Death on the Daily Why avoiding grief makes it worse
In this episode I explore why avoiding grief can feel more overwhelming than actually allowing ourselves to feel it - especially in busy, modern lives.
I share how grief avoidance can be deeply dysregulating to the nervous system, activating our fight, flight, or freeze response - and why this makes grief feel even heavier over time.
Drawing from my personal experience of baby loss as a bereaved mother, as well as in my grief coaching work, I offer a gentle, practical approach to creating space for grief - even when time feels scarce.
You’ll be guided through a simple four-step “Grief Cocoon” practice designed to help you feel, process, and tend to your grief in as little as 5 minutes a day.
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Takeaways
- Grief can be more dysregulating when avoided than when faced.
- Creating space for grief is essential for processing emotions.
- Societal conditioning often leads to the avoidance of grief.
- Naming feelings helps in moving grief from the amygdala to the prefrontal cortex.
- Listening to our needs during grief is crucial for self-care.
- Cocooning in grief allows for transformation and healing.
- There is no timeline for grief; it's a personal journey.
- Practicing self-care can support our nervous system during grief.
- Engaging in rituals can help in processing grief.
- Being present with grief can deepen our connections and purpose.
Disclaimer: This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional advice. Nor is it a substitute for professional support.
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This episode is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.com
The theme music for Death on the Daily is Set Free by Katie Gray, which is used with artist's permission.
You can connect with Katie and her music and beautiful Empowered Heart work here https://www.katiegray.com
Chapters:
00:00: Navigating Grief in a Busy World
05:57: Creating Your Grief Cocoon
12:05: The Journey of Grief and Healing