147: Tantric BDSM + Play Parties as Catalysts for Evolution with Yossef Sagi
Sep 15, 2023
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The maestro of play party ceremonies, Yossef Sagi, discusses the healing and evolution that occurs in the nuances of love, sex, tantra, and BDSM. Topics include maintaining integrity in sex work and sexual education, trust in relationships, the intersection of BDSM and consciousness, Yossef's journey of sexual awakening, navigating non-alignment versus alignment, inside play parties and group sex, and conversations on consent and boundaries.
Creating a play party that is radically inclusive and challenges predominant dynamics, focusing on including BIPOC and queer communities and minimizing socio-economic differences.
Approaching group sex or play parties by getting on the same page as a couple, discussing desires and boundaries openly, and prioritizing personal growth, non-sexual intimacy, and connections within the play party space.
Embracing nuance in sexuality, questioning societal norms, and exploring unique desires and boundaries while practicing self-awareness, communication, and consent.
Deep dives
Creating a Radically Inclusive Play Party
The host emphasizes the importance of creating a play party that is radically inclusive, challenging the predominant dynamics seen in many play parties. The focus is on including BIPOC and queer communities and ensuring that socio-economic differences are minimized. Consent is a key component, but it is approached in a way that encourages personal growth and owning desires and boundaries. The play parties have themes that explore different facets of our shadow around sexuality, allowing participants to reclaim certain aspects of their sexual expression. The goal is to create a safe and sober space for exploration and learning from different perspectives.
The Importance of Taking Slow and Reflective Approach
The host advises couples who are interested in exploring group sex or play parties to start by getting on the same page, discussing desires and boundaries openly. Taking a slow and reflective approach is crucial, allowing space for personal growth and exploration. The emphasis is on creating connections, friendships, and non-sexual intimacy within the play party space before delving into sexual interactions. The host encourages a shift from reactively focusing on pain and wounding to a mindset of growth and learning together as a team.
Navigating the Nuances and Challenges of Group Sex
The host acknowledges the challenges that can arise when couples engage in group sex, even if prior consent has been given. The key is to approach these nuances with curiosity and a willingness to learn and grow. It is important to prioritize communication and create a safe container for discussing uncomfortable feelings such as jealousy or feeling left out. The focus is on personal responsibility, understanding one's own desires and boundaries, and repairing any missteps that may occur. The host highlights the need to navigate these experiences with compassion, both for oneself and for one's partner.
Embracing the Power of Nuance in Sexuality
The conversation throughout the podcast underscores the importance of embracing nuance in sexuality. It encourages moving away from black-and-white thinking and embracing the complexities and subtleties of our desires, boundaries, and interactions. The host urges individuals and couples to question societal norms and explore their own unique sexuality, while also practicing self-awareness, communication, and consent. By slowing down, reflecting, and prioritizing personal growth, individuals can create more meaningful and aligned experiences within the realm of group sex and play parties.
Finding Joseph Saggy and His Work
The host can be found on Instagram as @yossefsagideh. His website, yossefsagideh.com, provides more information about his work as a teacher, coach, and facilitator. He is also a guest teacher for the Sex Love Psychedelics Alchemy course being offered online.
The maestro of play party ceremonies, Yossef Sagi joins me to share about the healing + evolution that occurs in the nuance of love, of sex. Tantra and BDSM help us discover our personal patterns, desires, + fantasies.
Starting the first week of October, Yossef will be one of my guest teachers for my course: Sex Love Psychedelics: Alchemy. In this episode you’ll see these ways that we apply spiritual theory into practical applications.
In this episode, you’ll hear:
Maintaining integrity in the fields of sex work and sexual education: Strategies for safeguarding work and energy
Trust in relationships: Identifying the physical cues
How sex and psychedelics serve as tools for self-discovery and shifting perspectives
The intersection of BD.SM and consciousness: How play scenes impact your daily life
Yossef's journey of s.xual awakening and non-genital orgasmic experiences
Navigating “non-alignment: versus Alignment and Utilizing Depression as a Catalyst for Life Direction
Inside play parties and group s.x: A glimpse into The Mystery Temple
Conversations on consent, boundaries, violations, and addressing misconceptions
Partners in exploration: Tackling common challenges in play parties
Curious about conscious group play? Here's some advice to get started
+ MORE
THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTS
Yossef Sagi
A curious mystic at heart, Yossef is on a mission to create a permission field for all beings to feel loved and accepted in their full expression. The focus of Yossef’s work is through the complex lens of human sexuality. This starts with deconstructing the causes of sexual shame and creating space for the exploration of our truest desires while maintaining healthy boundaries.
Yossef employs a wide variety of modalities (coaching, somatics, Tantra, BDSM, consent frameworks, and sex education) and shape-shifts between them to create unique experiences that pierce straight to the soul.
Yossef (AKA Daddy Magick) hosts Mystery Temple - a personal development workshop disguised as Los Angeles’ fastest growing conscious sex party; facilitates sacred sexuality and consent workshops at festivals and conventions; and works with individuals and couples on healing their relationship to their eros.
My 4-week course, ALCHEMY, is now open for enrollment. Sex Love Psychedelics: Alchemy is a four-week LIVE course, taking you through the experience of sex as psychedelic with teachings in tantra, embodiment, + BDSM. Join here. https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/alchemy
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