Unfiltered - Red Pill Paradox: why self-improvement isn't making you secure

hello lovely listeners!! Welcome back to another unhinged/ unfiltered episode! 

Loves and leaves: Kat's love this week is a fun, easy, watch on Netflix - Ransom Canyon. Aimee has been loving going back to comfort consumption in Grey's anatomy on Disney+. No leaves this week, just love!!

Pit and Peak of the week: Aimee discusses being in the tension of trade offs of getting the things you choose. Being in a transition stage can be tricky because it requires re-prioritising things. The reality of this can feel like restriction or a loss of agency - even though you chose it. Aimee reflects on struggling with a loss of agency and choice in this new stage of life and sitting in the trade off of juggling it all. Aimee also discusses working on practicing asking for help and the relationships blossoming as a result. 

Kat has a toilet blunder with some unfortunate toilet events. 

In this episode we discuss:

Red pill men - emotional intelligence is the new dating currency?

Red Pill men are individuals who embrace a philosophy that emphasises self-reliance, emotional detachment, and a belief in gender dynamics shaped by evolutionary psychology, often focused on avoiding vulnerability and maximising personal power in relationships.

•These men may struggle with deep emotional connection.
•They protect their independence so fiercely that true intimacy feels unsafe or emasculating.
Red Pill is a reaction to wounded Attachment

The miserable parents Vs happy single narrative:

•Societal Expectations: From childhood, many people are socially conditioned to view marriage and parenthood as the ultimate goal.
•Narrative Shift: Media often portrays parents, especially mothers, as overwhelmed or struggling. This reinforces the idea that parenthood is exhausting and fulfilling only through sacrifice. 

•Social Media and Idealisation: Social media plays a huge role in perpetuating the miserable parent vs. happy single dichotomy. 
•The Grass is Greener Fallacy: Comparing your life to an idealised version of someone else’s is a form of social comparison. 

The Truth: It’s About Personal Fit: Both parents and singles can experience profound satisfaction and stress. The key is recognising that there’s no one-size-fits-all approach to happiness. 

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