How Not To Suck At Divorce: Divorce Advice You Need To Hear

Friend, let’s be real, we know that you're tired of pretending that everything is okay. We know that your gut is telling you that your marriage is not going to work. So, now what??? If you have EVER wondered: "What do I do if I think I want a divorce?" - this episode is for you.  If you're considering divorce but don't know where to begin, this episode is for you.  If you're just miserable in your marriage, but feel stuck, this episode is for you.  Don't forget: The DCC is here to help you save up to THOUSANDS on your divorce AND help you avoid making MAJOR mistakes. Get The Divorce Crash Course HERE! Join our private community: Here! And remember, Our Family Wizard is here to help you make coparenting easier. Believe us, you want to check them out: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck This podcast was designed to give you information, entertainment and empathy as you embark on the divorce process.  We know that divorce is hard. We know that it's a long and draining process. We also know that life is so much better on the other side.  Don't give up. Everyone deserves to be happy.  You've got this and we've got you.    

With divorce, there are things that you might feel you have zero control over, right?  Maybe you’ve thought before, “My attorney's not fighting me.”  OR maybe you're frustrated that your attorney's bills are insanely high and you wish there was SOMETHING you could do so save money. Friend: I hope you listen to this episode with an open mind because we are going to give you very concrete steps that you can take to help your attorney help YOU so that you can make the most out of your attorney. And, if you haven't grabbed our DCC yet, go get it here. DCC = Divorce Crash Course Divorce Crash Course In today’s episode, we cover-  -Saving money -Getting your attorney to fight for you  -Supplying your attorney with the necessary information to really get the best outcome for your case -Why it’s important to pay your bill on time -Why it’s important to stick to the FACTS and leave your emotions out of it  -A clear example of what it looks like to HELP your attorney HELP you  Andrea asks some JUICY questions to Morgan, that you don’t want to miss! And remember, Soberlink is here to help you if you're concerned about a coparent's alcohol use. Save $50 off your device and learn more here: https://www.soberlink.com/notsuck Join our private community, we'd love to have! http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity

In today’s episode, boooooy did we shed some light on the top asked questions when navigating a divorce. From the quirky laws about eavesdropping, (did you know in Illinois recording someone on the phone without consent is a no-go but in public, it’s fair game?), to seeking multiple opinions like you would for a tricky medical condition – this episode has it all.  And here's your place to grab access to the DCC: The Divorce Crash Course, yes, you need this! :The Divorce Crash Course  And hey, for those wondering about GALs and child representatives in custody battles, we've got the lowdown right here. In this episode we answer:  HOW to tell your spouse you want a divorce (and the big reason why we suggest NOT doing it on a weekend) What to do when you feel like your spouse has been hiding finances and is it worth it to continue digging?  Trial separations before filing! Doing the right thing or putting off the inevitable?  GAL - what it is and the role that it serves  How do you know if a GAL is going to help or hurt your case? When do you advocate that you want one? Do you say “I want one”, or is it something that you wait for a judge to slap on to your case?  Difference between GAL child rep - How would you know when you need one and not the other? Who does a GAL speak to and who does a GAL not speak to? And is a GAL the same thing as a custody evaluator? Are they going to come into my home and see what my home looks like?  What does parental alienation actually mean?  What happens if your ex records your conversations? Are they allowed to do this? How late is too late is too switch attorneys?  Experience requesting an order from the judge  I promise we’re in your corner and here for you and remember, you’ve got this and we’ve got you! **And remember, if alcohol use is a concern with safe parenting time, then Soberlink is a tool you need in your toolbox. Learn more and save $50 off your device here: https://www.soberlink.com/notsuck *** To join our private community, head here: The How Not to Suck at Divorce Community

Oooooh friend - today you are in for an absolute TREAT. We (Andrea & Morgan) uncover the 5 BIGGEST MISTAKES that we see happening when it comes to getting divorced. AND, to put the cherry on top, you can get even more access to these topics and so much more "hands on help" with: The Divorce Crash Course.  Literally - this will be your divorce playbook. You want this crash course, you need this crash course. And, like we said in the show, we priced this guide at a low pricepoint so it's accessable to everyone. Most divorce "courses" are hundreds of dollars and take HOURS to complete. Our crash course is different.  We also made sure that your privacy is protected. The credit card charge shows up as "DCC150", so nothing about divorce is mentioned.  There's also an Afterpay option, so you can pay in installments. And if you're on the fence about getting divorced: This course will help you.  Okay, here's the link: ➡️ https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course ⬅️   In this episode, we cover some of the goods inside of the The Divorce Crash Course including: Hiring a divorce attorney Kids and the mistakes that people make when it comes to kids If you should sell your house Communication with your ex (Andrea’s personal fav)  How to NOT rush through signing those important documents ************* And if you're concered about your coparent's alcohol use, Soberlink can help: https://www.soberlink.com/notsuck. This link will give you more information and a coupon for $50 off your device.  And please join our private community for more support! http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity

In today’s episode, we have a very first for this podcast & an incredibly special guest - Retired Los Angeles Judge Dianna Gould-Saltman. That’s right - a VERY recently retired divorce judge! (who BTW, has divorced several celebrity couples) Let's face it- nobody wants to go to court. It’s just not a fun experience. If you're navigating the divorce process, going before the judge is likely a step that you are trying to avoid for several reasons. But for one reason or another, it happens for a lot of divorcing couples.  So, what do you do you to get the judge "on your side"??? In this episode you’ll learn:  * An easy thing you can do to help yourself get in the right headspace for court  * What do to and not to do when you’re actually in front of the judge in court  * Does it matter if the judge *knows* the attorney who’s representing you or your spouse * What are some mistakes that Judge Dianna saw in her courtroom over and over  *What's a "private divorce"?? If you’re going through this nasty thing called divorce and ready to learn how to prepare for court in the eyes of a retired divorce judge…this epiosode is for YOU.  AND! If you're wanting to hire Judge Dianna Gould- Saltman as your mediator or your private judge...guess what? You can do that! Find her here: https://signatureresolution.com/neutral-CPT/hon-dianna-gould-saltman-ret/ And friends, if your case is going into court then you likely need some more emotional support. Look no futher than our private community. You can find it right here: http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity ********** Do you know about Our Family Wizard?? Because if not, you really need to go sign up for their newsletter. Our Family Wizard makes coparenting A LOT easier by helping you organize your calenders, expenses, AND monitor communications : and best part, it's looked upon HIGHLY in the courts as a way to help families do divorce better. To learn more, go to: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck

In today’s episode, as crappy as it is - we talk about when the abuse gets worse during divorce. It’s not a fun topic, but we would be doing you a disservice if we didn’t talk about it. We bring in Katharine Rupp, a family law attorney based in California, who shares insights on the legal process of divorce, the significance of being organized and prepared for legal battles, and the usefulness of tools like Our Family Wizard app (hollaaa!) in co-parenting and divorce documentation.  Expect to hear strategies for dealing with emotional abuse and conflict, learn the importance of communication and documentation in divorce proceedings, and get practical advice for navigating the divorce process more effectively - as per usual!   Main Takeaways: *Importance of Our Family Wizard - (OFW) is a valuable tool for organizing divorce-related information in one platform *Responding to Attacks (so hard- but DON'T attack back) *Avoid Escalation and Emotional Response (again, so hard) *Documenting and Communicating *Seek Support and Guidance If you want some more information on how to respond to your POS ex, (hee hee) head here: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck   Ask your attorney if Our Family Wizard would be right for your case. In our opinion, it can only help give you the boundaries you deserve.    Join our private community for more support. http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity

Friends. Listen up. You need to make sure that your divorce attorney is going to GUIDE you through the long, winding road that is divorce. Take a listen to the dynamic duo, Sarah Jacobs and Jamie Berger, family law attorneys and owners of Jacobs/Berger LLC, located in Morristown, New Jersey.  Their mission is making the divorce process less nerve-wracking by focusing on the human side, rather than getting caught up in legal battles. Isn’t that what we all want?! (Yes, it is..)  Sarah and Jamie express why it's so importatnt to find a relatable attorney who communicates well, knows your goals, and speaks your language.  Episode highlights: *Jacobs and Bergers’ approach to making divorce less stressful *The concept of redefining the family through non-aggressive strategies *The importance of a divorce attorney understanding and addressing your needs and goals *The necessity for attorneys to be relatable and communicative *Positive outlook on divorce as a new beginning *Being a divorce "tour guide" *A Real Housewives of New Jersey divorce story....(this sh$t is GOOD) If you are in the NJ area and looking for representation- reach out to Sarah & Jamie. Here's the site again : http://www.jacobsberger.com   Aaaaaannnndddd, ya'll - you KNOW you want some glowing skin, who doesn't?? Andrea and Morgan are LOVING their results from Dermamade, and we know that you will, too. This skincare line is so effective and not super $$$. For a limited time, you can save 50% off (which is INSANE) with code AMY50. Head to http://www.dermamade.com And don't forget: Our Family Wizard is here to help make coparenting easier. And if you want some tips on how to communicate in a more effective way that won't make you want to pull out your hair extentions...go to http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck - pop in your email address and you'll get an article from US that maps out a plan for you! Join our private community: http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity We love you, we're here for you, you can do this.  Go get yourself a good attorney. 

Okay, real talk. Getting your head straight for divorce is NECESSARY. It’s crucial to seek the proper legal and emotional help when going through a divorce. In this episode, we chat with Dr. Ashley Southard and she has you covered! Straight from a licensed marriage and family therapist, you’ll learn in this episode:  * Professional guidance during divorce * Defining worst and best-case scenarios * Managing emotions during divorce * Focusing on children, career, and supportive relationships * Addressing the struggle of over-functioning individuals to seek help or delegate responsibilities * Importance of seeking therapy before starting the divorce process * Over-functioning women in unfulfilling relationships * Identifying emotional and practical needs during challenging times This episode is for you if you’re ready and determined to get your head on straight when it comes to divorce! (Trust us, you can do this!) You can find Dr Ashley on her viral IG account: http://www.instagram.com/drashleysouthard And friends, remember, Our Family Wizard is here to help with you all of your coparenting issues. Go read our co written article! It's funny and really helpful! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck And keeping with the real talk. Ya'll. Your skin takes a BEATING when you're stressed, and that just plain SUCKS. However, we have a way to help you! Dr Amy Brodsky developed an amazing line of EFFECTIVE skincare- and guess what?? She's giving our listeners 50% off for a limited time. Take a sec right now and go check out Dermamade. Use code AMY50 at checkout. http://www.dermamade.com (Morgan loves the anti aging set and Andrea is digging the Vitamin C serum, as well as the Retinol serum. ) We're here for you. Join our private community http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity Please DM us with any questions! http://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorce

Topics discussed include the importance of mental preparation before filing for divorce, timing considerations, setting up for success post-divorce, tools for organizing expenses, impact of job loss or career advancement, retirement implications, prenuptial agreements, children's ages, emotional support, and seeking professional advice from a divorce attorney.

Andrea and Morgan answer the question that you’re probably wondering if you’re going through (or about to go through) a divorce: Will the kids be okay?!  ******* To get FREE tips on coparenting communication (believe us, you'll want this) head to: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck - pop in your email and you'll get access to BONUS tips, direct from Andrea & Morgan. We get real about the impact of divorce on children and invite: Meg, and sisters Eden & Larissa on the show.  They share their personal stories of coming from divorced households, navigating blended families, and the challenges of balancing different parenting styles. This episode gives you insight if you’re contemplating divorce or worried about the effects on your kids. Expect to hear: *Tips on communicating with challenging co-parents and using "Our Family Wizard" for organized co-parenting, including expenses and messaging. * The importance of prioritizing the well-being of the children involved and creating a supportive environment for them. * The challenges and misconceptions of parenting during and after a divorce ** The impact on children and the importance of parental happiness for the well-being of children ***The answer you all want to hear: Will the kids be okay? Answer might suprise you.  **and BONUS !!! What can you do to give your skin that glow you had before your life turned upside down!! (hint: it's Morgan's obsession) Get up to 50% off (which is INSANE!) If you go to www.dermamade.com and enter in code: AMY50 This episode is filled with real stories, hope, and honesty to help answer your question: are your kids going to be okay?  You can do this. We've got you. Join our private community: http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity Follow us on IG: http://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorce We'll see ya next week.