I Wish You Knew

Attachment style plays a bigger role in your relationships than you think, especially when it’s the one no one talks about. In this episode, Adam explore the long-ignored freeze attachment style, rooted in fearful-avoidant patterns. After surviving childhood trauma, narcissistic abuse, and three failed marriages, Corina shares how this attachment style shaped her life and how she’s learning to heal. Topics Covered: 👉 What the freeze attachment style looks like in real life 👉 How fearful-avoidant attachment develops through trauma 👉 Why some attachment styles cause emotional shutdown or mutism 👉 How attachment style impacts communication and intimacy 👉 Rebuilding relationships after narcissistic abuse 👉 Parenting teens with different attachment needs 👉 Tools for communicating with partners who shut down emotionally 👉 Reframing your identity and rebuilding self-worth If you enjoyed watching this episode, you might love 'Why She Doesn’t Want You (Even If She Loves You) '. Watch here:  https://youtu.be/aUMUEbwcVuo Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com  ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Follow the “I Wish You Knew” Podcast: -------------------------------------------------- Website:    https://iwishyouknew.show/    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theiwishyouknewpodcast/   Tiktok:        https://www.tiktok.com/@iwishyouknewshow    Snapchat:  https://www.snapchat.com/iwishyouknewpod    Twitter /X:  https://twitter.com/iwishyouknewpod   Spotify:      https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ncc0MBgm04xTIQ5ByiCGI   Apple:        https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-wish-you-knew/id1713427809   ------------------------------------------------- Follow Adam Lane Smith: -------------------------------------------------- Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/   Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg      Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/   Twitter /X: https://x.com/AdamLaneSmith   Threads:   https://www.threads.net/@attachmentadam   Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  The next episode drops Thursday :) See you there.

What does it take for an Avoidant Man to finally feel safe enough to stay in love?  In this episode, Kimmi returns to share his journey from emotional shutdown to engagement. Once known as “Kimmi the Avoidant,” he opens up about what helped him finally connect, feel secure, and build lasting love.  Topics Covered:  👉 How avoidant attachment distorts emotional connection 👉 Why emotional safety—not pressure—creates commitment 👉 The surprising impact of oxytocin, magnesium, and sleep 👉 How routines and rituals help avoidant men feel secure 👉 The “emotional baby” stage and how to move through it 👉 Avoidant men’s biggest fear: dying alone and unremembered 👉 How to spot emotional bids and respond like a secure partner 👉 The CEO analogy for leading your relationship well 👉 How to continuously grow closer in long-term love If you enjoyed watching this episode, you might love 'Why She Doesn’t Want You (Even If She Loves You) '. Watch here:  https://youtu.be/aUMUEbwcVuo Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com  ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Follow the “I Wish You Knew” Podcast: -------------------------------------------------- Website:    https://iwishyouknew.show/    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theiwishyouknewpodcast/   Tiktok:        https://www.tiktok.com/@iwishyouknewshow    Snapchat:  https://www.snapchat.com/iwishyouknewpod    Twitter /X:  https://twitter.com/iwishyouknewpod   Spotify:      https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ncc0MBgm04xTIQ5ByiCGI   Apple:        https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-wish-you-knew/id1713427809   ------------------------------------------------- Follow Adam Lane Smith: -------------------------------------------------- Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/   Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg      Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/   Twitter /X: https://x.com/AdamLaneSmith   Threads:   https://www.threads.net/@attachmentadam   Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  The next episode drops Thursday :) See you there.

Avoidant men aren’t emotionally distant by choice. Their detachment is often a survival response wired deep into the brain. In this episode, Adam breaks down how avoidant men develop this style of relating, why avoidant men often carry it into adulthood, and most importantly how to help avoidant men heal for good. Topics covered: 👉 The brain science behind avoidant men and emotional shutdown 👉 Why avoidant men experience burnout, disconnection, and chronic stress 👉 The role of vasopressin bonding in helping avoidant men build trust 👉 Why securely attached partners often trigger avoidant men 👉 How avoidant men can rewire their brains through real world emotional experiences 👉 The shame core driving avoidant men since childhood 👉 Step by step strategies to help avoidant men build emotional safety 👉 How avoidant men struggle with intimacy, relationships, and legacy 👉 What partners of avoidant men need to understand 👉 Tools, supplements, and lifestyle shifts that support healing for avoidant men If you enjoyed watching this episode, you might love 'Why She Doesn’t Want You (Even If She Loves You) '. Watch here:  https://youtu.be/aUMUEbwcVuo Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com  ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Follow the “I Wish You Knew” Podcast: -------------------------------------------------- Website:    https://iwishyouknew.show/    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theiwishyouknewpodcast/   Tiktok:        https://www.tiktok.com/@iwishyouknewshow    Snapchat:  https://www.snapchat.com/iwishyouknewpod    Twitter /X:  https://twitter.com/iwishyouknewpod   Spotify:      https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ncc0MBgm04xTIQ5ByiCGI   Apple:        https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-wish-you-knew/id1713427809   ------------------------------------------------- Follow Adam Lane Smith: -------------------------------------------------- Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/   Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg      Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/   Twitter /X: https://x.com/AdamLaneSmith   Threads:   https://www.threads.net/@attachmentadam   Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  The next episode drops Thursday :) See you there.

In this episode, Andrey shares how he went from emotionally avoidant to fully committed in marriage. He breaks down the exact values, mindset shifts, and moments that made him stay.  Adam and Andrey explore how real love forms not through perfection, but through shared vision and integrity. This is a blueprint for building lasting connection with an avoidant man. Topics Covered: 👉 What makes an avoidant man choose commitment 👉 How to build lasting love with an avoidant man 👉 The values that made her “the one” 👉 Why a woman’s boundaries increase attraction 👉 How she helped him cross the dopamine crash 👉 What avoidant men secretly need to trust 👉 The power of shared vision, timelines, and direction 👉 Why self-abandonment ruins real connection If you enjoyed watching this episode, you might love 'Why She Doesn’t Want You (Even If She Loves You) '. Watch here:  https://youtu.be/aUMUEbwcVuo Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com  ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Follow the “I Wish You Knew” Podcast: -------------------------------------------------- Website:    https://iwishyouknew.show/    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theiwishyouknewpodcast/   Tiktok:        https://www.tiktok.com/@iwishyouknewshow    Snapchat:  https://www.snapchat.com/iwishyouknewpod    Twitter /X:  https://twitter.com/iwishyouknewpod   Spotify:      https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ncc0MBgm04xTIQ5ByiCGI   Apple:        https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-wish-you-knew/id1713427809   ------------------------------------------------- Follow Adam Lane Smith: -------------------------------------------------- Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/   Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg      Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/   Twitter /X: https://x.com/AdamLaneSmith   Threads:   https://www.threads.net/@attachmentadam   Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  The next episode drops Thursday :) See you there.

Emily Humpert, known for her candid discussions on attachment issues, joins host Adam Lane Smith to explore emotional intimacy and the struggles of feeling unlovable. They dive into how perfectionism and shame can damage relationships, the difference between emotional safety and intimacy, and the importance of vulnerability. Additionally, they discuss the role of vasopressin in bonding, and the healing potential of emotional intimacy. This enlightening conversation offers hope and practical insights for those navigating the complex world of attachment.

Explore the critical balance between love and emotional safety in relationships. Discover how attachment theory can reshape your perspective on connection. Learn about effective communication methods, including the benefits of text messaging for anxious partners. Delve into the importance of rebuilding trust and emotional bonds through consistent positive experiences. Uncover the innovative COO/CEO model for emotional teamwork and the value of vulnerability in conversations. Plus, hear strategies for nurturing a legacy of emotional safety for future generations.

In this conversation, Adam welcomes Margarita Nazarenko, a viral voice of tough love on relationships, for a deep, honest dialogue about anxious attachment, emotional patterns, and why so many women end up chasing emotionally unavailable men. Margarita offers clarity, accountability, and practical wisdom to break the cycle of toxic relationships and build something truly healthy. Topics Covered: 👉 Why women with anxious attachment chase emotionally unavailable men 👉 The damage of mothering men and the false thrill of romantic pursuit 👉 How childhood wounds and abandonment issues shape relationship patterns 👉 The long term impact of emotionally absent fathers on children 👉 How to stop repeating generational pain through conscious healing 👉 Why secure, available men are often overlooked by anxious women 👉 A practical inner child healing practice to rewire your attachment style 👉 The difference between genuine connection and trauma bonds 👉 How to protect your energy, value, and future as a woman 👉 Why waiting to be chosen doesn’t make you weak, it makes you wise You deserve to be chosen, cherished, and safe, not constantly chasing love that won’t stay. If this episode resonated, don’t forget to subscribe and share it with someone who needs to hear this truth. More raw and transformative conversations coming soon. Stay tuned for more expert insights and relationship advice in future episodes! If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Attachment Specialist Fixes an Avoidant Woman’  https://youtu.be/zSaZrRedRUc  Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com  ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Follow the “I Wish You Knew” Podcast: -------------------------------------------------- Website:    https://iwishyouknew.show/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theiwishyouknewpodcast/  Tiktok:        https://www.tiktok.com/@iwishyouknewshow  Snapchat:  https://www.snapchat.com/iwishyouknewpod   Twitter /X:  https://twitter.com/iwishyouknewpod  Spotify:      https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ncc0MBgm04xTIQ5ByiCGI  Apple:        https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-wish-you-knew/id1713427809  -------------------------------------------------- Follow Adam Lane Smith: -------------------------------------------------- Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg     Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  Twitter /X: https://x.com/AdamLaneSmith  Threads:   https://www.threads.net/@attachmentadam  Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  Margarita Nazarenko: Website: https://www.margaritanazarenko.com IG: https://www.instagram.com/margarita.nazarenko?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ== Youtube: https://youtube.com/@Margarita.Nazarenko?si=4FjXe2NpgP0fer21 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@margarita.nazarenko?_t=ZS-8vAmQU2w0b2&_r=1 -------------------------------------------------- The next episode drops Thursday :) See you there. Visit: https://iwishyouknew.show/ to lean more about the podcast

Jessica Baum, a leading attachment expert and author of 'Anxiously Attached,' joins Adam Lane Smith to explore the pivotal role of emotional safety in relationships. They discuss how attachment styles affect adult connections, the impact of childhood experiences, and the need for vulnerability. Baum emphasizes that emotional safety isn't just about feeling secure but about being present with pain and fear. The duo also highlights the dangers of unrealistic expectations and self-abandonment in love, advocating for authentic communication and mutual understanding to foster deeper intimacy.

In this episode, Andrey and Adam dive deep into the foundations of trust-based communication in both professional and personal relationships. They unpack the dangers of transactional thinking, explore how poor communication sabotages connection, and offer practical insight into building relationships rooted in mutual respect rather than leverage. Topics Covered: 👉 The danger of giving power based solely on talent 👉 Why standardization and Six Sigma don't inspire Gen Z workers 👉 The shift from performance-based to trust-based leadership 👉 How fear and unmet expectations destroy relationships 👉 The role of masculine relationships and loyalty in high-performing teams 👉 Love, loyalty, and servitude in business culture 👉 How attachment wounds impact negotiation and influence 👉 The legal and ethical principles of “good faith” negotiation 👉 Why old systems of influence are collapsing in the age of AI 👉 Why leverage-based leadership is unsustainable If this conversation shifted the way you think about negotiation, leadership, or connection—there’s more where that came from. For deeper insight into building trust-based relationships in business and life, visit adamlainsmith.com.  Stay tuned for more expert insights and relationship advice in future episodes! If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Attachment Specialist Fixes an Avoidant Woman’  https://youtu.be/zSaZrRedRUc  Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com  ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Follow the “I Wish You Knew” Podcast: -------------------------------------------------- Website:    https://iwishyouknew.show/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theiwishyouknewpodcast/  Tiktok:        https://www.tiktok.com/@iwishyouknewshow  Snapchat:  https://www.snapchat.com/iwishyouknewpod   Twitter /X:  https://twitter.com/iwishyouknewpod  Spotify:      https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ncc0MBgm04xTIQ5ByiCGI  Apple:        https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-wish-you-knew/id1713427809  -------------------------------------------------- Follow Adam Lane Smith: -------------------------------------------------- Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg     Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  Twitter /X: https://x.com/AdamLaneSmith  Threads:   https://www.threads.net/@attachmentadam  Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  -------------------------------------------------- The next episode drops Thursday :) See you there. Visit: https://iwishyouknew.show/ to lean more about the podcast To Learn More About  @AttachmentAdam   https://adamlanesmith.com/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/?hl=en

In this episode, Kelly Chase from Love Is Blind (Season 1) opens up about her journey from heartbreak and self-abandonment to healing, boundaries, and self-love. She shares what led her to go on the show, what she learned from the experience, and what she's looking for now in love, life, and relationships. ✨ Topics Covered: 👉 Why Kelly went on Love Is Blind and what she hoped to find 👉 The hidden reasons people stay in unhealthy relationships 👉 Her “aha” moment after the show ended 👉 What healthy ambition and partnership mean to her 👉 Dating challenges in today’s world—ghosting, emotional unavailability, and more 👉 Why looks aren’t enough and the power of personality 👉 The emotional cost of people-pleasing and external validation 👉 Navigating modern dating with healed energy and clearer boundaries 👉 What women truly want versus what society pushes 👉 Kelly's real talk on being loved with baggage—not despite it Kelly’s story is a powerful reminder that healing takes courage, and love begins with the relationship you have with yourself. If you’ve ever felt stuck in dating cycles, this episode will speak to your heart. Stay tuned for more expert insights and relationship advice in future episodes! If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Attachment Specialist Fixes an Avoidant Woman’  https://youtu.be/zSaZrRedRUc  Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com  ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Follow the “I Wish You Knew” Podcast: -------------------------------------------------- Website:    https://iwishyouknew.show/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theiwishyouknewpodcast/  Tiktok:        https://www.tiktok.com/@iwishyouknewshow  Snapchat:  https://www.snapchat.com/iwishyouknewpod   Twitter /X:  https://twitter.com/iwishyouknewpod  Spotify:      https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ncc0MBgm04xTIQ5ByiCGI  Apple:        https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-wish-you-knew/id1713427809  -------------------------------------------------- Follow Adam Lane Smith: -------------------------------------------------- Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg     Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  Twitter /X: https://x.com/AdamLaneSmith  Threads:   https://www.threads.net/@attachmentadam  Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  -------------------------------------------------- Kelly Chase: -------------------------------------------------- IG: https://www.instagram.com/chaselifewithkelly/?hl=en  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCNqhN0CXWVATKfUjwrm65-g The next episode drops Thursday :) See you there. Visit: https://iwishyouknew.show/ to lean more about the podcast To Learn More About  @AttachmentAdam   https://adamlanesmith.com/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/?hl=en