149: BIPOC Sexuality, Tenderness, + the Impact of being Chronically Under Touched with Aaron Johnson

Today we dive into topics that are sensitive + complex in nature- discussing the black male brute archetype, how it came about + perpetuates across history and how it impacts sexual expression, tenderness, + platonic touch for men.

THIS episode depicts the impact  to us + the culture at large when we don’t take the time to understand nuance. 

Let’s change the cultural narrative by inspiring conversation. If you resonate with this episode be sure to share the podcast or leave me a review. 

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• The contextual factors that influence the processing of trauma, including aspects like race, gender, location, and ability

• The pervasive influence of systemic racism, gender expectations, and societal biases that hinder safe expression and emotional completeness

• Aaron's personal journey, navigating the layers of his sexual story as a Black male in the United States

• The exploration of our familial legacies, uncovering the unconscious narratives we inherit and continue to carry

• The damaging impact of the "black brute" narrative on our sexuality and our experience of touch

• How systemic oppression has limited access to touch for BIPOC individuals

• The value of community as a resource to reconnect with our authentic selves

• The absence of tenderness and platonic touch within the Black community

• Common narratives that emerge in Aaron's work and the influence of homophobia

• Tracing trauma through various mediums, including pornography and music, and the importance of vulnerability and embracing our full humanity in our erotic experiences

• The construction of traditional masculinity and the factors that threaten this identity

• Embodied consent practices in the context of tender touch, exploring what is often missed and nuanced

• The supportive role of the kink community for those who have been chronically untouched

THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTS

AARON JOHNSON is a facilitator, public speaker, and touch specialist who practices closeness as a way to break down barriers between people. As co-founder of both Holistic Resistance and Grief to Action, Aaron takes the time to hold the stories of black people around homophobia, transphobia, internalized racism, and those that are Chronically UnderTouched. Because the purchasing, selling, lynching, and commoditization of the sexual energy of black bodies is a part of historical and present American culture, the long term impact of those trauma stories should be acknowledged and held as a map for our collective healing.

Stay Connected with Aaron:

https://www.holisticresistance.com/

https://www.grieftoaction.com/

https://www.instagram.com/holistic_resistance/

WANT MORE?

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