Grace + Boundaries: Navigating Intergenerational Trauma with Erin Hearts
Erin Hearts
Grace + Boundaries is a weekly memoir in a podcast! Follow host, Erin Hearts, as she shares how she navigates trauma while setting boundaries from her higher self. Traumas, big or small, can add up to broken relationships within a family. These traumas continue being passed down until we take steps to repair and mend our broken hearts with self-care and psychological education. Gaining emotional maturity is also a large part of the path towards grace and boundaries. Erin has walked the path of trauma recovery for the past decade, and is learning day by day how to evolve from the hurt she feels in order to become the graceful, loving woman she has always intended to be. Erin has a Master's degree in Education, creatively teaches middle school, is a musician, and loves being a single mom to her tweenaged boy. Grace + Boundaries has been the name of this podcast since July 2023. From November 2021- June 2023, this podcast was called "Self-Care for Survivors of Trauma." This podcast is a community of honest, open-minded survivors of all types of trauma, big and small. Each week, host Erin Hearts will discuss an aspect of self-care- emotional, physical, spiritual, etc.- and share how she navigates life's challenges by doing special things for herself and making time for herself each day. Erin believes that learning how to take care of ourselves is the key to healthy relationships with others, and she's devoted the past six years to studying and practicing how to better love and support herself and her loved ones. Erin is a single mom, teacher, musician, and highly sensitive person. Instagram: @iheartserin
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Jun 21, 2022 • 19min
Episode 30: Sound Healing Therapy and Letting Go of Fear
I describe my lonely and guilty feelings as a divorced parent with her child gone for an extended period of time. Then I share about my recent sound healing session and how it brought me freedom and closure surrounding my fear of not being a good enough mom. Interested in a sound healing session with my therapist? You can go to http://www.Lynnestukart.com or email her at LynneStukart@gmail .com. Thank you for listening! I'd love to hear what you think of the episode or what's on your mind. Healing is possible! I'd love to hear from you! https://www.instagram.com/iheartserin/Please rate and review the podcast to let me know you're listening! Thank you!
Jun 14, 2022 • 19min
Episode 29: Covert Family Dysfunction
It is possible that your family has some dysfunctional patterns and you don't know it? Unfortunately, it sure is. I will talk about the covert dysfunction that cropped up in my life when I was a teenager, which I minimized most of my life. Then I will list markers of dysfunction that ourselves and family members might unconsciously demonstrate. The goal is to identify our patterns so that we can educate ourselves and hopefully become cylce-breakers that stop perpetuating the dysfunction and instead, share healthy behaviors with the world. Healing is possible! I'd love to hear from you! https://www.instagram.com/iheartserin/Please rate and review the podcast to let me know you're listening! Thank you!
Jun 7, 2022 • 18min
Episode 28: I Can't Feel my Mom's Love
It's a bold statement, but my inner child feels it deeply. Love in a dysfucntional or enmeshed family is not love, it's codependency and control. What is love? What is the kind of love that we want to show our children and others? We all might have different definitions, but the question is universally human. I share my definition of what love feels like to me. I tell a story about being triggered by my mom recently and how I'm trying my best to learn how to love to break the cycle of disconnection in my family. Thank you for listening! Healing is possible! I'd love to hear from you! https://www.instagram.com/iheartserin/Please rate and review the podcast to let me know you're listening! Thank you!
May 31, 2022 • 17min
Episode 27: When We're Sick
Being sick triggers feelings of guilt for me. I feel guilty taking time off work when I know it will be a burden on others. I feel guilty not being the peppy mom to my son on the weekends when I need to rest. Going to the doctor even usually makes me feel worse because they are always so rushed and jaded. Do you take time off work when you're sick? If so, good for you! That's the way it should be in a healthier society, right? Take care, survivors! Healing is possible! I'd love to hear from you! https://www.instagram.com/iheartserin/Please rate and review the podcast to let me know you're listening! Thank you!
May 24, 2022 • 18min
Episode 26: The Ups and Downs of Parenting
Do you notice the constant ebb and flow of parenting? Sometimes it feels like I'm rocking it, then five minutes later I'm rubbing my forehead with weariness. I discuss my "peak" on Friday going on my son's field trip, then the "pit" Saturday morning when I had to complete a messy art project that was in danger of staining my whole house. I tell the story of our weekend and how I chose to put my need for rest first, even in light of my son's whininess about not getting to have friends to play with (they were sick.) How do you put your self-care needs above those of your family members at times? It's a hard decision, but I know it's better for everyone if I choose NOT to be the martyr. Healing is possible! I'd love to hear from you! https://www.instagram.com/iheartserin/Please rate and review the podcast to let me know you're listening! Thank you!
May 17, 2022 • 8min
Episode 25: AFGO
Do you know what AFGO is? Maybe it will help you the next time you feel stressed out or shameful. I discuss my son's obsession with bad words and how I had a difficult weekend where I labeled what I was going through as AFGO to make myself laugh. Healing is possible! I'd love to hear from you! https://www.instagram.com/iheartserin/Please rate and review the podcast to let me know you're listening! Thank you!
May 10, 2022 • 18min
Episode 24: Connecting with your Inner Child
Do you believe in the concept of the inner child? It feels woo-woo to me, but I like woo-woo. Also, it's undeniable to me that I have connected with parts of me that are younger ages and been able to see that part as a child in my mind's eye. I discuss how my therapist has introduced me to different ages of myself through my "parts" (Internal Family Systems Therapy). Giving these misbehaving parts a voice is what we need to do to reintegrate that part into our system. I give an example of how this is done. At the end I suggest using nondominant handwriting as a way to give your inner child a voice when they are upset and leading you down unhealthy pathways. Thanks for listening! Healing is possible! I'd love to hear from you! https://www.instagram.com/iheartserin/Please rate and review the podcast to let me know you're listening! Thank you!
May 2, 2022 • 20min
Episode 23: Healthy Priorities
What does having healthy priorities mean to you? For me it means allowing myself to put my self-care and my son before my work. I used to live to work and now I work to live. I share what unhealthy priorities looked like for me in the past and I tell a story about me making better decisions and learning how to live by my values and priorities for a happier life. Healing is possible! I'd love to hear from you! https://www.instagram.com/iheartserin/Please rate and review the podcast to let me know you're listening! Thank you!
Apr 25, 2022 • 20min
Episode 22: What is Codependence?
I've had so many people ask me, what is codependence? It's difficult term to define, but I take a stab at in in this episode. I read some indicators of codependency from Melody Beattie's famous book Codependent No More and share a couple personal stories about how I first knew I might be codependent and the codependent slip-up I went through this week.Here's my favorite list of codependent patterns to help you better understand and identify these unhealthy behaviors. This list also includes opposite, healthy behaviors: http://www.coda-tulsa.org/pdf/recoverypatterns.pdf?msclkid=ec2b1fe6c44e11ecb1a874677f065a85Codependent No More https://melodybeattie.com/?msclkid=bab11cccc44e11eca84a31107e6f6823Codependents Anonymous Blue Book https://www.corepublications.org/?msclkid=7ef57d9bc44e11ec87a7dd8bd38eb5ea Codependents Anonymous https://coda.org/ Healing is possible! I'd love to hear from you! https://www.instagram.com/iheartserin/Please rate and review the podcast to let me know you're listening! Thank you!
Apr 18, 2022 • 21min
Episode 21: Criticism from Others
The podcast explores the speaker's journey with criticism, shame, and trauma, and shares strategies for overcoming these challenges. It discusses the power of embracing fear and creativity, the importance of therapy and tapping for emotional release, and the opportunity for personal growth through handling criticism.
