
You Need Therapy
Kathryn DeFatta, who has earned her Masters of Education from Vanderbilt University in Human Development Counseling, is inviting you into conversations around what it’s like to live fully in a world where we’ve become accustomed to shut parts of ourselves off. Here you will find a space that welcomes in discomfort, tough questions, and hard truths, all while showing how to find joy through it all.
Latest episodes

May 15, 2023 • 51min
The 7 Primal Questions with Mike Foster
Y’all are in for a treat today! Mike Foster is joining Kat on the podcast, and if you’re an avid listener of You Need Therapy, you have heard him being referenced a time or two… or three or four. Mike is a counselor, a coach, a former podcast host, speaker, author and all-around amazing human. This week he is spoiling us with the knowledge and powerful insight he gained after the over 4 years of research that led him to writing his new book: The Seven Primal Questions. “The Seven Primal Questions” is described as a simple way of seeing your hidden programming, emotional needs, and supernatural gifts in a transparent way. With it you can stop being controlled by old wounds and patterns that sabotage your story. Think attachment theory mixed with the enneagram topped off with a big warm hug. This interview is going to leave you connecting so many dots and wanting to ask so many questions and we are SO excited to get to share it with you! Follow Mike on instagram: @Mikefoster2000 The Seven Primal Questions Learn more about Mike: Mikefoster.tv Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

May 10, 2023 • 12min
Couch Talks: How to Cultivate Hope
Couch Talks is the special bonus episode that comes out every Wednesday where @Kat.DeFatta answers questions that listeners send to Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat shares 5 tips to help cultivate hope! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

May 8, 2023 • 54min
What Makes A Great Leader with Luke Durham
This week Kat welcomes back Luke Durham, CEO of Dream4, to talk all things leadership. In this episode, Luke talks to us about what all great leaders must possess, how to develop the skills that are crucial to leading a healthy team, and how ego gets in the way of the potential of great leadership. Follow Dream4 on Instagram: @dream4.co Work with Luke and learn more about Dream4: Dream4.co Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

May 3, 2023 • 11min
Couch Talks: My Long Distance Partner Is Feeling Distant
Couch Talks is the special bonus episode that comes out every Wednesday where @Kat.DeFatta answers questions that listeners send to Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, a listener writes in to ask for help in managing conflict with their current partner who they are in a long distance relationship with. Kat talks about conflicting insecure attachments and the difference in feeling safe and comfortable in relationships. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

May 1, 2023 • 35min
Is Living With Your Partner Before You Get Married Bad? with Patrick Van Buren
Research tell us that living together before marriage increases the probability of a couple getting divorced by 50%. Yea, you read that correctly... you are MORE likely to get divorced if you live with you partner before you get married. So, does that mean you shouldn't do it? Kat isn't quite convinced that that should be the main takeaway from this information... This week, Kat dives into cohabitation before marriage... Should couples do it? And wait- what if someone doesn't want to get married ever- are they allowed to live with their partners? Apparently millennials are getting married later in life and realizing that life isn't just about creating the nuclear family we grew up watching on tv. . . so how is this effecting divorce rates? You'll hear about this PLUS Kat and her fiancé, Patrick Van Buren, talk about how their views on living with a partner before marriage have shifted throughout both their lives. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Apr 26, 2023 • 15min
Couch Talks: My Relationship Doesn't Fit Societal Norms
Couch Talks is the special bonus episode that comes out every Wednesday where @Kat.DeFatta answers questions that listeners send to Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat talks about why people make such a big deal about age difference in relationships how and how approach people who make judgmental comments about them. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Apr 24, 2023 • 1h 16min
Finding Liberation From Prison Through Art with Tara and Omari Booker
This week we get to have two guests! One you are familiar with and one you haven’t met yet, Tara and Omari Booker. Omari is Tara's partner and an artist who currently has a solo exhibit showing at Elephant Gallery In Nashville titled, Fifteen. (Showing through May 20, 2023) Fifteen marks a very important part of Omari's story, the end of his parole following a 15 year prison sentence. In this episode, we talk candidly about Omari and Tara's emotional, mental, and spiritual experience during this time. Within the last 15 years, Omari found both relationships and art to be two of the most valuable resources and healing agents in his story. Our conversation walks us through how he accessed hope in unimaginable circumstances and how he specifically used art to find freedom and liberation from prisons constructed both personally and socially. Learn about Omari and his work HERE Follow Omari on Instagram: @omaribooker Visit Fifteen at Elephant Gallery Read about Fifteen in Nashville Scene Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Apr 19, 2023 • 13min
Couch Talks: When Is It Okay to Give an Ultimatum?
Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that you send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week: How do I address the future of my relationship with my boyfriend of three years without sounding pushy or like I am giving an ultimatum? Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Apr 17, 2023 • 25min
The Four Horseman of the Relationship Apocalypse Part 4: Stonewalling
Dr. John Gottman discovered four negative behaviors, or “The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse,” that spell disaster for any relationship, and with them learned how to predict the failure or success of a relationship with a 90% accuracy rate. This week is the fourth and final installment of a 4 part series where we dive into each of the horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, & Stonewalling. We are digging into stonewalling today. This week you will learn what stonewalling looks like, why it pops up, and what the antidote to this toxic communication technique is! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Apr 12, 2023 • 15min
Couch Talks: What Does Exercise Addiction Look Like?
Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that you send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.