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You’ve got questions. Together, we get answers.We all need advice, but sometimes it’s hard to know where to turn. Each week, Courtney Martin and Carvell Wallace bring a listener on to the show to solve their toughest problems with the help of world-class experts. It’s free therapy, and you’re invited.
Latest episodes

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Mar 25, 2025 • 49min
How To Write Your Memoir
Melissa Febos, a bestselling author and professor, dives into the intricacies of memoir writing. She discusses how confronting fears and vulnerabilities can lead to healing and self-discovery. Listeners learn about the delicate balance between sharing personal truths and respecting privacy. Febos emphasizes storytelling as a liberating act, especially for women and marginalized voices. She also explores the journey of finding purpose in creative writing while navigating the ethical dilemmas of depicting personal relationships.

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Mar 18, 2025 • 51min
How To Discover Music You’ll Love
Join Derrick Gee, an online tastemaker and podcast host, as he dives into the flaws of streaming algorithms and the joys of music discovery. He reminisces about personal influences and how discovering music has evolved over time. By sharing tips on exploring underground genres and engaging with diverse sounds, Derrick encourages listeners to break free from algorithm-driven choices. Discover hidden gems and reconnect with the emotional aspects of music that make it truly special.

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Mar 12, 2025 • 31min
Supercommunicators | 3. How to Have the Hardest Conversations
In a riveting discussion, Vernā Myers, Netflix’s former vice president for inclusion strategy, shares her experiences navigating tough conversations at the company, particularly following a racially charged incident. She highlights the vital role of establishing ground rules and emotional connections to foster safer dialogues. Joined by psychologist Jay Van Bavel, they delve into strategies for tackling the hardest chats, encouraging listeners to confront their anxieties and transform personal narratives into bridges for understanding.

Mar 11, 2025 • 48min
How To Lose Your ‘Virginity’ at 43
Nicole Hardy, author of "Confessions of a Latter-day Virgin," shares her insights on embracing sexuality later in life after leaving the Mormon Church. She explores Elizabeth's journey as a 43-year-old seeking intimacy, navigating the emotional complexities of celibacy and societal pressures. The conversation also touches on the significance of self-discovery and overcoming religious trauma, offering advice on building healthy connections and reclaiming power. Their candid discussion promotes empowerment, curiosity, and the joy of embracing intimacy.

Mar 4, 2025 • 52min
How To Interview Someone
Sam Fragoso, host of Talk Easy, is renowned for his insightful interviews with celebrities and family members. In this discussion, he highlights the art of meaningful interviews and the importance of creating a comfortable space for dialogue. Sam shares challenges of personal interviews, especially with family, emphasizing their power in preserving personal histories. He reflects on his parents' legacies and encourages listeners to explore their own motivations for documenting stories, advocating for authenticity in capturing the essence of loved ones.

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Mar 1, 2025 • 29min
Supercommunicators | 2. How to Communicate Without Words
Delve into the fascinating world of nonverbal communication, where gestures and facial expressions often speak louder than words. Explore how sitcom legends like The Big Bang Theory masterfully use these cues to enhance emotional depth. Gain insight into the impact of tone and body language on personal connections, revealing secrets that can transform everyday interactions. Hear expert opinions and personal stories that highlight the significance of subtle behaviors in fostering understanding and trust.

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Feb 25, 2025 • 45min
How To Protect Your Parents From Fraud
Kathy Stokes, Director of fraud prevention programs at AARP, shares her expertise on protecting older adults from fraud. She recounts a chilling scam involving a fake Microsoft employee, illustrating the vulnerability of seniors. Kathy emphasizes the importance of open communication about cyber threats and offers practical strategies for families to educate their loved ones. She encourages involving seniors in fraud prevention discussions to empower them and suggests actionable measures like freezing credit and using AARP's Fraud Watch Network for support.

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Feb 22, 2025 • 32min
Supercommunicators | 1. How to Talk to Anyone
In this engaging discussion, psychology professor Nick Epley shares insights on how deep questions can transform conversations and create genuine connections. Mandy Len Catron reflects on her viral essay about the 36 questions that can lead to love, exploring the nuances of intimacy and vulnerability. Together, they highlight the importance of curiosity in fostering meaningful relationships, revealing how asking the right questions can turn everyday chats into profound exchanges. Dive into the art of heartfelt communication and discover new ways to connect!

Feb 22, 2025 • 1min
Introducing Supercommunicators
Discover the art of conversation and the secrets to building deep connections. Psychologist Nick Epley shares insights on using 36 powerful questions to foster relationships, especially among executives. The discussion explores the emotional impact of storytelling and highlights how meaningful conversations can change our lives. Tune in for expert perspectives on communication without words!

Feb 18, 2025 • 52min
How To Outsmart Your Student Loans
Yanely Espinal, a financial educator and author of "Mind Your Money," shares her expertise on managing student loan debt. She discusses the emotional and practical realities of student loan repayment, emphasizing the importance of financial literacy. Yanely offers smart strategies like loan consolidation, automatic payments, and understanding credit scores to tackle debt effectively. She also addresses the risks of using retirement funds for repayment and encourages proactive financial planning to achieve independence from student loans.