Overcome Pornography for Good coach Jessica Farmer is here to answer this week’s Ask a Coach question! Here's the question she's offering her thoughts on today: “I watched porn after being clean for six months. I feel a bit disappointed and shameful on one hand, but also feel guilty for not feeling guilty enough. Do you have any thoughts on what it looks like for me to come back from this?”   Join Jessica on this episode as she walks you through how to investigate what “feeling guilty enough” means to you, why it’s always worth challenging your brain on anything it offers, especially if it’s unhelpful, and the difference between the emotions of shame and guilt.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/shame-vs-guilt

Our Overcome Pornography for Good coach, Kat, is on the show this week to answer today’s Ask a Coach question! The question she’s addressing is, “I realized that a part of me doesn’t want to let go of this habit yet, like there’s FOMO if I remove this habit from my life. How can I get my brain to stop fearing the idea of my new identity?”   Hear why this is a completely normal reaction to have, and a simple exercise you can try when you catch yourself in fear of missing out or resisting the idea of who you’re becoming as you overcome pornography.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/ask-a-coach-missing-out

We are currently on a podcast season break and regular podcasting will resume January 1st 2024! While we’re on a hiatus, we are still going to be bringing you brand new content every single week by sharing an Ask a Coach Q&A from me or one of our coaches inside Overcome Pornography for Good.   Listen in today to hear my answer to the question of slipping up and processing the shame that comes from feeling like you’ve failed. I’m showing you why slipping up doesn’t mean you’re not progressing, and the importance of not discounting the work you’re doing, even if it isn’t manifesting right away.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/ask-a-coach-slipping-up

We’re taking a short break, which is the perfect time for you to put into practice everything you’ve learned over the years. In this episode, the topic we’re covering is one of the things I want you to keep in mind during this season break: suffering versus pain.   Tune in this week to discover the difference between suffering and pain. I’m showing you where your suffering is really coming from, why suffering is not worse than pain, and what you can do to stop your suffering. We’re taking a three-month break from regular programming over here on the podcast, so listen in to find out what the show has in store in the meantime.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/suffering-vs-pain

It’s easy to fall into the trap of punishing yourself if you’re struggling with viewing porn. You might find yourself engaged in conversations with your spouse, family, friends, or religious leaders that are in breach of what feels safe to you. Whether they’re leaning on fear and shame tactics or want to know details you aren’t comfortable sharing, you are allowed to set boundaries while building deep connections and trust with those people.   Learn how boundaries can work in tandem with building honesty and transparency with the people you care about. You are the authority on your spiritual well-being, and I’m showing you how to make aligned decisions, even if that means setting boundaries in your relationships.   Get full show notes and more information here:  https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/boundaries-spouses-family-religious-leaders

Tyson Bradley is a certified life coach and founder of Inherent Identity, a company focused on empowering God-loving people to create identity-based changes that last. He’s here to offer a fresh view on sin and how this could be the most freeing work you can do in overcoming pornography.   Tune in today to hear Tyson’s insights on why we need to redefine what sin means and where it comes from. We’re discussing how our current beliefs about sin perpetuates shame, what we consider to be sinful behavior, and what can happen when we start seeing sin as a wound that needs healing versus a crime that needs punishing.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/sin-tyson-bradley

This week, I'm bringing you the last "What's Possible" interview I have planned, and we're celebrating my client, Josh. Josh's story is filled with hope and connection, and he's truly an example of what you can achieve when you approach your porn habit with confidence and curiosity.   hear how Josh went from feeling intense pressure about quitting porn to successfully quitting by accepting that his progress with porn would never be linear. Josh shares his advice for dealing with slip-ups as you start quitting pornography, and we go deep into all the ways he has grown since he stopped struggling with pornography.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/whats-possible-josh

I'm joined by Jessica Farmer, one of the amazing coaches in my program Overcome Pornography for Good. This week, she's here to discuss her tips for disclosing porn use in your relationship.   Whether you are considering telling your spouse about your pornography use or you’ve already told them and it has become a point of contention, we’re exploring it all this week. Jessica shares her tips for disclosing your porn use to your partner, the potential issues that could arise from this and how to work through and even embrace the messiness that comes as a result.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/disclosure-tips-jessica

Like many of you who have the desire to heal your pornography habit, our client David developed a ton of shame, guilt, and insecurity about it. He went seven years without telling anybody he was viewing pornography. But when he finally did reach out for support, he transformed so much more than just his porn habit.   This week, David is sharing his porn journey with us and how coaching helped him realize that the tools he obtained can be applied to more than just quitting porn. He’s sharing the point at which he realized he needed support, the change that happened in his mindset, and where he is today.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/whats-possible-david

While our brains are programmed to look for what’s wrong with us, it’s not true that there’s always something wrong with you. Constantly fixing and solving what we perceive to be a problem is exhausting. And this week, I want to offer the idea that all parts of you are wise and have something valuable to offer, even the part of you that desires porn.   Discover why you don’t have to feel shame about your desire for porn, and how to redirect that energy in other ways by listening to it and learning from it. Hear why it’s worth exploring what you currently believe is a problem and how to use your bodily wisdom to create the life you want.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/fixing-things-exhausting