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In today’s episode we are diving deep into the ambivalent attachment style, where it comes from, how it shows up in your relationships and how you can start rewiring it.If you often feel like you’re too much and not enough or constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop in relationships, this one is for you. Understanding Attachment:o Attachment is a biological system, its innate.o Attachment is developed within relationshipso People with adverse childhood experiences, experience higher levels or incidences of insecure/anxious attachment.o Internal working models (blueprint)- patterns of relating are internalised = how we relate to others.We have a pro-social system – our system wants to return to secure attachment so it’s possible for everyone.Attachment styles are designed to; maximise available care provided by the caregiver and limit the level of distress.We dive into the following:The Ambivalant Attachment Style develops when there is inconsistency in the way the caregiver responds to the child. The Fear of Being Left •How it shows up in adult relationships•The loop: fear > control > guilt > shameRewiring & Repair  Nervous system!!!-Corrective experience of being present with love and connection -Secure attachment rituals – e.g. before bed connection and rituals because that can be a separation too. Greetings!! Our systems are delicate and responsive and that’s a strength too-Learn how to make requests in a positive way (no shame/blame) -The story I’m telling myself about being unloveable -Notice caring behaviours without deflection Let us know if you'd like more attachment episodes!!You can find more of us here: Our Online Psychology practice: Did you know we have online appointments available with our amazing therapists Lisa or Maddie. Learn more here https://thepsychcollaborative.com.au The Thriving Therapists: To connect with a safe and supportive community of like-minded therapists, head to our Thriving Therapists Facebook group: https://m.facebook.com/groups/224252457083630/?ref=share&mibextid=S66gvFOr find us on our Instagram: https://instagram.com/thethrivingtherapists?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA==The Psychology Sisters Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/thepsychologysisters/?hl=enThe Psych Collaborative instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/thepsychcollaborative/?hl=enPlease note: this episode is for informational purposes only and does not replace personalised psychological advice.

hello psychology sistas and mistas!! Welcome back to another unfiltered episode!Kat's pit was forgetting to press record on the first episode we recorded!! Her Peek is taking herself out on dates and having treats with herself, savouring being in her own company and loving time with herself. Aimee's pit was also being a tech tragic! Aimee share's her LOVE for the week is Siren's on Netflix and organising her phone notifications so she is less interrupted and more focused.Is it OK to track my partner’s phone?Care vs. controlWhen it might feel justifiableThe emotional cost of surveillanceTrust Tech, boundaries, and healthy communicationCatch-up friends A reflection on how friendships today are often built on updates instead of shared moments — and how that shapes connection, loneliness, and meaning.Why is it easier to catch up than to connect?The role of effort and planning in adult friendshipsWhat would it look like to make “new memories” this week?We hope you love this episode!!Aimee + Kat xYou can find more of us here: Our Online Psychology practice: Did you know we have online appointments available with our amazing therapists Lisa or Maddie. Learn more here https://thepsychcollaborative.com.au The Thriving Therapists: To connect with a safe and supportive community of like-minded therapists, head to our Thriving Therapists Facebook group: https://m.facebook.com/groups/224252457083630/?ref=share&mibextid=S66gvFOr find us on our Instagram: https://instagram.com/thethrivingtherapists?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA==The Psychology Sisters Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/thepsychologysisters/?hl=enThe Psych Collaborative instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/thepsychcollaborative/?hl=enPlease note: this episode is for informational purposes only and does not replace personalised psychological advice.

hello lovely listeners!! Welcome back to another unhinged/ unfiltered episode! Loves and leaves: Kat's love this week is a fun, easy, watch on Netflix - Ransom Canyon. Aimee has been loving going back to comfort consumption in Grey's anatomy on Disney+. No leaves this week, just love!!Pit and Peak of the week: Aimee discusses being in the tension of trade offs of getting the things you choose. Being in a transition stage can be tricky because it requires re-prioritising things. The reality of this can feel like restriction or a loss of agency - even though you chose it. Aimee reflects on struggling with a loss of agency and choice in this new stage of life and sitting in the trade off of juggling it all. Aimee also discusses working on practicing asking for help and the relationships blossoming as a result. Kat has a toilet blunder with some unfortunate toilet events. In this episode we discuss:Red pill men - emotional intelligence is the new dating currency?Red Pill men are individuals who embrace a philosophy that emphasises self-reliance, emotional detachment, and a belief in gender dynamics shaped by evolutionary psychology, often focused on avoiding vulnerability and maximising personal power in relationships.•These men may struggle with deep emotional connection.•They protect their independence so fiercely that true intimacy feels unsafe or emasculating.Red Pill is a reaction to wounded AttachmentThe miserable parents Vs happy single narrative:•Societal Expectations: From childhood, many people are socially conditioned to view marriage and parenthood as the ultimate goal.•Narrative Shift: Media often portrays parents, especially mothers, as overwhelmed or struggling. This reinforces the idea that parenthood is exhausting and fulfilling only through sacrifice. •Social Media and Idealisation: Social media plays a huge role in perpetuating the miserable parent vs. happy single dichotomy. •The Grass is Greener Fallacy: Comparing your life to an idealised version of someone else’s is a form of social comparison. The Truth: It’s About Personal Fit: Both parents and singles can experience profound satisfaction and stress. The key is recognising that there’s no one-size-fits-all approach to happiness. You can find more of us here: Our Online Psychology practice: Did you know we have online appointments available with our amazing therapists Lisa or Maddie. Learn more here https://thepsychcollaborative.com.au The Thriving Therapists: To connect with a safe and supportive community of like-minded therapists, head to our Thriving Therapists Facebook group: https://m.facebook.com/groups/224252457083630/?ref=share&mibextid=S66gvFOr find us on our Instagram: https://instagram.com/thethrivingtherapists?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA==The Psychology Sisters Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/thepsychologysisters/?hl=enThe Psych Collaborative instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/thepsychcollaborative/?hl=enPlease note: this episode is for informational purposes only and does not replace personalised psychological advice.

Hellooooooooooo and welcome back to a psychology mama's episode!If you grew up in the ’90s or early 2000s, you probably remember it well — low-rise jeans, calorie-counting, and the constant message that thinness equaled beauty, success, and self-worth. Many of us internalised those messages before we even understood them. We learned to shrink ourselves — literally and figuratively — to fit into a version of ‘enough’ that was never really about health or happiness.Now, as adults — and for some of us, as parents — we’re starting to unlearn it. We’re beginning to ask: What if our bodies were never the problem? What if we could break the cycle, not just for ourselves but for the next generation?Thinness was never the real goal — it was approval, love, and belonging. I don’t want my child to grow up believing that her body is a problem to be solved.In this episode, we’re diving into toxic body culture, the lingering effects of diet culture, the rise of the ‘almond mom,’ and what it really means to raise children — and ourselves — in a world that still hasn’t made peace with body diversity. I’m not just raising a child. I’m re-raising myself.This is personal, powerful, and deeply necessary. Let’s talk about it.”You can find more of us here: Our Online Psychology practice: Did you know we have online appointments available with our amazing therapists Lisa or Maddie. Learn more here https://thepsychcollaborative.com.au The Thriving Therapists: To connect with a safe and supportive community of like-minded therapists, head to our Thriving Therapists Facebook group: https://m.facebook.com/groups/224252457083630/?ref=share&mibextid=S66gvFOr find us on our Instagram: https://instagram.com/thethrivingtherapists?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA==The Psychology Sisters Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/thepsychologysisters/?hl=enThe Psych Collaborative instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/thepsychcollaborative/?hl=enPlease note: this episode is for informational purposes only and does not replace personalised psychological advice.

Hello lovely listeners!Join us for a very unfiltered chat discussing some concerning trends we are seeing making the rounds on social media.Why are we going back to trends that we know have been so damaging?Before we get into today's episode, Kat shares her pit of struggling with a loud inner critic and her peak of exciting business ventures, feeling aligned with work and enjoying the ride. Aimee shares an embarrassing couch blunder as her pit and a peak enjoying some wholesome time with friends and her relationship with alcohol changing. We hope you enjoy! Don't forget to comment and follow if you like this episode. Aimee + KatYou can find more of us here: Our Online Psychology practice: Did you know we have online appointments available with our amazing therapists Lisa or Maddie. Learn more here https://thepsychcollaborative.com.au The Thriving Therapists: To connect with a safe and supportive community of like-minded therapists, head to our Thriving Therapists Facebook group: https://m.facebook.com/groups/224252457083630/?ref=share&mibextid=S66gvFOr find us on our Instagram: https://instagram.com/thethrivingtherapists?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA==The Psychology Sisters Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/thepsychologysisters/?hl=enThe Psych Collaborative instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/thepsychcollaborative/?hl=enPlease note: this episode is for informational purposes only and does not replace personalised psychological advice.

Hello lovely listeners!! Strap in for a goodie this morning as we have the incredible producer Keeshia joining us to lift the cloud on ADHD!Keeshia may be best known as producer Keeshia on the "Life Uncut" podcast. Recently she has started her own podcast called "Cloud" which she created to discuss ADHD and late age diagnosis; a conversation that was sparked after Keeshia’s own diagnosis. The name Cloud is inspired by the experiences of many late-diagnosed women who describe finally feeling like a “cloud was lifted” after learning more about the different ways that their brains work and how they ‘fit’ into society.With all of the content about ADHD on social media explaining what the condition is, she’s been on quite a journey figuring out the difference between what I thought were personality flaws and what is actually symptomatic of this condition. We speak with Keeshia about the following topics:•ADHD diagnosis journey, in particular hesitations with starting the diagnostic process and then sharing.•One consistent topic that comes up for us with clients is "I want to explore ADHD  but I don't want to be dismissed, 'or be part of a trend'. Keeshia shares advice for anyone who wants to explore ADHD but is fearful of 'jumping on the bandwagon'.•How your relationship with yourself has changed since your diagnosis.•What you noticed about the impact of undiagnosed ADHD on your relationships with those around you. We couldn't have loved our time with Keeshia more, she is so articulate, vulnerable and generous in this interview. We hope you love it too!Let us know what you think in the comments.Happy listening,Aimee and KatYou can find more of Keeshia here: Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/welcome-to-cloud/id1472126503?i=1000694097053Instagram: @keeshiapettitYou can find more of us here: Our Online Psychology practice: Did you know we have online appointments available with our amazing therapists Lisa or Maddie. Learn more here https://thepsychcollaborative.com.au The Thriving Therapists: To connect with a safe and supportive community of like-minded therapists, head to our Thriving Therapists Facebook group: https://m.facebook.com/groups/224252457083630/?ref=share&mibextid=S66gvFOr find us on our Instagram: https://instagram.com/thethrivingtherapists?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA==The Psychology Sisters Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/thepsychologysisters/?hl=enThe Psych Collaborative instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/thepsychcollaborative/?hl=enPlease note: this episode is for informational purposes only and does not replace personalised psychological advice.

Hello hello!Welcome back for a deep dive into hyper-independence. Independence is praised a lot in our society and often described as a strength, so can you be too independent?Here's a little summary of what we dive into:Signs of hyper-independence, how would you know if you were too independent?Hyper-independence is often a solution to instability and inconsistency e.g. if family is unstable the solution is my own rules for security and certainty. Rules and self-reliance compensate for unmet needs and the emotional guidance that you didn’t get.Rooted in control, fear and mistrust.Attachment and dependence. To foster healthy independence, we must first invite dependence. We need to have had enough consistency, safety and security to develop a healthy level of autonomy.How to work towards interdependence (healthy independence)We loved having this conversation on hyper-independence and this quote can be so relevant:  "what keeps you safe keeps you lonely".Let us know what you think in the comments!Aimee + KatYou can find more of us here: Our Online Psychology practice: Did you know we have online appointments available with our amazing therapists Lisa or Maddie. Learn more here https://thepsychcollaborative.com.au The Thriving Therapists: To connect with a safe and supportive community of like-minded therapists, head to our Thriving Therapists Facebook group: https://m.facebook.com/groups/224252457083630/?ref=share&mibextid=S66gvFOr find us on our Instagram: https://instagram.com/thethrivingtherapists?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA==The Psychology Sisters Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/thepsychologysisters/?hl=enThe Psych Collaborative instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/thepsychcollaborative/?hl=enPlease note: this episode is for informational purposes only and does not replace personalised psychological advice.

Welcome back psycho sistas and mistas, we have another unfiltered episode for you!First up we discuss Kat's influential powers over raisin toast, we share our Pit and Peak and  “loves and leaves” of the week. Then, we share our thoughts on Let them theory: 1.Radical acceptance 2.Focus on letting go of what you can’t control 3.Cons – avoiding hard important conversations and not trauma informed. Next up we talk about brain fog and what the fuzziness is all about. Let us know your thoughts in the comments :)We hope you enjoy!Aimee + Kat You can find more of us here: Our Online Psychology practice: Did you know we have online appointments available with our amazing therapists Lisa or Maddie. Learn more here https://thepsychcollaborative.com.au The Thriving Therapists: To connect with a safe and supportive community of like-minded therapists, head to our Thriving Therapists Facebook group: https://m.facebook.com/groups/224252457083630/?ref=share&mibextid=S66gvFOr find us on our Instagram: https://instagram.com/thethrivingtherapists?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA==The Psychology Sisters Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/thepsychologysisters/?hl=enThe Psych Collaborative instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/thepsychcollaborative/?hl=enPlease note: this episode is for informational purposes only and does not replace personalised psychological advice.

Hey Mamas- welcome back to the first episode of The Psychology Mama's for the year!What is Matrescence and WHY did nobody teach us about it?!Well join us as we unpack the language around the fourth trimester and why one word in particular matters sooooo much!We discuss: •Transition to motherhood is forever•The motherhood mask•Anger and rage •Perfectionism and the shift •Expectations Vs social narratives around motherhood: being able to do it all•Guilt •Worldview shifts •A time of healing Vs what motherhood demands from you•Raising children without community Have you heard of Matresence before this episode?Let us know your thoughts in the comments. Happy listening, Aimee and KatYou can find more of us here: Our Online Psychology practice: Did you know we have online appointments available with our amazing therapists Lisa or Maddie. Learn more here https://thepsychcollaborative.com.au The Thriving Therapists: To connect with a safe and supportive community of like-minded therapists, head to our Thriving Therapists Facebook group: https://m.facebook.com/groups/224252457083630/?ref=share&mibextid=S66gvFOr find us on our Instagram: https://instagram.com/thethrivingtherapists?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA==The Psychology Sisters Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/thepsychologysisters/?hl=enThe Psych Collaborative instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/thepsychcollaborative/?hl=enPlease note: this episode is for informational purposes only and does not replace personalised psychological advice.

Welcome back psycho sista's and mista's!! It's our first episode of 2025 and we are shakin' it up!The Psychology Sisters Unfiltered episodes are al about chit chatting the high and the lows with a psychological lens. These episodes are dedicated to the catchups, the laughs, discussing what's happening in the world and sharing a little vulnerability along the way.First up we have our pit and peak coming into 2025: Aimee shares welcoming her baby boy into the world, little Oliver and his complicated entry after a high-risk pregnancy and spending an extended period of time in Nicu. Kat shares putting in the work with her mental health and finding her grove with motherhood and work. We have a brand spankin' new segment: our “picks and leaves” of the week!! We have some VERY big calls here!We share our “what I hope for you for 2025" for each other. Kat's hope for Aimee is to experience security and stability with a lot of holding support. Aimee's hope for Kat is to experience contentment and ease with self, where you are, who you are and what your doing. What do you hope for 2025?Let us know what you think in the comments!!Love, Aimee + KatYou can find more of us here: Our Online Psychology practice: Did you know we have online appointments available with our amazing therapists Lisa or Maddie. Learn more here https://thepsychcollaborative.com.au The Thriving Therapists: To connect with a safe and supportive community of like-minded therapists, head to our Thriving Therapists Facebook group: https://m.facebook.com/groups/224252457083630/?ref=share&mibextid=S66gvFOr find us on our Instagram: https://instagram.com/thethrivingtherapists?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA==The Psychology Sisters Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/thepsychologysisters/?hl=enThe Psych Collaborative instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/thepsychcollaborative/?hl=enPlease note: this episode is for informational purposes only and does not replace personalised psychological advice.