Today we dive into topics that are sensitive + complex in nature- discussing the black male brute archetype, how it came about + perpetuates across history and how it impacts sexual expression, tenderness, + platonic touch for men. THIS episode depicts the impact  to us + the culture at large when we don’t take the time to understand nuance.  Let’s change the cultural narrative by inspiring conversation. If you resonate with this episode be sure to share the podcast or leave me a review.  In this episode, you’ll hear: The contextual factors that influence the processing of trauma, including aspects like race, gender, location, and ability The pervasive influence of systemic racism, gender expectations, and societal biases that hinder safe expression and emotional completeness Aaron's personal journey, navigating the layers of his sexual story as a Black male in the United States The exploration of our familial legacies, uncovering the unconscious narratives we inherit and continue to carry The damaging impact of the "black brute" narrative on our sexuality and our experience of touch How systemic oppression has limited access to touch for BIPOC individuals The value of community as a resource to reconnect with our authentic selves The absence of tenderness and platonic touch within the Black community Common narratives that emerge in Aaron's work and the influence of homophobia Tracing trauma through various mediums, including pornography and music, and the importance of vulnerability and embracing our full humanity in our erotic experiences The construction of traditional masculinity and the factors that threaten this identity Embodied consent practices in the context of tender touch, exploring what is often missed and nuanced The supportive role of the kink community for those who have been chronically untouched THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTS AARON JOHNSON is a facilitator, public speaker, and touch specialist who practices closeness as a way to break down barriers between people. As co-founder of both Holistic Resistance and Grief to Action, Aaron takes the time to hold the stories of black people around homophobia, transphobia, internalized racism, and those that are Chronically UnderTouched. Because the purchasing, selling, lynching, and commoditization of the sexual energy of black bodies is a part of historical and present American culture, the long term impact of those trauma stories should be acknowledged and held as a map for our collective healing. Stay Connected with Aaron: https://www.holisticresistance.com/ https://www.grieftoaction.com/ https://www.instagram.com/holistic_resistance/ WANT MORE? My 4-week course, ALCHEMY, is now open for enrollment. Sex Love Psychedelics: Alchemy is a four-week LIVE course, taking you through the experience of sex as psychedelic with teachings in tantra, embodiment, + BDSM.  Join here. ⁠https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/alchemy

Explore the dynamics of different desires within relationships and the art of negotiation for threesomes and sex fantasies. Delve into the Wheel of Consent and the Yes, No, Maybe framework. Discover the upcoming course on Tantra and BDSM: Alchemy. Discuss the importance of expressing desires and creating a safe space for vulnerability. Embrace your own needs and desires while fostering open communication and overcoming fear and shame in sex.

The maestro of play party ceremonies, Yossef Sagi, discusses the healing and evolution that occurs in the nuances of love, sex, tantra, and BDSM. Topics include maintaining integrity in sex work and sexual education, trust in relationships, the intersection of BDSM and consciousness, Yossef's journey of sexual awakening, navigating non-alignment versus alignment, inside play parties and group sex, and conversations on consent and boundaries.

I'm here to debunk myths about ketamine and reveal its healing potential within couples' therapy. This episode offers a peek into what it's really like to work with me in a couples’ session, guiding you through the full journey's arc – from preparation to integration. It's more than just the dose; it's a holistic experience. In this episode, you’ll hear: Dr. Cat's personal experience with ketamine The role of ketamine in nurturing closeness among couples and its capacity to heighten empathy A look into a psychedelic assisted therapy ketamine session designed for couples The significance of preparation, integration, and rituals that lend coherence to the transformative voyage The arc of the session - offering a comprehensive transformation Defining your “why” and setting intentions as a compass to guide your journey The importance of vetting facilitators to ensure their energy aligns with your intentions Testing for fentanyl contamination in powdered substances Choosing the right setting:  private ketamine assisted therapy, group therapy, and ketamine clinics for a tailored experience The lasting changes ketamine can bring when guided by a therapist. Dr. Cat's upcoming couples and femme-focused ketamine retreats in 2024 How generational trauma shapes our capacity to embrace love and profound intimacy discernment skills to distinguish between healthy and toxic relationships, fostering emotional well-being Stigmas surrounding ketamine, recognizing its potential to foster intimacy and redefine the scope of therapy – embracing ceremony, celebration, and sensuality. ABOUT YOUR HOST Dr. Cat Meyer, PsyD, LMFT is a licensed psychotherapist specializing in sex, trauma, and ketamine-assisted therapy, author, yoga teacher, and international speaker dedicated to evolving the relationship we have surrounding sexuality and our bodies.  She is the host of podcast Sex Love Psychedelics and the founder of SexLoveYoga.com an online platform for education and programs on relationships, sexuality, and embodiment.   WANT MORE? Upcoming 2024 couples and femme-only ketamine retreats hosted by yours truly. If you're ready to embrace profound transformation alongside your partner, join the waitlist! https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/RetreatWaitlist FREE guide for vetting your psychedelic practitioner: ⁠⁠⁠https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/Vetting%20Your%20Guide⁠⁠ Let’s not speed up the process + skip over the very real + important fact around who is facilitating for you. Vetting who you are working with supports your safety + deepest surrender for healing. I’ve created a guide for you with questions to ask yourself + your facilitator, whether that be in the sex or psychedelics space.

Energetic lovemaking guide + Sex and Relationship coach Bibi Brzoka joins me explore the concept of energy + how it affects our body, our love, + even the vibrance on our life. My life changed when I realized that sex was energy. No longer was it just this experience of friction between body parts, but that we could penetrate with the invisible, yet palpable extension of energy. There’s some juicy energetic practices + practical tips within this conversation. All of which highlight truly how sex IS psychedelic. In this episode, you’ll hear: Bibi's inspiring journey of leaving the corporate world and embracing her sensuality, ultimately transforming her sex life. Expressing your eroticism and breaking free from the need for external approval. Full body orgasms and Bibi’s sexual awakening. How to prioritize pleasure practices even amidst a busy schedule. The essential "must-haves" for cultivating skills in energetic love making. How to circulate your turn-on throughout your entire body, unlocking the potential for an extraordinary sexual experience. The psychedelic dimensions of sex and the journey towards becoming orgasmic. How to inspire your partner towards slowing down, altering the flow, or changing the style of sex through effective communication Dr. Cat's personal experience with energetic love making, offering unique insights. Power struggle between two people in sex - How can we avoid it? The common ways that sexual energy or vibrancy can leak and learn how to reclaim and maintain your vitality. The intersection of grief, sexuality, and the journey towards finding softness and healing amidst the process. Bibi also answers our audience's questions: What can I do if my guy can’t kiss? I’m trying to do a regular masturbation practice, but I get bored after a few minutes. help! THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTS Bibi is VITA certified Love, Sex and Relationship coach, holistic sexuality international speaker and energetic lovemaking guide. She has presented her trailblazing, disruptive approach to sexuality throughout the world; including events like Mindvalley Summit and A-Fest, Summit LA, YPO and EO forums, and publications like Vogue, Elle Magazine and Marie Claire. Her heart-opening and taboo-crushing courses create spaces for conversation and plant seeds for exploration of conscious sexuality. Through her offerings of online courses, group workshops, speaking engagements, lectures and one on one work, in both English and Spanish, she serves clients from around the world in their transformation to both thriving single individuals and loving couples. In her free time she kites surfs, reads books and explores the world.   WANT MORE? FREE guide for vetting your psychedelic practitioner: ⁠⁠https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/Vetting%20Your%20Guide⁠ Let’s not speed up the process + skip over the very real + important fact around who is facilitating for you. Vetting who you are working with supports your safety + deepest surrender for healing. I’ve created a guide for you with questions to ask yourself + your facilitator, whether that be in the sex or psychedelics space.

Dr. Melissa Barker is an advocate for psychedelics + the improvement of protocols for complex PTSD. In this episode, you’ll hear our personal experiences with trauma, therapy + how psychedelics helped.  If you have a loved one experiencing the pain of trauma + sexual assault, perhaps this will provide the words they need to hear. In this episode, you’ll hear: The embodied practices that can support a trauma survivor How the word “trauma” can become an excuse to remain disempowered Pop psychology + the cultural blocks that get in the way of people being able to receive the help they need The Phoenix Project - A free community with resources for integration tips, self-healing topics + psychedelic integration The difference between PTSD + Complex-PTSD How psychedelics have the potential to transform our understanding of trauma processing Melissa’s personal experience with MDMA + ketamine for processing trauma Healing from narcissistic exes + cultivating internal safety Psilocybin is a tool to create a deeper relationship with the self Hypervigilance + processing the trauma after a breakup Taking responsibility for our healing and not outsourcing it to others Trauma survivors processing enmeshment and losing the sense of self Pearls of wisdom for trauma survivors to help understand themselves THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTS “Trauma is not the monster in the room. Trauma is the catalyst to growth and inner transformation.” – Dr. Melissa Barker Dr. Melissa Barker, EdD is an entrepreneur, activist, and emerging voice in the growing psychedelics movement. Dr. Barker is the founder of The Phoenix Project, a community-led mental health tech platform created by survivors for survivors. Dr. Barker holds a doctorate in Transformative Leadership. Her doctoral dissertation (Leading Through the Dark: Hope and Healing after Personal and Collective Trauma) focuses on how trauma survivors are finding sustainable healing, especially in the shadow of the pandemic.  From 2018 to 2019, she served on the Board of Directors for STAND! For Families Free of Violence, a Bay-area nonprofit supporting survivors of domestic abuse. In 2014, Dr. Barker filed a Title IX Civil Rights case against UC Berkeley for mishandling sexual violence cases on the college campus. In total, 31 brave survivors came forward, and four years later, the Office of Civil Rights found UC Berkeley had violated Title IX. Dr. Barker’s personal experience of sexual violence and her resulting PTSD diagnosis led her to explore such modalities as somatic therapy, IFS, and mindfulness-based psychotherapy. She eventually discovered the incredible therapeutic power of psychedelics and began implementing them to integrate her trauma. Her experiences with ketamine, MDMA/MDA, psilocybin, and LSD (alongside her work helping other survivors) spurred her into a deeper understanding of what healing from sexual trauma, abuse and violence means for women, particularly in today’s current climate. She is now in the process of developing a new iteration of The Phoenix Project that utilizes revolutionary tech to support psychedelic integration for trauma survivors and to connect them with the community and resources they need. Dr. Barker has been featured in HuffPost, Forbes, Nasdaq, and as one of Thrive Global’s “Social Impact and Nonprofit Leaders to Watch”. She’s been interviewed on Third Wave and Only One in the Room podcasts. She was a featured Mentor on the psychedelics track at SXSW in 2023.   WANT MORE? Guide for vetting your psychedelic practitioner: ⁠https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/Vetting%20Your%20Guide Join me for an erotic couples retreat where you and your beloved explore the sacred arts of tantra and BDSM and unlock its synergistic power in the bedroom and beyond... Love + Leather: ⁠https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/LoveAndLeather

Whether you're in a non-monogamous relationship, or if you’re just curious, this episode is for you. Irene Morning, MS (she/her) is a somatic pleasure coach, intimacy educator, and bestselling author of The Polyamory Paradox: Finding Your Confidence in Consensual Non-Monogamy.  We get into the nuances of non-monogamous relating and how you can support yourself + your loves with compassion + care.   In this episode, you’ll hear: Creating security in non-monogamous relationships Irene’s inspiration and process for writing her book, The Polyamory Paradox Vetting non-monogamous therapists and support  Developmental trauma and non-traditional relationships Fawning; how to tell the difference between self-betrayal and leaning into an edge The Window of Tolerance, dysregulation + Examples of self resourcing Navigating New Relationship Energy - How to support the relationship at the beginning of another one Taking the right amount of responsibility - Not over and not under Regulating your nervous system to cultivate higher discernment  Leaning into vulnerability by expressing your requests + desires Relationships with your Partner’s metamour -- their partner -- kitchen table relationship Regular relationship check-ins to deepen the connection Irene even answers some questions directly from our audience: I feel pressured to be friends with my partner's partner, advice? Do “don’t ask, don’t tell” relationships work? THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTS Irene Morning, MS (she/her) is a somatic pleasure coach, intimacy educator, and bestselling author of The Polyamory Paradox: Finding Your Confidence in Consensual Non-Monogamy. She weaves together extensive training in somatic healing and sexual health counseling with her lived experience of being queer, kinky, and polyamorous to help others create relationships that fulfill their unique desires and needs. In addition to her private coaching practice and writing, Irene is the founder and creator of Pleasure Coven (an ongoing group program for femmes reclaiming pleasure) as well as Vice President / Managing Director of Curiosity Bears (a sex-positive events community-based in Southern California). Both her work and personal life revolve around the belief that centering our own pleasure is not only healing on an individual level but also in service of interdependence and collective well-being. http://www.irenemorning.com Book (The Polyamory Paradox: Finding Your Confidence in Consensual Non-Monogamy): https://a.co/d/c3UE97J IG: https://www.instagram.com/irene_morning/ YT: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0KDzcIl2guF5m6vED8MPWg   WANT MORE? Join me for an erotic couples retreat where you and your beloved explore the sacred arts of tantra and BDSM and unlock its synergistic power in the bedroom and beyond... Love + Leather: https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/LoveAndLeather

Indigenously trained shaman, CFA charterholder, + chief investment officer for a billion-dollar portfolio, Sylvia Benito joins me to connect the consciousness to capital. We dive into psychedelic tourism and some of the questions + considerations we need to have as we both build out psychedelic companies, but also change the relationships we have with money (and sex) for ourselves. ...It's juicy. You'll love it. In this episode you’ll hear:  The difference between an independent psychedelic experience and an experience within the retreat setting Beckley Retreats' comprehensive program for psychedelic-based wellbeing Benefits of psychedelic retreats & ceremonies versus taking yourself on your own journey Psychedelic tourism -growing trend as psychedelics hit the mainstream Retreats that are rooted in integrity - How to spot them? Prepping the psychedelic experience with proper consent Importance of the number of facilitators that can attend to you Support the individuals while balancing the cultural pressure to make more money Conscious capital + bringing in the shamanic path as inspiration for capital decisions Sylvia’s alternative investment paradigm + the role of psychedelics The future of wellness travel and conscious business Connection of financial and sexual empowerment + personal power The process of discernment + guidelines to attract safe sexual partners Ceremonial intimacy + deepened sexuality THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTS Sylvia Benito connects consciousness to capital.  An indigenously trained shaman, a CFA charterholder, and Chief Investment Officer for a billion-dollar portfolio, Sylvia is known as a master of the energetic realm.  Her passion is to connect spiritual awakening to the most mundane aspects of life, to take these insights into the high-stakes boardroom and into everyday life.  Today she manages investments for family offices and continues to practice as a shaman, building bridges between the material and the mystical. https://www.sylviabenito.com/ https://www.instagram.com/sylvia__benito/  LINKS FROM THE SHOW Vetting Your Sex or Psychedelics Facilitator: https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/Vetting%20Your%20Guide WANT MORE? If you’ve been desiring to experience orgasm for yourself, embody the archetype of the seductress, reach transcendent states in sex, + develop a deep devotion to your own body + inner landscape-- My 6 week Erotically Undone course is for you. Good sex + cultivating those skills takes time + devotion. Take this course at your own pace.  https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/EroticallyUndone

Microdosing. It’s hot. It’s trendy. You might hear that you neighbor or daughter started doing it. But what is it good for + how do we do it in the most effective way?  Paul Austin, one of the most prominent voices in the world of psychedelics joins me on the show to cover our microdosing foundations. Paul is the founder of Third Wave + author of Mastering Microdosing: How to Use Sub Perceptual Psychedelics to Heal Trauma, Improve Performance, and Transform Your Life. If you’re passionate about psychedelics, you’ll want to save this one, pause, play back, take notes, + leave me a sexy review. I just know it. In this episode you’ll hear:  Paul’s life work: Safe and effective psychedelic experiences Microdosing Collective - What exactly constitutes a microdose? Different protocols for microdosing  + microdosing beyond LSD + Psilocybin The benefits for following a microdosing protocol How to cultivate the skill of working with psychedelics  Common mistakes people make in doing this practice Non psychedelic contemplative modalities for ongoing spiritual hygiene Learning the language of psychedelics: Mythos, poetry, archetypes and symbols The importance of a trusted therapist, coach or community to help you integrate A look inside the Third Wave Coaching Training Program Psychedelic facilitators, coaches, therapists - Vetting process  Paul also answers questions for our Sex Love Yoga audience: Are there any herbs that amplify the psilocybin experience? I get a terrible stomach ache when I do mushrooms or acid, any tips? I love MDMA, but I feel depressed the two days after. Is there something that can support this? Links from the show: Sex Love Psychedelics Course: https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/SexLovePsychedelics Sex + Psychedelics survey link https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/Q9FDNM2 Guide for vetting your psychedelic practitioner: https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/Vetting%20Your%20Guide Paul’s new book: https://summit.healthoptimisation.com/page/2272656/2023-tickets?promo=DRCAT THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTS Paul F. Austin is one of the most prominent voices in the world of psychedelics.  As the founder of Third Wave, he has educated millions on the importance of safe and effective psychedelic experiences. A pioneer at the intersection of microdosing, personal transformation, and professional success, he has been featured in Forbes, Rolling Stone, and the BBC's Worklife.  Paul helps others use microdosing as a tool for professional development and increased self-awareness by treating the use of psychedelics as a skill refined through mentorship and courageous exploration. He is also the author of Mastering Microdosing: How to Use Sub Perceptual Psychedelics to Heal Trauma, Improve Performance, and Transform Your Life

Can you make your cock bigger naturally? That’s one of the questions Jackson Hightower and I get to answer in this new episode. Jackson Hightower is a biohacker and men’s sexual health expert + founder of Natural Jackson--providing natural solutions for men’s sexual vitality. But even more than that, we talk about the cultural pressure around what it means to be masculine, who gets to be it, + what changing levels of testosterone are affecting the health + functioning of men, and what we can do about it.   In this episode, you’ll hear: Male vitality depletion + low testosterone through environmental factors What constitutes and symptoms of low testosterone levels The role of Testosterone in mental + sexual Health The evolutionary standpoint of the gender spectrum Pharma versus DIY + natural solutions for men’s sexual health The somatic responses as a result of our unprocessed emotions Depressurizing the sexual experience + skill of pleasuring women Research of regional solutions for sexual function using plants + herbs Pressures in our culture around the genitalia, especially for men around the bigness of their cock “Growers” versus “showers” Can you make your cock bigger naturally? Non-ejaculatory practices to connect to your genitalia Porn and its negative side effects, both physiologically and as a poor teacher of skills Jackson even answers questions from our Sex Love Yoga audience I hate swallowing because it just tastes weird, anything my dude can eat or do to make that better? THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUEST Jackson Hightower is a biohacker and expert in men's sexual health who has dedicated his life to helping men become more physically vital and skilled lovers. With a focus on physical wellness coupled with a deep study of the erotic arts, Hightower aims to redefine traditional models of masculinity and promote a more holistic and fulfilling approach to male sexuality. Through his work, he helps men develop the physical and mental tools necessary to enhance their health and sexual experiences, build deeper connections with their partners, and achieve greater levels of personal fulfillment. With his cutting-edge techniques and holistic approach to sexual wellness, Jackson has helped countless men achieve greater physical and emotional satisfaction in their intimate lives. @getnaturaljackson on Tiktok + Instagram   PRODUCT BUSINESS Natural Jackson is a unique line of completely natural herbal supplements that are specially designed for modern men. The line is based on ancient formulas and provides a safe and effective way for men to enhance their sexual function or alleviate all types of sexual dysfunction. These supplements use the power of natural herbs to improve blood flow, increase libido, and enhance overall sexual performance. With Natural Jackson, men can experience the benefits of an all-natural supplement that is safe, effective, and free from harmful side effects. Whether you are looking to boost your sexual performance or overcome sexual dysfunction, Natural Jackson is the perfect solution to help you achieve your goals.   WANT MORE? My 4-week course for Sex Love Psychedelics: Ritual is NOW OPEN for enrollment.  Each class is LIVE as I guide you into a potent space for exploration + discovery. I will show you how you can transform sex from being something on your to-do list to being an experience for expansion both in your sex + self. We get into the pleasure mechanics around sex, how you can incorporate more playfulness in the bedroom, harm reduction practices for psychedelics, sexual rituals, + sensual journeys in sex.  So if you’ve been feeling that your sex life could be so much more, I agree. and I want to share this with you. ⁠⁠https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/SexLovePsychedelics