Not disappointing others seems like a good thing, right? But when make it your global goal, you will decrease your credibility and increase your own feelings of resentment. In this mini episode we talk about the benefits of knowing how and when to say no.WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.Here is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU:Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started.Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/fluster.Head to go.mycopilot.com/FLUSTERCLUX to get a 14 day FREE trial AND 20% off your first month of personalized fitness with your own personal trainer if you sign up before February 1st, 2024!And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/fluster.To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​.Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this not-to-be missed episode, Lynn and Robin talk to the expert Lynn values most, Dr. Michael Yapko. Dr. Yapko is one of the world’s foremost experts on depression, how it moves through families, and what parents need to do about prevention. He knows the research and shares it, busting myths and offering advice we guarantee you haven’t heard before. WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.Here is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU:Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started.Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/fluster.Head to go.mycopilot.com/FLUSTERCLUX to get a 14 day FREE trial AND 20% off your first month of personalized fitness with your own personal trainer if you sign up before February 1st, 2024!And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/fluster.To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​.Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Many parents struggle with the question of how to help a child who feels overwhelmed in an unfamiliar situation, by loud noises, or the start of a new activity. When do we gently push them forward, when do we let them avoid, and how do we handle our own worry so it doesn’t add to the problem?  CHECK OUT OUR PLAYLISTS ON SPECIFIC MENTAL HEALTH & PARENTING TOPICSHere is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.TAKE A COURSE ON ANXIETY MANAGEMENTExplore our additional resources for adults and children.FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU:Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started.Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/fluster.Head to go.mycopilot.com/FLUSTERCLUX to get a 14 day FREE trial AND 20% off your first month of personalized fitness with your own personal trainer if you sign up before February 1st, 2024!And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/fluster.To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​.Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Families will often avoid game night or other family competitions if a child has difficulty losing. Or they require the game to be “fixed” so the bad loser doesn’t lose. Games (and winning and losing) offer great opportunities to practice flexibility and emotional management, and in this mini-episode, we’ll tell you how.NEW!WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.Here is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOUGo to beekeepersnaturals.com/FLUSTERCLUX or enter code FLUSTERCLUX to get 20% off your order.Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started.Head to factormeals.com/fluster50 and use code fluster50 to get 50% off.Find and download Give As We Grow for free in the app store for Android and iOS. And for resources for the whole family, visit giveaswegrow.org.And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/fluster.As a special, limited time offer for our listeners, get $15 off your purchase of a Skylight Frame when you go SkylightFrame.com/flusterclux.To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​.Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this recast of a popular episode from last year, we tackle the statements our friends and families use when they're staying stuck in their anxiety patterns.If you hear them or use them, listen up. We have responses ready to go.WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.Here is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOUGo to beekeepersnaturals.com/FLUSTERCLUX or enter code FLUSTERCLUX to get 20% off your order.Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started.Head to factormeals.com/fluster50 and use code fluster50 to get 50% off.Find and download Give As We Grow for free in the app store for Android and iOS. And for resources for the whole family, visit giveaswegrow.org.And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/fluster.As a special, limited time offer for our listeners, get $15 off your purchase of a Skylight Frame when you go SkylightFrame.com/flusterclux.To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​.Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Although the holidays can be special, the patterns that show up in people are predictable, even if it is Thanksgiving or Christmas. Critical parent? Passive aggressive sibling? Catastrophic you? In this episode, we talk about the most common and stressful holiday traps and how you and your family can disrupt them.NEW!WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.Here is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOUGo to beekeepersnaturals.com/FLUSTERCLUX or enter code FLUSTERCLUX to get 20% off your order.Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started.Head to factormeals.com/fluster50 and use code fluster50 to get 50% off.Find and download Give As We Grow for free in the app store for Android and iOS. And for resources for the whole family, visit giveaswegrow.org.And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/fluster.As a special, limited time offer for our listeners, get $15 off your purchase of a Skylight Frame when you go SkylightFrame.com/flusterclux.To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​.Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

 Anxiety is about “what if,” but with the reality of violence and war, we are now living with “what is.” As parents, How do we process the ongoing news and graphic images of terror in our world? How do we help our children and where do we look for connection? NEW!WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.Here is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOUGo to beekeepersnaturals.com/FLUSTERCLUX or enter code FLUSTERCLUX to get 20% off your order.Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started.Head to factormeals.com/fluster50 and use code fluster50 to get 50% off.Find and download Give As We Grow for free in the app store for Android and iOS. And for resources for the whole family, visit giveaswegrow.org.And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/fluster.As a special, limited time offer for our listeners, get $15 off your purchase of a Skylight Frame when you go SkylightFrame.com/flusterclux.To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​.Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Robin is up to her eyeballs in the college application process, so we pulled in two great people to help her and you: a school counselor on the front lines, and Jill Shulman, college admissions coach, author and sane person who founded the Chill Parents’ Revolution. There is so much wisdom here for parents! NEW!WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.Here is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOUGo to beekeepersnaturals.com/FLUSTERCLUX or enter code FLUSTERCLUX to get 20% off your order.Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started.Head to factormeals.com/fluster50 and use code fluster50 to get 50% off.Find and download Give As We Grow for free in the app store for Android and iOS. And for resources for the whole family, visit giveaswegrow.org.And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/fluster.As a special, limited time offer for our listeners, get $15 off your purchase of a Skylight Frame when you go SkylightFrame.com/flusterclux.To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​.Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Knowing when you need professional help and when to let your child “grow out of it” is a tricky question…sometimes. In this episode, Lynn and Robin talk about when to allow some time and space (imaginary nephews) and when to take action (selective mutism.)NEW!WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.Here is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOUGo to beekeepersnaturals.com/FLUSTERCLUX or enter code FLUSTERCLUX to get 20% off your order.Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started.Head to factormeals.com/fluster50 and use code fluster50 to get 50% off.Find and download Give As We Grow for free in the app store for Android and iOS. And for resources for the whole family, visit giveaswegrow.org.And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/fluster.As a special, limited time offer for our listeners, get $15 off your purchase of a Skylight Frame when you go SkylightFrame.com/flusterclux.To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to​get $80 off of your first month​.Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Helping people recognize and shift their own patterns is a key component of Lynn’s approach to emotional management. But there are three patterns that can really add discord in our personal relationships. Do you resist the urge to blame? Can you own your stuff? Can you communicate your feelings well? In this episode, we unpack these patterns and offer some ideas to shift them.Edie Brickell! Here's the song Nothing that we spoke of...and the Julia Louis-Dreyfuss podcast that is discussed.NEW!WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.Here is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOUHead to factormeals.com/fluster50 and use code fluster50 to get 50% off.Go to vessi.com/fluster and enter code fluster at checkout to receive your 15% discount!Download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours.Go to beekeepersnaturals.com/FLUSTERCLUX or enter code FLUSTERCLUX to get 20% off your order.Head to go.mycopilot.com/FLUSTERCLUX to get a 14-day FREE trial with your own personal trainer.To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to ​get $80 off of your first month​. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices