (02:07) Your background and 8Sleep origin story(18:20) The 80/20 of sleep (31:39) What is thermoregulation?(34:34) The 80/20 of exercise (37:40) The 80/20 of nutrition(40:48) What is sleep fitness?(44:37) How do your devices detect illness?(52:01) There’s a billion people in the world with sleep apnea(58:39) The stages of sleep and why they matter(01:07:00) The 8sleep pod 3 cover  (01:08:48) How is HRV reflective of stress?(01:17:56) Tips for aspiring entrepreneurs(01:29:05) What makes an A-player?(01:35:05) Leadership advice(01:37:55) Going into business with your spouse(01:41:33) Book recommendations🔗 CONNECT WITH MATTEO & ALEX 🎁 Matteo and Alex have generously offered $250 off the Pod 3 Cover with the code DEEPDIVE250, offer ends 31/12/23. 🎥 YouTube Channel💻 Website📸  Instagram🐦  Twitter🔗 CONNECT WITH ALI🔔 Sign up to my Camera Confidence Course🎥 YouTube Channel💻 Website📸  Instagram🐦  Twitter👥 LinkedinFind the show notes and the transcript on the website: https://aliabdaal.com/podcast/Leave a reviewIf you enjoy listening to the podcast, please do leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts - even one line helps! You can also Tweet @AliAbdaal with any feedback, thoughts from the lessons you've learnt from the episodes and we can thank you personally for tuning in 🙏Want to start your own podcast? We use Transistor! https://go.aliabdaal.com/transistorCheck out the episode on the Deep Dive YouTube Channel.See privacy policy at https://transistor.fm/privacy