Results & Relationships

Welcome to Results and Relationships Today some thoughts on data-driven illusions and how they can impact our lives. With my 29 years of experience as a consultant in the data information analytics & cyber protection industry, I'm often been asked questions about data-driven decisions. What I think isn't being said often enough is that we should dare to discuss our vulnerabilities. We should talk about what we don't know and what controls us, as it's often the case that we don't fully understand our metrics or the connection between business outcome vulnerabilities. Additionally, I'm very interested in cybersecurity, but we often don't have a strategy for how to best work with it. Decisions are made on a daily basis with legacy systems that we don't fully understand, thus the full implications of these decisions. As a result, we make compromises that can have long-lasting repercussions. Whether you are building something right now or not, it's important to consider the data-driven illusions that are impacting your decisions. Likewise dont let your hunger for more data stop you from shipping right now. What's not being said is that we have to dare to bring up our vulnerabilities and what we don't know. We don't fully understand our metrics and the connections between them and business outcomes. We also need to talk about cybersecurity and how to strategize around it. We often have to make decisions on outdated systems, which can be a challenge. This leads to a lot of compromises. Even if you're starting a new project, you need to be mindful of the data-driven illusions and vulnerabilities involved. Dare to talk about what you don't know and take steps to protect your business outcomes.

Today I share an answer I did for a friend's question on our Voxer group earlier today. Another friend suggested I should give you my esteemed listener into this part of me. The "real-life part of me" so to say – where I don't have the tension of the microphone, thinking out out loud and slow answering a friend's prompt. Whats my source of great results & healthy relationships and some answers on my thoughts on religious belief before attaching it though, here is a summary of my audio that a third friend made for us, very slightly edited by myself for this podcast * BELIEVE WHAT WORKS FOR YOU, work hard on letting go what doesn't * Stories are powerful, but Truth is never pure and easy. * In our "narrative", we tend to simplify things to remove the more painful parts. We then choose our stories over Truth. * YOU ARE THE SOURCE OF YOUR TIME, EFFORT, ENERGY, and your relationships. Those around you dont get you angry. You choose you who surround yourself with after seeing their pattern. Then you made yourself angry all on your own. * I don't see the world as it is, I see the world as I interpret it. * "stories are my source." * Anti – Thesis. Dare to explore both, without it it's not really a choice, you're just blindsiding yourself fooling yourself you made a choice. Big credits to this great book for much of the thoughts in this episode https://www.amazon.com/The-Big-Leap-Gay-Hendricks-audiobook/dp/B00282MRQI

Probability & Meaningful Specific Are you questioning how the three core components of probability, meaning, and specificity can be applied to the work you do? Are you looking at how these three aspects drive your decisions, both intentionally and unintentionally? Are you taking the time to consider what the biggest impact of your work is, and how the probability, meaning, and specificity of your decisions will affect the outcome? Are you willing to put in the extra effort to ensure that you have the right focus and clarity to make the best decisions possible and accept the consequences - both good and bad - of those decisions? Are you asking questions about above three in what you to those around you? Are you asking yourself what goes into the heart or mind into whatever action, intentional or not from those around you based on this trio? Take a minute and ask yourself on the biggest thing in your work right now. * Focusing on Probability - what shifts? * in the meaning beyond the work you do - or asked to do? * The specific - do you dare to make it small and specific enough so you can take credit if it works, or responsibility if it doesnt? Quite often its scary to put ourselves on the line like this, but if we do dare, we learn faster and thus help others better books mentioned: Annie Duke - Thinking in bets https://www.amazon.com/Thinking-in-Bets-Annie-Duke-audiobook/dp/B078SBSBW3

machines are talking - are you listening? I try to have these cast mostly timeless, and less timely but I've gotten so much machine-learning & AI questions lately and I thought I should share a perspective I don't hear that often. Surely we've on a journey where each version have more and more data and being trained on the previous version. Making it very fast and scaringly biased. The thing I believe we underestimate is the "Explain like talking to a five year old" combined with the relentlessness of machines and scripts. For example with DISC we already tools like https://crystalknows.com that helps you adapt your message to the individual to make it easier for the recipient to understand what you're trying to say. We have already since long trusted https://grammarly.com that there is a better way of saying this than what we wrote. Now we can have our email to ten people be automatically rewritten in transport to the sugsegment of those groups. Perhaps this time it created three copies and sent the one most maching the communication profile of the recipient. This will be so effective since it can also help you follow-up "did it work" making each interaction more effective for both of you. It can help you stay in tune with the workculture. Perhaps help you with your priorities for better effect and outcome at work by not letting you send late night messages, or if you believe you have to let them arrive at your co-workers desk in the morning. Again these tools exist, however machinelearning make you never forget to match whats effective and appreciated by each recipient. Likewise if you go into Red Alert mode a la Star Trek, the machinelearning mod can temporarily overwrite that to instant say before a launch or similar, following up on the costs of doing so for you. Or ensuring its automatically turned on again after the launch etc. Us humans take a long time forming new habits and can break them instantly. Tools like this can help us stay focused on what matter if we temporarily need a detour from our priorities by reminding us. OR forcing us to face that we've changed our mind and instead embrace another goal in mind with our habits etc. I believe this will help but it's a twosided sword. Not all is great with it. For example it will make it even easier to tailormake timely, relevant messages with ill intent that isn't as easily caught by the systems trying to protect you, including your own perhaps because the message is referencing something timely your co-worker or supplier said that is related to you but you wouldn't say that out but you're already connected and profiled out there on the web. Next time you're using tools like this. Be mindful of your use of them. Listen for what you are training them ON – its not just that you're getting help, it's a win-win-win where you don't see the third party ever.

sunc costs is nothing more than gifts from your former you to yourself in the present. if you recieved it fresh today would you pick it up? Are you making your choice about today and tomorrow for those you serve, including yourself or are you making it about your history or ego? Try the road less beaten Books recommended in this cast in case you dont have time to listen. The Midnight Library https://www.amazon.com/Midnight-Library-Novel-Matt-Haig/dp/0525559477 How to decide https://www.amazon.com/How-Decide-Simple-Making-Choices/dp/B088P4XLVB

Embracing constraints can be a powerful tool to help us create better solutions. It is not the same as arguing for their limitations, which can be counterproductive and lead to stagnation. Instead, by understanding and accepting the boundaries of a situation, we are able to find creative and innovative solutions that can help us move forward. By accepting and understanding the limitations of a situation, we can challenge ourselves to come up with solutions that work within those limits, while still achieving the desired outcome. As a computer person, you may find yourself using the command prompt and notepad often, because you appreciate the power of arguments and patterns to achieve certain outcomes. And you adapt quickly when a parameter is nerfed, removed or changed. When it comes to people, however, it is important to recognize that the same argument may not work each time. Instead of getting stuck in a loop of trying the same argument, or the same person try speaking out loud what might work, or why you might be wrong. By embracing constraints, you can find new and better ways to connect with people, rather than continuing to arguing in loops without connecting, or without finding other people to help that appreciate AND act on the help you provide.

The Spiral of Results & Relationships: What have you done and how well have you done it & and who cares deeply about it? Great work is rewarded by more work. Who do you want to service so they're getting what?

Thank you everyone for letting me know I missed last week. This this short one

Minding your relationships is a given. But have you given any thought to how much they affect your habits, your greenstreaks your levelups?