We are on the cusp of the New Year, which for many people often means thinking about all the changes we want to make and the new habits we want to create. We tend to focus on the negatives, but I’m proposing that we need to pay just as much attention, if not more, to all the wins you’ve experienced.   Join me this week as I take you through my Year in Review exercise and explain why this is going to set you up with the right energy as you enter 2024. Hear the value of acknowledging all your wins so far and imagining 2024 ahead of time, and questions that will guide you along this visualization process.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/year-review-visualizing-2024

“I’m feeling stuck, what do I do?” The thought, “I’m stuck,” is one all of us indulge in when the path ahead feels uncertain and unknown, but the truth is you’re not stuck and Coach Kat is here to show you why.   Listen in this week to discover why we default to saying we’re stuck even when we’re not, what it actually means to feel stuck, and Coach Kat’s top tips for getting unstuck no matter what you’re navigating right now.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/why-youre-stuck

This week’s Ask a Coach is from someone who found that if they view pornography early in the day, they don’t bother trying to avoid pornography until they get a fresh start the next day. This is common when people are trying to quit porn, it’s a product of all-or-nothing thinking, and it isn’t helping you find peace and ease in quitting porn.   Tune in this week to discover how to make sure a slip-up doesn’t ruin your day. I’m discussing how to measure your progress on your journey of quitting pornography, and showing you why slipping up isn’t a problem. Learn how to keep making progress toward your goal of quitting porn even if you’ve slipped up in the morning.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/slip-up

Is all shame bad? This is the premise of this week’s Ask a Coach question. The truth is, it all comes down to semantics, and my answer is both yes and no.   Hear my thoughts on why no emotion is inherently bad, how emotions can be either helpful or unhelpful, and how to identify whether the shame you’re experiencing is serving you.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/good-shame-vs-bad-shame

"Does learning to process your urge to view porn feel so overwhelming that everything else in your life falls by the wayside?" This is the question Coach Tina is addressing on this week’s Ask a Coach episode.   Hear how to balance the skill of processing urges with the other goals you’ve set for yourself. Coach Tina is offering what could be happening if learning to process your urges feels overwhelming, and how to take care of yourself so it doesn’t feel like everything is slipping out of your grasp.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/reality-learning-new-skills

“Do you have any tips on not getting fed up or burnt out from all the urge processing?” If you also feel completely tired and overwhelmed, or find yourself falling into resistance rather than allowing your urges to view porn, listen in to hear Jessica’s answers.   Hear why the practice of processing the urge to view porn might be resulting in extreme tiredness and overwhelm, how self-care makes processing urges easier, and Jessica’s insights on five areas of self-care you must prioritize in your day-to-day.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/ask-a-coach-self-care

Do you feel more antsy in your physical body as you view less porn? Maybe you can’t stop bouncing your legs or find yourself constantly fidgeting, and maybe it’s leading to a strong urge to view porn so you can stop feeling so antsy.    Join Jessica on this episode to hear her top tips for processing uncomfortable emotions, how all emotions have a shelf life, and the power of letting any emotion be present until it eventually dissipates.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/emotions-have-shelf-life

The question this week goes, “I feel like I’m in a bit of a rut. I got carried away with studying during post-grad, and I’m either slipping up or studying 24/7. How can I get back on track with processing urges?”   Join coach Kat on this episode to hear why you have to examine the stories you’re currently telling yourself, her suggestions for beginning to rewrite your stories, and her top tips for going on a treasure hunt for new thoughts that serve you on your journey of quitting porn.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/rewriting-your-stories

This podcast episode discusses an intentional model for overcoming pornography addiction and explores the power of intentional thoughts and challenging negative thought patterns.

This week's question comes from someone who had a question in the commitment milestone worksheet about finding their compelling reason for wanting to quit porn. This person isn't convinced that their compelling reason is strong enough, and Tina is offering her thoughts.   Tune in today to hear why finding your compelling reason for quitting porn is essential, what happens when you use unhelpful emotions to drive your actions, and how to find your own compelling reason for why you might want to quit porn for good.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/compelling-reason