Death on the Daily

I am joined today by Kayleigh O'Connor, Holistic Grief Coach and founder of Good Grief where she trains other grief coaches including me. We explore the complexities of grief, focusing on the our patterns of avoidance, what we can and can’t control, and the impact of secondary losses. We discuss the role of the nervous system in processing grief and the significance of connecting to and expanding our sense of safety in our body as we navigate grief. Emphasising self-compassion and the ongoing journey of grief, encouraging you to validate your feelings and take gentle steps forwards with grief as a part of you. TakeawaysWe often have unrealistic expectations of ourselves during grief.Avoidance can manifest in various ways, including overworking and numbing.It's essential to validate where you are in your grief journey.Taking back control can start with small, manageable steps.Secondary losses are often overlooked but are significant in the grieving process.The nervous system plays a crucial role in how we experience grief.Finding safety in our environment can help regulate our nervous system.Self-compassion is vital in navigating grief and loss.Grief is not linear; it requires ongoing attention and care.It's okay to seek help and support in your grief journey.Disclaimer: This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional advice. Nor is it a substitute for professional support. Follow Death on the Daily:Do Like, Comment & Subscribe to this channel  @deathonthedaily  Share this episode with a friend who might need it. Subscribe to my Substack: https://open.substack.com/pub/deathonthedaily/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/death_onthedailyYouTube: http://youtube.com/@deathonthedailyFind out about my work as a Grief Coach and connect with me here: https://www.tanyawilkinson.co.ukYou can connect with Kayleigh O’Connor here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/goodgrief_uk/Holistic Grief Coach certification which is enrolling now for January 2026: https://good-grief.mykajabi.com/holistic-grief-coach-certification-septemberWebsite: https://good-grief.co.uk This episode is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.comThe theme music for Death on the Daily is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Set Free by Katie Gray⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, which is used with artist's permission. You can connect with Katie and her music and beautiful Empowered Heart work here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.katiegray.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Chapters00:00: Intro and theme02:26: The Journey of Grief and Avoidance11:06: Taking Back Control in Grief15:29: Navigating Secondary Losses22:35: The Role of the Nervous System in Grief32:15: Finding Safety and Presence in Grief

Let's talk about the profound impact of grief on Liverpool FC following the tragic death of Diogo Jota. Speaking to the individual and collective experiences of grief within the team, the emotional responses of players and fans, and the challenges of performing when we're grieving. The discussion emphasizes the importance of understanding grief as a universal experience that affects performance and team dynamics, advocating for compassion and support in navigating these difficult emotions.Key takeaways: * Grief affects every part of a connected system.* Each person's grief experience is unique.* Grief is not just sadness; it's a full body response.* Professional athletes face challenges in performance due to grief.* Grief doesn't have a set timeline for healing.* Collective grief can shift team dynamics and morale.* Fans also experience grief and can honor their loss collectively.* Organizations need to support grieving individuals effectively.* Grief can lead to identity shifts and changes in priorities.* Compassion and understanding are crucial in the grieving process.Disclaimer: This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional advice. Nor is it a substitute for professional support. Follow Death on the Daily:Do Like, Comment & Subscribe to this channel  @deathonthedaily  Share this episode with a friend who might need it. Subscribe to my Substack: https://open.substack.com/pub/deathonthedaily/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/death_onthedailyYouTube: http://youtube.com/@deathonthedailyFind out about my work as a Grief Coach and connect with me here: https://www.tanyawilkinson.co.ukThe theme music for Death on the Daily is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Set Free by Katie Gray⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, which is used with artist's permission. You can connect with Katie and her music and beautiful Empowered Heart work here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.katiegray.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Chapters00:00: The Impact of Grief on Liverpool FC04:35: Individual vs. Collective Grief10:21: Fans in Collective Grief12:19: Understanding Grief in Sports and Beyond

In this episode of 'Death on the Daily', Tanya Wilkinson discusses the challenges of navigating grief during the holiday season. She shares her personal experiences and offers practical tips for coping with grief during Christmas, emphasizing the importance of self-compassion, setting boundaries, and creating new rituals. Tanya encourages listeners to honor their feelings and prioritize self-care, reminding them that they are not alone in their grief journey. The episode concludes with an invitation to join the Grief Cocoon, a supportive community for those dealing with loss.TakeawaysFeeling lonely during the holidays is normal.Each person's grief is unique and should be honored.It's okay to set boundaries with friends and family.Creating new rituals can help honor loved ones.Self-care is essential during the holiday season.Perfection is not the goal; presence is.Communicate your needs to your support system.Grief can resurface unexpectedly, even during celebrations.Join supportive communities to share your grief journey.It's important to give yourself grace during tough times.Disclaimer: This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional advice. Nor is it a substitute for professional support. Follow Death on the Daily:Do Like, Comment & Subscribe to this channel  @deathonthedaily  Share this episode with a friend who might need it. Subscribe to my Substack: https://open.substack.com/pub/deathonthedaily/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/death_onthedailyYouTube: http://youtube.com/@deathonthedailyFind out about my work as a Grief Coach and connect with me here: https://www.tanyawilkinson.co.ukThis episode is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.comThe theme music for Death on the Daily is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Set Free by Katie Gray⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, which is used with artist's permission. You can connect with Katie and her music and beautiful Empowered Heart work here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.katiegray.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Chapters00:00: Introduction: Navigating Grief During the Holidays02:43: Practical Tips for Surviving Christmas05:32: Setting Boundaries and Building Support08:48: Creating New Rituals and Traditions11:36: Self-Care and Embracing Imperfection14:26: Conclusion and Invitation to Grief Cocoon

Today I’m joined by Jamie Thrower, who is a Queer death doula, educator, and founder of Queer Grief Club. We explore what it really means to show up at the threshold of death, and why so many grief spaces still don’t feel safe or welcoming for Queer people.This episode is for anyone who has ever grieved, ever supported someone through loss, or ever wondered how we can build a world where everyone including the Queer community are held in death and grief with dignity, compassion, care and belonging.Key takeaways: How death care is community care.Why Queer death & grief is often unsupported in our systems. The importance of finding community and care with shared lived experience. What true presence looks like at the end of life. The awe, tenderness and connection that can exist during the dying process. How connecting into nature can be a beautiful gateway to being present with death. The power of paperwork and advocacy in protecting queer people at end of life. Disclaimer: This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional advice. Nor is it a substitute for professional support. Follow Death on the Daily:* Do Like, Comment & Subscribe to this channel  @deathonthedaily  * Share this episode with a friend who might need it. * Subscribe to my Substack: https://open.substack.com/pub/deathonthedaily/* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/death_onthedaily * YouTube: http://youtube.com/@deathonthedaily * Find out about my work as a Grief Coach and connect with me here: https://www.tanyawilkinson.co.ukYou can connect with Jamie Thrower here: * Website: https://www.jamiethrower.com* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queergriefclub/* Etsy store: https://www.etsy.com/shop/QueerGriefClub* Substack: https://jamiethrower.substack.comThis episode is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.comThe theme music for Death on the Daily is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Set Free by Katie Gray⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, which is used with artist's permission. You can connect with Katie and her music and beautiful Empowered Heart work here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.katiegray.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Chapters:00:00: Intro and welcome to Death on the Daily02:00: Welcome Jamie Thrower. Childhood loss and discovering mortality early08:05: Ordinary moments that become extraordinary at the end10:25: How to show up for someone who is dying14:05: Pushing through the fear and discomfort of death21:55: Why kids and adults benefit from being included in death24:40: The intersections of identity in grief - harm within the medical system29:55: The loneliness of trying to grieve in spaces not built for Queer families32:05: Why Queer specific grief spaces matter35:05: Paperwork, agency and protecting queer people at the end of life43:20: Death care as community care

Today we explore the multifaceted nature of anger experienced during grief. How anger can manifest towards various entities, including oneself, loved ones, and even spiritual beliefs. Speaking to the complexity of unresolved feelings related to loss and the emotional turmoil that accompanies the grieving process.Sign up to my newsletter to receive your FREE Grief, Grace & Growth 12 page ebook journal: https://tanyawilkinson.co.uk/grief-grace-growth-journalTakeaways:Anger in grief can be directed at oneself and others.Frustration often arises from unmet expectations in support networks.Anger can be aimed at healthcare providers involved in care.Spiritual beliefs can influence feelings of anger and injustice.Unresolved past situations can exacerbate feelings of anger.The feeling of loss can lead to anger towards the deceased.Grief can evoke a sense of injustice that fuels anger.Expressing anger is a natural part of the grieving process.Understanding the sources of anger can aid in healing.Navigating grief requires acknowledging complex emotions.Disclaimer: This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional advice. Nor is it a substitute for professional support. Follow Death on the Daily:* Do Like, Comment & Subscribe to this channel @deathonthedaily * Share this episode with a friend who might need it. * Subscribe to my Substack: https://open.substack.com/pub/deathonthedaily/* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/death_onthedaily * YouTube: http://youtube.com/@deathonthedaily * Find out about my work as a Grief Coach and connect with me here: https://www.tanyawilkinson.co.ukThis episode is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.comThe theme music for Death on the Daily is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Set Free by Katie Gray⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, which is used with artist's permission. You can connect with Katie and her music and beautiful Empowered Heart work here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.katiegray.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Feeling anger rise? Wish you could hold it gently instead of letting it control you? In this guided meditation, we visualise your anger as a flame. Bringing gentle awareness, containment and transformation. We’ll breathe in to contain the flame, then breathe out and invite the flame to illuminate the path ahead, rather than burn uncontrolled. Ending this meditation with gratitude, so that you can see anger is a part of you, but not all of you. This meditation supports work with anger, grief, difficult emotions and mindful emotional regulation. Offering compassion, presence and a way forward.Use this meditation when:* You notice anger rising and want to respond rather than react* You’re navigating grief and find anger surfacing in the loss* You feel stuck in your anger emotion and are ready to transform it* You want to find presence with anger, plus connect into gratitudes in the presentAre you journeying with grief? Download my FREE Grief, Grace & Growth journaling ebook here: https://tanyawilkinson.co.uk/newsletter Disclaimer: This content is for entertainment and informational purposes only and does not constitute medical, psychological, or therapeutic advice.This practice invites gentle awareness of grief and sadness, which may bring up strong emotions. Before you begin, check in with yourself and see whether it feels right for you to do this meditation today. You know yourself best - trust what feels right for you.This meditation is not a substitute for professional mental health care. Follow Death on the Daily:* Do Like, Comment & Subscribe to this channel @deathonthedaily * Share this meditation with a friend who might need it. * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/death_onthedaily * YouTube: http://youtube.com/@deathonthedaily This meditation is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.comThis meditation might be helpful if you are looking for tools related to: guided meditation for anger, mindfulness & difficult emotions, grief and anger, emotional regulation meditation, let go of anger, visualisation meditation, healing from loss & anger.

In this episode of Death on the Daily, I (Tanya Wilkinson) share my personal experiences with baby loss - sharing what I wish I had known. Including importance of recognising yourself as a mother if you wish to, understanding that partners may grieve differently, and the significance of rituals in the healing process. Emphasising the need for open communication, advocating for care, and accepting the ongoing nature of grief. I hope that this episode can be your compassionate guide if you are experiencing baby loss, pregnancy loss, miscarriage - providing you with practical and emotional support and understanding at this tender time.Sign up to my newsletter to receive your FREE Grief, Grace & Growth 12 page ebook journal: https://tanyawilkinson.co.uk/grief-grace-growth-journalTakeawaysYou are a mother, regardless of the circumstances of baby loss.Partners may grieve differently, leading to feelings of isolation.There may not be clear answers to why baby loss occurs. It’s important to not blame yourself. Rituals can provide comfort and a way to honour your baby / babies.Advocating for your care is essential during the medical and grieving process.The emotional and physical effects of baby loss can be overwhelming.It's normal for some things to continue feeling difficult after loss.Grief is a nonlinear journey with ebbs and flows.Support networks are crucial in navigating grief.You are not alone; many share similar experiences of loss.Disclaimer: This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional advice. Nor is it a substitute for professional support. Follow Death on the Daily:* Do Subscribe to this channel and leave a rating - this helps me so much to reach new people * Share this episode with a friend who might need it. * Subscribe to my Substack: https://open.substack.com/pub/deathonthedaily/* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/death_onthedaily * YouTube: http://youtube.com/@deathonthedaily * Find out about my work as a Grief Coach and connect with me here: https://www.tanyawilkinson.co.ukThis episode is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.comThe theme music for Death on the Daily is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Set Free by Katie Gray⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, which is used with artist's permission. You can connect with Katie and her music and beautiful Empowered Heart work here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.katiegray.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Chapters00:00: Understanding Baby Loss and Grief01:58: The Journey of Motherhood Through Loss04:50: Navigating Grief with Partners08:05: Seeking Answers in Loss10:56: The Importance of Rituals in Healing13:50: Advocating for Your Care17:06: The Emotional and Physical Impact of Loss19:59: Supporting Others Through Grief22:47: The Nonlinear Nature of Grief

Pregnancy loss, miscarriage and baby loss are heartbreakingly common and yet, so often, they’re met with silence, shame and a lack of real support. In this powerful and deeply honest conversation, I’m joined by Katie Rose, a Pregnancy Loss & Miscarriage Doula, who shares her own story of miscarriage and how it led her to support others through theirs.With me also having experienced miscarriage at 6 weeks of pregnancy, followed by a TFMR at 21 weeks pregnancy, we unpack the things people don’t talk about enough. From the physical, emotional, and spiritual impact of early loss to the grief that lingers long after the world has moved on. We also talk about power. About how loss can be a portal into deeper sovereignty, identity and inner wisdom - if we’re met with the right kind of care and empowering support.Whether you’ve experienced baby loss yourself, if you’re supporting someone who has, or want to understand this very common but still so unspoken topic so that we can create a more compassionate world - this episode is for you.Are you journeying with grief? Sign up to my newsletter to receive your FREE Grief, Grace & Growth 12 page ebook journal: ⁠https://tanyawilkinson.co.uk/grief-grace-growth-journalKey Takeaways:A mother is forever changed by the life she carries.Baby loss can be honored as a sacred transition.Grief can lead to personal transformation and empowerment.The role of a miscarriage doula is to support mothers through loss.Cultural perspectives on grief can influence healing.Time and space are essential for recovery after loss.Community support is crucial for grieving mothers.Triggers can arise unexpectedly during the grieving process.Self-care is vital in reclaiming one's sovereignty after loss.Every stage of pregnancy loss, including early miscarriage still makes you a mother.Disclaimer: This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional advice. Nor is it a substitute for professional support. Follow Death on the Daily:* Do Like, Comment & Subscribe to this channel  @deathonthedaily  * Share this episode with a friend who might need it. * Subscribe to my Substack: https://open.substack.com/pub/deathonthedaily/* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/death_onthedaily * YouTube: http://youtube.com/@deathonthedaily * Find out about my work as a Grief Coach and connect with me here: https://www.tanyawilkinson.co.ukYou can connect with Katie Rose and find out about her Pregnancy Loss & Miscarriage Doula services, grief circles, death meditations and other offerings here: * https://www.instagram.com/katie.rose.doula/* https://www.katierosedoula.comThis episode is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.comThe theme music for Death on the Daily is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Set Free by Katie Gray⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, which is used with artist's permission. You can connect with Katie and her music and beautiful Empowered Heart work here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.katiegray.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Chapters00:00: Introduction and titles02:34: Understanding the Role of a Miscarriage Doula08:47: The Emotional and Physical Journey of Grief16:39: Cultural Perspectives on Grief and Loss23:34: Reclaiming Sovereignty in the Face of Loss30:33: Navigating Triggers and Healing37:57: Creating a Supportive Community for Grieving Mothers43:59: Empowerment Through Self-Care and Sovereignty

In this episode of 'Death on the Daily', I (Tanya Wilkinson) am exploring the transformative power of grief and how it can serve as a catalyst for personal growth and change. Sharing five gentle practices to navigate grief, emphasising the importance of journaling, creating rituals, and expanding comfort zones. I hope that this episode will encourage you to compassionately and gently connect with your grief, recognise any messages that it’s sharing, and celebrate your growth through the process.TakeawaysGrief can be a catalyst for significant life changes.Transformation is permanent change - letting go of the old.Journaling can provide clarity and insight during grief.Creating rituals can help connect with lost loved ones.Expanding comfort zones is essential for personal growth.Celebrating small wins can boost motivation and morale towards our growth.Grief is unique and nonlinear for each individual.Intentions should be written as if they have already happened.It's important to check in with your grief regularly.Meeting yourself where you are is crucial in the healing process.Disclaimer: This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional advice. Nor is it a substitute for professional support. Follow Death on the Daily:* Do Like, Comment & Subscribe to this channel  @deathonthedaily  * Share this episode with a friend who might need it. * Subscribe to my Substack: https://open.substack.com/pub/deathonthedaily/* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/death_onthedaily * YouTube: http://youtube.com/@deathonthedaily This episode is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.comThe theme music for Death on the Daily is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Set Free by Katie Gray⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, which is used with artist's permission. You can connect with Katie and her music and beautiful Empowered Heart work here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.katiegray.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Chapters: 00:00: Embracing Grief as a Catalyst for Change02:20: Navigating Grief: Five Gentle Practices05:09: Awareness and Intentions in Grief08:00L Creating Rituals for Connection11:21: Expanding Comfort Zones Through Grief14:15: Celebrating Growth and Transformation

Welcome to this 10 minute guided meditation for grief and sadness. If you're moving through loss, emotional pain, or simply feeling heavy today, this practice offers you a space to pause, breathe, and meet yourself exactly where you are - with compassion and grace.There is no one right way to grieve - and no wrong way to feel. You are welcome here, just as you are. Let yourself be held in this moment. Let your grief be what it is. And know that you're not alone.In this meditation, you'll be gently guided to:Connect with your body and breathAcknowledge grief without needing to fix itNotice where grief is present in your bodyOffer yourself presence, softness, and acceptanceDisclaimer: This content is for entertainment and informational purposes only and does not constitute medical, psychological, or therapeutic advice.This practice invites gentle awareness of grief and sadness, which may bring up strong emotions. Before you begin, check in with yourself and see whether it feels right for you to do this meditation today. You know yourself best - trust what feels right for you.This meditation is not a substitute for professional mental health care. Are you journeying with grief? Download my FREE Grief, Grace & Growth journaling ebook here: https://tanyawilkinson.co.uk/newsletter Follow & Support Death on the Daily:Do Like, Comment & Subscribe to this channel  @deathonthedaily  Share this episode with a friend who might need it. Subscribe to my Substack: https://open.substack.com/pub/deathonthedaily/ Buy me a coffee and support the production of this free podcast: https://buymeacoffee.com/tanyawilkinson Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/death_onthedaily  Find out about my work including as a grief coach: www.tanyawilkinson.co.uk YouTube: http://youtube.com/@deathonthedaily, This meditation is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.comThis meditation might be helpful if you are looking for tools related to: grief support, emotional healing, guided meditation for loss, mindfulness for sadness, accepting difficult emotions, and creating space for yourself during tough times.