Lynn often refers to anxiety as a cult leader: powerful, demanding compliance, and full of rigid rules. What happens when one family member wants out? Or when a long generational pattern of worry resists any change? In this episode, we break down the pull of the anxiety cult and how to change the rules for you and your family, even when others refuse.UPDATED: WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.Here is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU:Go to earthbreeze.com/FLUSTERCLUX for forty percent off your subscription!Just go to the App Store or Google Play store and download the FREE Ibotta app, use code FLUSTER, and start earning cash back .And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual Masterclass membership at masterclass.com/fluster.To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​.Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift!Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lately listeners have been asking about performance anxiety, particularly when it shows up in sports. Should we push our child to compete? What if they love to practice but don’t perform during games? The truth is that very few children will actually become pro athletes, so sports and other activities become opportunities to learn valuable anxiety and emotional management skills. Here is the Today show article which Lynn mentions:Should you let your kids quit? Experts share advice on when to know it’s OKUPDATED: WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.Here is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU:Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/fluster.And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual Masterclass membership at masterclass.com/fluster.To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​.Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift!For a free electric mixer and 40% off the coffee, plus free US shipping, go to Trumeta.com/Fluster to fuel your productivity and creativity with some delicious mushroom coffee.Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when children are the absolute focus of a family? Marriages suffer, says Michele Weiner-Davis, a renowned relationship expert who pulls couples back from the brink. We asked Michele to bust some couple myths and set us straight. Boy, she knows her stuff. Books by Michelle Weiner-Davis: Divorce Busting, The Divorce Remedy, Healing from Infidelity, The Sex-Starved Marriage, The Sex-Starved Wife.The Sex-Starved Marriage, a Ted Talk by Michelle Weiner-Davis.UPDATED: WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.Here is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU:Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/fluster.And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual Masterclass membership at masterclass.com/fluster.To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​.Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift!For a free electric mixer and 40% off the coffee, plus free US shipping, go to Trumeta.com/Fluster to fuel your productivity and creativity with some delicious mushroom coffee.Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dating and doubt go together like peanut butter and jelly. Anxiety and worry love to invade, looking for certainty in every text, post, and conversation. And what about parenting teens through this stage? Teens are (developmentally) driving full speed while we’d like them to pump the brakes. In this episode, what you need to know about worry, dating, ruminating and relationships. UPDATED: WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.Here is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU:Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/fluster.And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual Masterclass membership at masterclass.com/fluster.To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​.Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift!For a free electric mixer and 40% off the coffee, plus free US shipping, go to Trumeta.com/Fluster to fuel your productivity and creativity with some delicious mushroom coffee.Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Seeking therapy for you or your child can feel like a big step for many reasons. Combined with busy schedules and long waiting lists, and affordability getting help can be unobtainable. In this episode, we talk about how to overcome some of those barriers, with DIY ideas and great resources available right now.Books, podcast & websites referenced in this episode:ADHD Expert Dr. Sharon SalineHow to Recover from Depression: A talk on Youtube by Michael YapkoBreaking the Patterns of Depression by Michael YapkoADHD DUDE Ryan WexelblattThe Puberty PodcastThe Emotional Lives of Teenagers by Lisa DamorThe Anxiety Audit by Lynn LyonsAnxious Kids, Anxious Parents by Reid Wilson & Lynn LyonsWhat to Do When Your Brain Gets Stuck by Dawn HuebnerFeeling Great by David BurnsStopping the Noise in Your Head by Reid WilsonAnxieties.com [Website of Reid Wilson]Overcoming Unwanted Intrusive Thoughts by Sally Winston & Martin SeifNo Time to Panic by Matt GutmanUPDATED: WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.Here is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU:Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/fluster.And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/fluster.To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​.Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift!For a free electric mixer and 40% off the coffee, plus free US shipping, go to Trumeta.com/Fluster to fuel your productivity and creativity with some delicious mushroom coffee.Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Categories and labels are appealing because they help us make sense of a complex world. And there are definitely times when a label can help. But labels can also be limiting. When we label our kids—and when teens label themselves—we risk permanent and global identities that get in the way of growth and malleability. WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.Here is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU:Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/fluster.And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/fluster.To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​.Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift!For a free electric mixer and 40% off the coffee, plus free US shipping, go to Trumeta.com/Fluster to fuel your productivity and creativity with some delicious mushroom coffee.Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this recast of a popular episode, we talk about the parenting phrases we love, how they help with emotional management, and why you need to have a few of these in your back pocket, ready to use when needed. These help for your kids whether they are 3 or 33.WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.Here is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU:Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started.Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/fluster.Head to go.mycopilot.com/FLUSTERCLUX to get a 14 day FREE trial AND 20% off your first month of personalized fitness with your own personal trainer if you sign up before February 1st, 2024!And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/fluster.To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​.Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this recast of a popular Season 5 episode, we discuss how positive connection is the goal... but is there such a thing as too connected? Yup, and it’s called enmeshment. In this episode, Lynn and Robin talk privacy, autonomy, and boundaries. If your goal is to be “best friends” with your child, have a listen. WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.Here is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU:Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started.Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/fluster.Head to go.mycopilot.com/FLUSTERCLUX to get a 14 day FREE trial AND 20% off your first month of personalized fitness with your own personal trainer if you sign up before February 1st, 2024!And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/fluster.To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​.Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you afraid of your anxious child’s outbursts? Are you allowing those big tantrums to rule the house and dictate your parenting? Sparked by a listener question, this episode dives into a common problem: how do we change the family patterns caused by a rigid, anxious child’s explosive behavior? WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.Here is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU:Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started.Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/fluster.Head to go.mycopilot.com/FLUSTERCLUX to get a 14 day FREE trial AND 20% off your first month of personalized fitness with your own personal trainer if you sign up before February 1st, 2024!And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/fluster.To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​.Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Two (really) stressed gals show up for this episode to talk about injecting fun and playfulness into holiday events. Robin and Lynn share lots of ideas wrapped up in a little encouragement, and by the end, they both feel better. We think you will, too!WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.Here is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU:Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started.Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/fluster.Head to go.mycopilot.com/FLUSTERCLUX to get a 14 day FREE trial AND 20% off your first month of personalized fitness with your own personal trainer if you sign up before February 1st, 2024!And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/fluster.To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​.Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices