Death is a part of life, but it still scares most of us. When children experience death and other types of loss, they grieve in different ways, depending on age, family culture, and personality. How can you help your child deal with loss and grief, especially when you yourself are grieving? What can parents do and say to help children navigate a painful but universal human experience? And can we do better when showing our children how to support others? UPDATED: WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.Here is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU:Go to earthbreeze.com/FLUSTERCLUX for forty percent off your subscription!Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free at greenlight.com/fluster.Just go to the App Store or Google Play store and download the FREE Ibotta app, use code FLUSTER, and start earning cash back.To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​ get $80 off of your first month​.Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today. Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Every once in a while, teens need a pep talk that is based on accurate information and hopeful language about their moods, their relationships and their mental health.Anxiety and depression are common and powerful but not inevitable and certainly not permanent. Listen to this with your teen. Then, have a talk and listen more. UPDATED: WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.Here is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU:Go to earthbreeze.com/FLUSTERCLUX for forty percent off your subscription!Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free at greenlight.com/fluster.Just go to the App Store or Google Play store and download the FREE Ibotta app, use code FLUSTER, and start earning cash back.To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​ get $80 off of your first month​.Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today. Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s a fact: some kids need more social coaching than others. And if your child (or you!) struggle with anxiety, practicing social skills is both more challenging and more vital. How do we enhance our kids’ ability to make good friends? The research offers some interesting do’s and don’ts that will be helpful to all parents! UPDATED: WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.Here is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU:Go to earthbreeze.com/FLUSTERCLUX for forty percent off your subscription!Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free at greenlight.com/fluster.Just go to the App Store or Google Play store and download the FREE Ibotta app, use code FLUSTER, and start earning cash back.To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​ get $80 off of your first month​.Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today. Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lynn often says that the hardest people to work with in her practice are the ones that don’t own their own stuff. In this episode, we talk about owning patterns in your marriage. Both Robin and Lynn work with their husbands and both are consistently working on owning and breaking patterns. Do you get defensive? Of course you do! We’ll get specific in this episode. UPDATED: WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.Here is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU:Go to earthbreeze.com/FLUSTERCLUX for forty percent off your subscription!Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free at greenlight.com/fluster.Just go to the App Store or Google Play store and download the FREE Ibotta app, use code FLUSTER, and start earning cash back.To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​ get $80 off of your first month​.Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today. Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A global cognitive style, to use the fancy terminology, means that your perceptions of the world or yourself are broad and overly general: “All dogs are mean” or “I never get anything right.” Because this pattern is a solid predictor for depression and anxiety, it’s one to recognize and interrupt. We’ll talk about how to make helpful shifts in your family. UPDATED: WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.Here is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU:Go to earthbreeze.com/FLUSTERCLUX for forty percent off your subscription!Just go to the App Store or Google Play store and download the FREE Ibotta app, use code FLUSTER, and start earning cash back .And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual Masterclass membership at masterclass.com/fluster.To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​.Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift!Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As college acceptance letters arrive, it 's timely to revisit this popular episode from Season 4!Parents and students are focusing on college admissions earlier and earlier, hoping to get a head start on what has become an increasingly competitive race through high school. They say they want their kids to be “happy” and “successful” in college, but if parents are obsessed with the "getting in," are they developing the right skills to help them thrive once there? Anxiety expert and therapist Lynn Lyons shares her perspective after treating teens for decades through this process (and well after).We invite you to listen (or re-listen!) to our prior episode, "High Anxiety & Good Grades: Our Toxic Achievement Culture".UPDATED: WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.Here is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU:Go to earthbreeze.com/FLUSTERCLUX for forty percent off your subscription!Just go to the App Store or Google Play store and download the FREE Ibotta app, use code FLUSTER, and start earning cash back .And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual Masterclass membership at masterclass.com/fluster.To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​.Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift!Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Adults often wonder why the “plan” they have in place for their anxious child doesn’t work. In this episode, Lynn explains why this happens (your goals and hopes aren’t enough) and what to do instead (it’s all about the skills to manage worry when it arrives.) UPDATED: WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.Here is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU:Go to earthbreeze.com/FLUSTERCLUX for forty percent off your subscription!Just go to the App Store or Google Play store and download the FREE Ibotta app, use code FLUSTER, and start earning cash back .And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual Masterclass membership at masterclass.com/fluster.To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​.Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift!Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lynn often refers to anxiety as a cult leader: powerful, demanding compliance, and full of rigid rules. What happens when one family member wants out? Or when a long generational pattern of worry resists any change? In this episode, we break down the pull of the anxiety cult and how to change the rules for you and your family, even when others refuse.UPDATED: WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.Here is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU:Go to earthbreeze.com/FLUSTERCLUX for forty percent off your subscription!Just go to the App Store or Google Play store and download the FREE Ibotta app, use code FLUSTER, and start earning cash back .And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual Masterclass membership at masterclass.com/fluster.To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​.Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift!Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lately listeners have been asking about performance anxiety, particularly when it shows up in sports. Should we push our child to compete? What if they love to practice but don’t perform during games? The truth is that very few children will actually become pro athletes, so sports and other activities become opportunities to learn valuable anxiety and emotional management skills. Here is the Today show article which Lynn mentions:Should you let your kids quit? Experts share advice on when to know it’s OKUPDATED: WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.Here is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU:Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/fluster.And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual Masterclass membership at masterclass.com/fluster.To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​.Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift!For a free electric mixer and 40% off the coffee, plus free US shipping, go to Trumeta.com/Fluster to fuel your productivity and creativity with some delicious mushroom coffee.Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when children are the absolute focus of a family? Marriages suffer, says Michele Weiner-Davis, a renowned relationship expert who pulls couples back from the brink. We asked Michele to bust some couple myths and set us straight. Boy, she knows her stuff. Books by Michelle Weiner-Davis: Divorce Busting, The Divorce Remedy, Healing from Infidelity, The Sex-Starved Marriage, The Sex-Starved Wife.The Sex-Starved Marriage, a Ted Talk by Michelle Weiner-Davis.UPDATED: WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.Here is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection. WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you! FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU:Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/fluster.And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual Masterclass membership at masterclass.com/fluster.To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​.Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift!For a free electric mixer and 40% off the coffee, plus free US shipping, go to Trumeta.com/Fluster to fuel your productivity and creativity with some delicious mushroom coffee.Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices