
How To!
You’ve got questions. Together, we get answers.We all need advice, but sometimes it’s hard to know where to turn. Each week, Courtney Martin and Carvell Wallace bring a listener on to the show to solve their toughest problems with the help of world-class experts. It’s free therapy, and you’re invited.
Latest episodes

Jun 3, 2025 • 41min
How To Send Your Kid to College (and Keep Your Distance)
Christine Self, Director of Parent and Family Relations at Texas Tech University, shares her expertise on helping families transition to college life. She discusses the emotional challenges faced by both students and parents, offering insights into maintaining connections and effective communication. They explore important topics like responsible drinking conversations, navigating campus resources, and legalities surrounding student records. Christine emphasizes the value of campus visits and open dialogues, providing practical advice for parents supporting their kids' independence.

May 27, 2025 • 37min
How To Repair Your Stuff
Phoebe Schenker, executive director of Reuse Alliance and founder of The Mending Library, joins to discuss the burgeoning reuse economy. She emphasizes community repair fairs as creative hubs for fixing broken items. The conversation also explores the cultural contrasts in repair practices, particularly between the U.S. and South Korea. Listeners are encouraged to shift their mindset towards sustainability by embracing repairs and secondhand goods, fostering a culture of reuse, and understanding the ethical implications of waste and consumption.

May 20, 2025 • 46min
How To Discover Your Kink
Celeste Hirschman and Danielle Harel, co-founders of the Somatica Institute, are expert sex coaches specializing in human pleasure. They dive into how to unpack and communicate personal kinks and core desires effectively. The conversation explores the emotional dynamics of relationships, emphasizing safety, trust, and open dialogue. They highlight the importance of embracing one’s sexual identity while navigating personal experiences and vulnerabilities. Fun anecdotes and practical tips make understanding kink a more accessible and enriching journey.

May 13, 2025 • 43min
How To Get a Great Haircut
Are you stuck in a hair rut? On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings on Alana Lucia Balestrino, hairstylist, barber, and founder of the Brooklyn-based studio Baddies. Alana explains how to work with a stylist or barber to get a haircut you love.
If you liked this episode check out: How To Dress with Confidence. Also: Decoder Ring’s Mystery of the Mullet.
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The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.
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May 6, 2025 • 50min
How To Parent With a Disability
At least 10 percent of parents in the U.S. are disabled, but Andrea can’t seem to find parenting advice on disability and accessibility. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Jessica Slice, author of the new book Unfit Parent: A Disabled Mother Challenges an Inaccessible World, to help Andrea reimagine parenthood.
If you liked this episode check out: How To Date With a Disability and How To Become a Parent Overnight.
Do you have a problem that needs solving? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you listen.
The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.
Want more How To!? Subscribe to Slate Plus to unlock exclusive bonus episodes. Plus, you’ll access ad-free listening across all your favorite Slate podcasts. Subscribe now on Apple Podcasts by clicking “Try Free” at the top of the How To! show page. Or, visit slate.com/howtoplus to get access wherever you listen.
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Apr 29, 2025 • 57min
Living at Odds | 4. A Quiet Fight for LGBTQ Rights
In this engaging discussion, Anna Sale, the host of Slate's Death, Sex & Money, chats with Andrew Schneider, the dedicated Director of Fairness West Virginia. They delve into Andrew's groundbreaking efforts to cultivate bipartisan relationships for LGBTQ rights, navigating challenges in a conservative environment. Personal stories highlight the emotional toll of advocacy and the need for informed dialogue. The conversation also emphasizes the importance of building alliances, celebrating victories, and the ongoing struggle for equality in an increasingly polarized landscape.

Apr 22, 2025 • 45min
Living at Odds | 3. Making Amends for Ancestors
Kellie Farrish, a genealogist specializing in the histories of enslaved ancestors, and Kate Baron-Alicante, a financial activist with a focus on social change, join the discussion. They delve into the emotional turmoil of reconciling modern identities with painful ancestral legacies. Kellie reveals how reparative genealogy can unlock hidden family stories, while Kate reflects on her family's ties to slavery. Together, they explore the significance of forgiveness and communal healing in addressing America's complex history.

Apr 15, 2025 • 45min
Living at Odds | 2. An Education in Opposition
Stacey Woolley, former PTA president and Tulsa School Board member, shares her journey from opposition to collaboration with Deborah Gist, Superintendent of Tulsa Public Schools. They discuss their rocky start and how the challenges of COVID-19 transformed their relationship. Insights into the ideological tensions in education reveal the importance of communication and understanding. Together, they illustrate how perseverance and empathy can lead to effective collaboration, even in a politically charged environment.

Apr 8, 2025 • 46min
Living at Odds | 1. Two Partisans, One Corner
Two street vendors with opposing political views share a corner during the charged 2024 election. Selling everything from MAGA hats to Kamala candy, their rivalry transforms into an unexpected friendship. They navigate the complexities of their beliefs, showcasing the power of communication and mutual respect. As Election Day approaches, they reflect on the emotional fallout and societal issues, emphasizing the importance of dialogue amidst division. Their story highlights unity and the potential for collaboration in a polarized world.

Apr 1, 2025 • 42min
How To Replace Your Tesla
Patrick George, editor-in-chief of InsideEVs, shares his insights on the shifting tides in the Tesla ownership landscape. He discusses how Elon Musk's controversial actions are driving owners to sell their Model Ys, impacting resale values. Two soon-to-be-former Tesla owners reveal their emotional struggles with brand loyalty and personal values. The conversation delves into practical tips for selling electric vehicles and highlights new options like the Hyundai Ioniq 5. Listeners gain valuable advice on navigating the used EV market and understanding current trends.