This book focuses on the concept of 'non-neediness' and emphasizes the importance of honesty in relationships. It advises men to be genuine, vulnerable, and true to themselves, rather than trying to impress women through manipulative tactics. The book is divided into sections such as 'Honest Living,' 'Honest Action,' and 'Honest Communication,' and it provides practical advice on overcoming anxiety, developing true confidence, and polarizing women to determine their interest. It also stresses the importance of self-investment and living a life that aligns with one's true values and desires.
In 'Get the Guy,' Matthew Hussey provides a comprehensive guide to help women navigate the complexities of dating and relationships. The book is divided into three main sections: 'Find the Guy,' 'Get the Guy,' and 'Keep the Guy.' It emphasizes the importance of proactive approaches to finding love, such as creating conversations and engaging in daily social interactions. Hussey also discusses the 'Attraction Formula,' the art of creating great dates, and strategies for maintaining a long-lasting relationship. The book encourages women to raise their standards, cultivate desirable traits, and adopt a mindset of abundance rather than scarcity in their love lives.
In 'Superfans,' Pat Flynn outlines a process to transform casual followers into dedicated superfans. The book emphasizes the importance of creating memorable experiences and building strong connections with your audience. It is divided into four parts: moving from a casual audience to an active audience, from an active audience to a connected community, from a connected community to superfans, and avoiding the pitfalls of building superfans. Flynn draws from his own experiences and those of other entrepreneurs to illustrate how to create a loyal and engaged community that will support your business over time.
In this book, Esther Perel explores the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, arguing that our cultural penchant for equality, togetherness, and absolute candor can be antithetical to erotic desire. Drawing on more than twenty years of experience as a couples therapist, Perel uses case studies and lively discussions to demonstrate how more exciting, playful, and poetic sex is possible in long-term relationships. She emphasizes the importance of maintaining independence, mystery, and the space between self and other to sustain desire.
First published in 1936, 'How to Win Friends and Influence People' by Dale Carnegie is a timeless guide to improving interpersonal skills. The book is divided into four main sections: Six Ways to Make People Like You, Twelve Ways to Win People to Your Way of Thinking, and Nine Ways to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment. Carnegie's principles emphasize the importance of genuine interest in others, active listening, and avoiding criticism and argument. The book offers practical advice on how to build strong relationships, communicate effectively, and influence others by aligning their self-interest with yours. It has been a cornerstone of personal development and business success for generations[2][3][5].
Now more than ever dating apps seem to be the sole focus of people’s attention as far as finding relationships are concerned. But mostly it’s because it feels like there’s no alternative. So how do you actually break through the two dimensional world of online dating (with it’s ghosting, red flags, icks and all) and start attracting real-life long lasting relationships? In this episode I sit down for a conversation with Matthew Hussey, one of the worlds leading dating experts and New York Times Bestselling author who has helped over 10 million people get the love life of their dreams. In the episode we start by discussing how Matthew found himself in the world of dating and relationships before uncovering his formulas for getting over the fear of approaching someone in-person, understanding the components of deep and lasting attraction and attracting true love that lasts well beyond the honeymoon phase. Enjoy!
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(00:00) Intro
(01:39) Becoming a dating coach
(05:51) Your breakthrough at the Tony Robbins event
(13:13) Getting into public speaking
(19:59) Stealing like an artist, fears and taking risks
(32:31) Rewriting myths about dating & the handkerchief metaphor
(40:49) Modern day handkerchiefs
(44:33) Two hit theory
(53:06) Stages of deep and lasting attraction
(01:02:55) The importance of compatibility
(01:08:21) Is there a difference between dating advice for men and women?
(01:21:55) Your advantages can become your weaknesses
(01:34:10) How much is attraction a choice?
(01:44:21) Long term relationships & the honeymoon phase
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