Couch talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dr. John Gottman discovered four negative behaviors, or “The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse,” that spell disaster for any relationship, and with them learned how to predict the failure or success of a relationship with a 90% accuracy rate. This week is the beginning of a 4 part series where we dive into each of the horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, & Stonewalling. We are starting our series with Criticism, which is usually the horseman that shows up first when there is an issue in a relationship and sets the tone for how the conversation plays out. It can have the power to turn a bid for connection into an argument, which pushes us further from each other. The good news is that Dr. Gottman not only provided us with language for the problems, he offered us solutions or “antidotes” for each horseman. Listen this week to hear how to move from Criticizing your partner and creating more chaos to expressing healthy complaints and creating space to lean into our relationships. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week in honor of National Eating Disorder Awareness Week, Kat answers 3 questions about eating disorders: 1. How can I handle the ups and downs between good recovery days and days I feel obsessed with food? 2. How do I express my concern to someone who I think might have an eating disorder? 3. What is the difference between an eating disorder and disordered eating?  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week is National Eating Disorder Awareness Week, a week to spread awareness, hope and resources for and about eating disorders. Most people who learn that eating disorders are the second deadliest mental health disorder are surprised, so the reason there has been so much uproar in the last couple of years about diet culture and the harm it causes goes wildly misunderstood. In honor of NEDA week, Kat explores and describes the polarizing experience happening now between diet culture and the more recent anti diet culture movement. And because this week is about hope- she talks about a position on this spectrum that might be more helpful than the options it feels like people have today.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answeres questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com.    This week on Couch Talks: Why all anxiety is not bad + Kat shares an experience she had recently at the doctor’s office when she asked not to see her weight.   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Tara Booker is back for another installment of “The Difference Between,” a series where we break down the difference between a mental health related topic and how it shows up in pop culture. This week we rolled it back to the basics and talked about what therapy really is versuses how some popular tv shows portray it. Spoiler: It isn’t just us nodding our heads and asking you how you feel and it also isn’t us telling you what to do!   Then we breakdown why sometimes “No” is a complete sentence and why sometimes its helpful to offer more information when setting a boundary. It all goes back to the grey nuanced reality of what relationships really are- and there isn’t a right way that works all of the time!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com.   This week’s question: My roommate has a partner that I really dislike for many reasons. I love my roommate individually but when they are together, it feels like my roommate is a different person which has caused me to put more distance between us. How do you suggest tackling a tricky area like this?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat is going solo to talk about one of those things that comes up in therapy all the timeeee. Motivation, and the possible lack of it. In this episode Kat explains why when people are searching for “motivation” they are often searching for the wrong thing. Plus, she gives 4 tips to help conjure up the energy that we may need to do that thing that we want to do!  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where listeners send questions to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com.  This week we have a more specific follow up to last week's question about therapists finding closure when clients terminate the therapeutic relationship.  The three more detailed questions explored in this episode are:  1. How do you find a sense of closure when there is no final conversation to process ending a therapist-client relationship? 2. What is the best way to respond to an email when a client wishes to discontinue therapy for the time being? 3. Is there a way for early therapists to communicate that therapy is not only used to process negative thoughts and events, but also maintenance and process positive thoughts and events?  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week y'all are in for A TREAT with our guest, Courtney Grimes, LCSW.  Courtney’s passion for helping others is something you will feel in the first 3 seconds of this episode. You will also probably laugh in the first few seconds because she is as hilarious as she is passionate and smart. This particular conversation was inspired by a comment that Courtney made on a work trip that she and Kat went on together when they were talking about the gaps and holes in the treatment and recovery process. Courtney said, "No one else cares about your recovery." This may at first sound off putting and harsh. But when you dig into it, this sentence offers up a huge serving of empowerment to take ownership and control of one's own life. What makes it so hard for people to maintain recovery at home when in treatment? Why do triggers pop up everywhere? What are we supposed to do with said triggers? How am I supposed to heal and be healthy if the world is so F*ed up??? You will find about 1 million reasons to take notes during this episode, so grab a pen and paper (or your notes app on your phone). One of Kat's favorite Courtney takeaways was, "Everything boils down to two things things: love and fear. Fear is made up of what if, versus what is. And what if isn’t real." So good, right??  Courtney co-founded a group therapy practice in Nashville called Symmetry Counseling. She serves as the Clinical Director for non-profit Renewed, and more recently founded The Collective. The Collective is an Extended Outpatient program, designed to bridge the gap between IOP and OP services, while providing a welcoming community for clients.  Follow The Collective on Instagram: @thecollectivenashville Follow Symmetry counting on Instagram: @symmertrycounselingnashville Follow Renewed on Instagram: @renewedsupport Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.