In this episode of Relating to Self, I have a conversation with Mary Bajorek.Mary guides professionals through transition points in their careers towards feeling agentic, confident, and capable so that their work can become aligned with who they are and the impact they want to make in the world. You can follow her on Twitter/X.Topics mentioned in the episode:Relating to self and the importance of relationships with othersSelf-love and spending time with oneselfIdentity, autonomy, and connectionExploring and understanding different parts within oneselfEmotions and the importance of acknowledging and understanding themAutonomy and making decisions for one's present selfBuilding intimacy with oneself and accepting all partsThe concept of 'nothing days' and indulging in leisure activitiesPrioritizing self-love and self-care, setting boundariesAuthentic expression and exploring emotionsManaging difficult emotions through writing and self-reflectionHolding space for intense emotions in oneself and othersThe value of experiencing a range of emotions in lifeNuanced understanding of emotions and connecting with the bodyPractices for improving the relationship with oneselfIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, I have a conversation with Elena LakeElena transitioned from a career in mathematics and physics to bodywork, massage therapy, and being a forest spirit.You can follow her on Twitter/X.Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode:The importance of self-trust and enjoying one's own companyGrowth in accurately witnessing oneselfThe process of unlearningThe realization of unmet emotional needsPursuing a more holistic lifeThe power of a good question in self-discoveryElena's journey into the body and embodimentBodywork and its benefitsLearning and teaching through feelingThe inner dialogue and its relation to bodyworkFulfilling the primal need for attachment through natureRelationship with nature and the forestIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, I have a conversation with Bryan Kam.Bryan is a philosopher and writer, exploring the history of ideas, amongst other things. He has a podcast called Clerestory, works for the British Library, and is an InterIntellect Fellow. You can also follow him on Twitter/X. Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode:Relating to Self, the mundane, and identityThe role of the observer and the inner voicesMeditation and the concentration states called "Jhanas"The influence of meditation on Bryan's relating to selfNoting practicesThe breaking down of the Ego"Faking it" and authenticityImprov, performance and responsivenessCommunication as collaborationAliveness and playful statesThe importance of compassion (for the self)What happens when you stub your toeThe meaning of "spirituality"Compassionate practicesWhat about free will?Changing perspectivesInternal Family Systems and Bryan's MuseOn inspiration and creationOn coherence, multitudes, and cognitive dissonanceThe ability to tolerate high uncertaintyHume and the stable selfThe enjoyment of not knowing and the beginner's mindsetIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

Richard D. Bartlett, co-founder of tech co-op Loomio and director of Enspiral, shares insights on building high-trust communities. He discusses the complexities of identity shaped by communal beliefs and the importance of nurturing relationships. Richard explores vulnerability, grace, and the balance between our human and animal instincts. He emphasizes non-attachment to outcomes and the significance of meeting people where they are. Ultimately, he frames personal growth as a communal journey, filled with compassion and optimism even in tough times.

In this episode of Relating to Self, I have a conversation with Helena Roth.Helena Roth wrote the book Doing Gentle with an Edge and leads the project tankespjärn.You can read her thoughts on Twitter.Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode:what does Relating to Self mean to Helena?the sense of returning to Selfhealing by getting out of your own waywhat does that mean for trauma?the voices in our headwho's in the driver's seat?dependent, independent, interdependent?how to find your tribeasking for what you needHelena's edge - tankespjärna challenge a day makes for a good daythe idea of cross-pollinationthe difficulty of relating to self around and with othersIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

This is a bonus episode that is not really about Relating to Self.My friend Bryan Kam and I have been experimenting with a new podcast format.An epistolary of sorts, in which we send each other voice notes.In this episode, we explore beauty, quality, and esthetic enjoyment.Sit back and relax while listening to Bryan and me exploring our thoughts on the subject.This bonus episode is the second epistolary we have published.You can find the first one on Bryan's podcast Clerestory:Joachim & Bryan on choice, desire, and purposeFollow Bryan's podcast Celerestory here.Or read more about his work on his website:https://bryankam.com

In this episode of Relating to Self, Mary Lemmer (S02E01) comes back to ask Joachim all the things she wants to know about how he relates to himself.Mary Lemmer brings joy to empowering people to improve themselves and the world around them. She believes that improvisation is a practice that can lead to a better relationship with yourself. Mary is the founder of Improve, a company that improves people’s lives by using techniques inspired by improv comedy and behavioral research. Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode:What does Relating to Self mean to Joachim?"Yes, and...". What is the "and" of Relating to Self?Relating to Self while out in the world, what is helpful?What we can and can't controlHow to act when triggeredIs it possible to know too much about oneself?Compassion, compassion, compassionContradictory desires and how to navigate themRelating to Self while in a family or partnershipsRelationship role models and outward thinkingThe shifting of community and friendshipsLoneliness And some fun rapid-fire questions 🔥If you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, Joachim speaks with Meg Pagani who when relating to self sits with her Council of 12.Meg is an entrepreneur, speaker, and impact strategist. She writes and teaches about power, leadership, and the Way of NatureYou can find Meg and her work here:https://www.megpagani.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/margheritamegpagani/https://www.instagram.com/meg_pagani/Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode:Relating to self firstThe practice of pausing and choosingThe practice of silenceChecking where the energy isPrevious and future versions of the selfThe Council of 12The Way of the ForestThe adult self vs the mature selfEverything is a story and relates to the selfAll stories are wrong, some stories are usefulDifferent interpretations of the same storyRelating to the mundaneThe parts we hold in shameIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, Joachim speaks with Ana Zarzosa for whom success in relating to self means getting comfortable with the crap too.Ana is a yoga teacher and a project manager for the biotech industry.You can find Ana and her work here:https://www.instagram.com/az.yogahttps://www.linkedin.com/in/ana-zarzosa/Ana's YouTube Yoga channelTopics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode:Relating to Self as permanent change, and not always upHow to get out of negative or violent self-talk, out of necessityDiscipline and commitments vs. flowUsing fiction to examine difficult questionsDreaming as a practice for alivenessAnd much more!If you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, Joachim speaks with Asmaa who relates to herself by slowing down and creating a supportive community.Asmaa Guedira is a Moroccon-born, French-adopted, queer digital nomad who works as a catalyst, facilitator, consultant, artist, writer, and designer.You can find Asmaa and her work here:http://www.asmaaguedira.com/https://www.instagram.com/asguedhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/asmaaguedirahttps://twitter.com/asguedTopics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode:Community and Relating to SelfMeditation and other ways into compassionthe importance of aweSlowing down as a practiceAsking for helpDoing the workBuilding trust and confidenceArt as a practiceIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter