

Confidently Insecure
Kelsey Darragh
the podcast where we're absolutely sure we don't know everything
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Sep 22, 2025 • 30min
💊The Dopamine Trap: Love, Addiction & Creativity!💊
In this episode, I’m diving into the brain chemical that rules our lives: dopamine. Pulling from Dr. Anna Lembke’s Dopamine Nation, Andrew Huberman’s research on addiction, and the book The Molecule of More, we’ll cover:✨ Why dopamine isn’t about happiness—it’s about wanting more✨ How love, sex, drugs, and TikTok all hijack the same system✨ Why the honeymoon phase feels like a drug… and why long-term love feels different✨ The dark side of dopamine: addiction, tolerance, anxiety✨ How to reclaim dopamine for creativity, ambition & joyWhether you’re addicted to your phone, chasing love like it’s cocaine, or just trying to understand why Oreos are impossible to eat “in moderation,” this episode will make you laugh and maybe change how you live.👀 Watch, subscribe, and share your weirdest dopamine spiral in the comments.🎧 Full audio podcast on all platforms: Confidently Insecure with Kelsey Darragh📖 My books: Don’t Fcking Panic* + Screaming, Crying, Throwing Up (breakup survival guide, coming soon!)🐶 Dog videos because serotonin @hippothebabySupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/confidently-insecure/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Sep 8, 2025 • 51min
reunited 🇩🇪💕 BUT...are we staying together?!
Pack your bags, babe—we’re taking Confidently Insecure to Munich! 🎙️ This week I’m recording from the English Garden with my boyfriend (yes,THE ATHLETE). We’re talking alllll about what it’s really like seeing each other again after two months apart, the weird/funny/adorable cultural differences I’ve noticed in Germany (spoiler: everyone here is way cleaner than us), and debunking some wild dating myths about German men.Chapters00:00 Introduction to the Podcast and Setting the Scene02:38 Cultural Reflections: Comparing Germany and America05:22 Exploring Munich: Personal Experiences and Impressions08:13 German Cuisine: A Taste of Bavaria11:05 Language Games: Understanding German Words19:59 Dating Myths in Germany: A Fun Exploration21:25 Dating Dynamics in Germany32:14 Navigating Long-Distance Relationships46:19 Reflections on Munich and Future PlansSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/confidently-insecure/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Sep 1, 2025 • 25min
Hoes Throughout History: THEODORA!
In this week’s Hoes Throughout History, Kelsey dives into the scandalous, petty, and downright iconic life of Theodora of Byzantium - the actress-turned-courtesan who flipped the script and became Empress of the Byzantine Empire.From slut-shaming gossip in the history books to changing laws for women, Theodora’s story is messy, powerful, and oh-so-relevant. We’ll cover:Her rise from stage girl to co-ruler 👑The social reforms that gave hoes rights in 500 CE ✨The infamous “Purple is a fine color for a burial shroud” speech that saved Constantinople from burning 🔥Get comfy, grab your coffee, and let’s talk about how a “hoe” became the woman who held an empire together.👉 Don’t forget to rate, review, and tell me: what’s YOUR purple shroud hill?Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/confidently-insecure/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Aug 25, 2025 • 38min
why women are saying NO to MEN
✨ mental health • feminism • community living • relationships ✨In today’s episode we’re diving headfirst into the big messy questions: what does it mean to build a life outside of men and outside of society’s “timeline”?I break down the Bird’s Nest community (a women-only living space where companionship > coupledom), the rise of the 4B movement in South Korea (spoiler: no men, no marriage, no babies, no problem?), and how timeline grief sneaks up on us when we realize we’re not living the script we were handed.We’ll talk money (aka financial independence = freedom), self-discovery, and why reinvention at literally ANY age is not only allowed, it’s necessary. Plus: I got featured in the Wall Street Journal (!!) so yeah, we’re celebrating that too.🔑 takeaways:Community living is changing the way women think about love + supportThe 4B movement is feminism… turned up to 11“Timeline grief” is real, but it doesn’t have to own youFinancial independence = the sexiest thing you can give yourselfReinvention is always on the table🕒 chapters: 00:00 Intro 04:34 Bird’s Nest Community 12:50 The Dynamics of Male Relationships 17:40 4B Movement: A Feminist Stance 25:10 Timeline Grief + Personal Reflection 32:48 Financial Independence + Future Planning💬 Drop me a comment if you’ve ever felt timeline grief, if you’d move into a Bird’s Nest house, or if you’re secretly (or not so secretly) 4B curious.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/confidently-insecure/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Aug 18, 2025 • 29min
getting things stuck in your HOO-HA 🥚❗❗
In this week’s episode, we are officially 35 — which means we'reold enough to know better but still young enough to make terrible choices...INSERT JADE EGG LITERALLY. We reflect on what this birthday actually feels like (spoiler: it’s not the crisis we thought it would be), gush about foster dog Fred... Plus, BOOK CLUB IS BACK as we dive into some recent books with badass female leads and why representation isn’t just a buzzword — it’s literally shaping how we see ourselves. Come for the birthday tea, stay for the vagina jokes and unsolicited life advice.Chapters00:00 Celebrating 35: A Birthday Reflection03:14 Viral Moments and Social Media Fame05:51 Family Dynamics and Expectations09:17 Adventures in Self-Care and New Experiences13:06 T-Swift and Celebrity Culture16:21 Book Club: Exploring New Reads25:34 Closing Thoughts and Listener EngagementSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/confidently-insecure/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Aug 11, 2025 • 1h 3min
Why Not Me?! The Astrology Pep Talk You Didn’t Know You Needed (w/ MADI MURPHY)
This week on Confidently Insecure, I sit down with returning friend of the pod, author, and cosmic hype queen Madi Murphy to talk about her brand-new book In the Cosmic Zone: Embodying the 12 Astro Archetypes to Unleash Your Genius & Activate Your Authentic Self.We get into: 🌟 Why astrology should ALIGN you, not define you 🦁 The Leo Season mantra: “I need to be seen” — and why that’s not narcissism, it’s power 📅 How to actually use each zodiac season to fuel your goals ⚖️ What it means to create harmony, reclaim your power, and trust your damn self 💼 The Capricorn reminder that your life is your legacy 💥 Madi’s David vs. Goliath court case against Starbucks (yes, she won) 💡 How to turn cosmic wisdom into daily, doable actionWhether you’re astrology-curious, a chart-reading pro, or a total skeptic, this episode is your permission slip to step into your cosmic zone and start living like the main character.🎧 Grab your notebook, your birth chart, and maybe a sequin jacket — the stars (and Madi) have some things to say to you.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/confidently-insecure/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Aug 4, 2025 • 44min
why i'm CHILD FREE !!! (and you should be too)
A CONTROVERSY!!!! or is it all that controversial when you hear the facts? Child-free living has never looked more desirable, but countries all over the world are SO DESPERATE to make people BONE!!! What do you think, confidantes? Lets explore the societal, financial, and personal implications of choosing not to have children. Chapters00:00 Introduction to the Child-Free Movement01:46 Understanding Child-Free vs. Childless07:15 Personal Reflections on Being Child-Free09:30 Financial Considerations of Parenthood13:19 The Role of Partners in Parenting Decisions14:41 Concerns About the State of the World15:59 The Village Concept in Modern Parenting18:18 The Pressure of Family Expectations20:24 The Risks of Pregnancy and Childbirth21:24 Declining Birth Rates and Societal Implications23:57 Global Trends in Birth Rates26:58 Incentives for Childbirth Around the World30:34 Critique of Societal Pressures on Women31:48 Community Perspectives on Being Child-FreeSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/confidently-insecure/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jul 28, 2025 • 42min
FaceTime S3x and Trust Issues: Welcome to Long-Distance Love
Is love supposed to travel this far?? This week, we break down the chaos, science, and comedy of long-distance relationships.From sexting over glitchy WiFi and jealousy spirals in different time zones, to real success stories that prove LDRs can work—this episode is your ultimate guide to emotionally surviving (or walking away from) long-distance love.Chapters00:00 Introduction: A Week in the Life02:32 Leo Season: Embracing Confidence and Creativity05:29 Fostering Fred: A Journey of Love and Care11:09 Long-Distance Relationships: A Personal Reflection18:40 The Science of Long-Distance Love28:51 Pros and Cons of Long-Distance Relationships37:19 Final Thoughts and Community EngagementSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/confidently-insecure/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jul 21, 2025 • 35min
🍼Sh*t They Never Told Us About Birth (But TikTok Did)🍼
THE BABY GOES WHERE??!!! BREASTMILK CAN DO WHAT?!?! Yeah. prepare to have your mind absolutely BLOWN by these facts about BIRTHING A HUMAN CHILD! But first up...updates on trump, weird packages, and screaming. yep. Chapters00:00 Emerging from a Funk02:26 Navigating Bisexual Dilemmas05:47 Exciting New Ventures and Merchandise08:01 Exploring the New Show: Building the Band15:19 Diving into Childbirth Education29:17 Reflections and GiveawaysSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/confidently-insecure/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jul 14, 2025 • 34min
50. hottest men of ALL TIME?!
IS IT TRUE?! IS THE GHOST OF JAMES DEAN THE HOTTEST OF ALL TIME?! Well....not in our humblest of opinions!! Plus, we're fostering a new dog and launching new merchandise! The conversation transitions into reflections on pop culture, mental health, and creativity, particularly in relation to the pressures of traditional Hollywood. And finally we CUMlminates in a lively discussion about the recent 'Hottest Men' list, exploring themes of attractiveness, representation, and cultural impact.tell us in the comments who is missing from this list?! Chapters00:00 Introduction and Housekeeping02:30 Mental Health and New Projects05:05 Pop Culture Reflections10:37 The Hottest Men List DiscussionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/confidently-insecure/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy


