How To! Update: Losing Your ‘Virginity’ at 43
Sep 23, 2025
This mailbag episode features Elizabeth's update on losing her virginity at 43, discussing her journey of leaving the LDS church and discovering non-monogamy. She shares her emotional and physical surprises while finding a communicative partner. The hosts dive into listener feedback on previous popular episodes, particularly about rekindling a love for reading. They also brainstorm zany ideas for future topics, including emergency childbirth tips and circus escapes, adding fun future possibilities for listeners.
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Leaving Religion And Dating Intentionally
- Elizabeth left the Mormon church at ~42 and started dating with the explicit goal of having sex for the first time.
- She sought partners who could talk openly about sex and found that communication was crucial to feeling safe.
Prioritize Open Communication
- Look for partners who can talk openly and enjoy sex rather than treating sex as a moral crisis.
- Prioritize communication about desires and expectations before becoming intimate.
Chose A Non-Monogamous Partner For Safety
- Elizabeth explored non-monogamy options and matched with a man familiar with open-relationship norms.
- His experience with clear rules and communication made him a comfortable partner for her first sexual experience.
