Brandon Doerkse opens up about how he nearly lost his marriage due to emotional numbness, distraction, and addiction. For years, he struggled with avoidance, failing to recognize how his actions were eroding the trust and intimacy in his relationship. It wasn’t until he hit rock bottom that he realized the painful truth—his marriage was falling apart, and he was the one responsible. Topics Covered: 👉 The impact of emotional disconnection in marriage 👉 How avoidance and addiction sabotage relationships 👉 Why men must take the first step in healing a broken relationship 👉 Understanding attachment styles and their effect on marriage 👉 The painful realization that led Brandon to transformation 👉 How honesty and accountability helped rebuild trust 👉 The importance of integration with God, family, and self 👉 What true masculine leadership in marriage looks like Brandon’s journey proves that no matter how broken a relationship may seem, healing is possible when a man is willing to confront his shortcomings and take responsibility. His story is a powerful testament to the importance of emotional awareness, faith, and intentional action in restoring love and trust. If this conversation spoke to you, share your thoughts in the comments. Have you faced similar struggles in your relationship? What steps have helped you move forward? Let’s continue the conversation below. Stay tuned for more expert insights and relationship advice in future episodes! If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Attachment Specialist Fixes an Avoidant Woman’  https://youtu.be/zSaZrRedRUc  Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com  ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Follow the “I Wish You Knew” Podcast: -------------------------------------------------- Website:    https://iwishyouknew.show/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theiwishyouknewpodcast/  Tiktok:        https://www.tiktok.com/@iwishyouknewshow  Snapchat:  https://www.snapchat.com/iwishyouknewpod   Twitter /X:  https://twitter.com/iwishyouknewpod  Spotify:      https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ncc0MBgm04xTIQ5ByiCGI  Apple:        https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-wish-you-knew/id1713427809  -------------------------------------------------- Follow Adam Lane Smith: -------------------------------------------------- Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg     Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  Twitter /X: https://x.com/AdamLaneSmith  Threads:   https://www.threads.net/@attachmentadam  Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  -------------------------------------------------- Brandon Doerkse: -------------------------------------------------- IG: https://www.instagram.com/brandontalksmarriage/?hl=en  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@brandontalksmarriage  The next episode drops Thursday :) See you there. Visit: https://iwishyouknew.show/ to lean more about the podcast To Learn More About  @AttachmentAdam   https://adamlanesmith.com/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/?hl=en

In this episode, Adam Lane Smith, the Attachment Specialist, navigates the challenges of a toxic marriage. Through raw and honest conversations, Adam uncovers the root causes of their struggles and offers practical guidance to rebuild trust, communication, and emotional connection. Whether you’re facing similar issues or just want to strengthen your relationship, this episode is packed with insights and advice that can make a real difference. Topics Covered: 👉 The impact of unresolved trauma on marriage and relationships 👉 How pressure and past experiences shape relationship dynamics 👉 Addressing touch aversion and intimacy issues 👉 The importance of emotional regulation and safe communication 👉 Building a healthy legacy for children and breaking toxic patterns 👉 Strategies to create a secure and loving environment for the whole family Adam provides powerful insights and actionable steps to help couples rebuild connection and create a healthier, more fulfilling relationship. No matter where you are in your journey, this episode offers hope and practical guidance to transform your relationship dynamics. Don’t miss this transformative conversation—tune in now! Stay tuned for more expert insights and relationship advice in future episodes! If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Attachment Specialist Fixes an Avoidant Woman’  https://youtu.be/zSaZrRedRUc  Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com  ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Follow the “I Wish You Knew” Podcast: -------------------------------------------------- Website:    https://iwishyouknew.show/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theiwishyouknewpodcast/  Tiktok:        https://www.tiktok.com/@iwishyouknewshow  Snapchat:  https://www.snapchat.com/iwishyouknewpod   Twitter /X:  https://twitter.com/iwishyouknewpod  Spotify:      https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ncc0MBgm04xTIQ5ByiCGI  Apple:        https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-wish-you-knew/id1713427809  -------------------------------------------------- Follow Adam Lane Smith: -------------------------------------------------- Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg     Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  Twitter /X: https://x.com/AdamLaneSmith  Threads:   https://www.threads.net/@attachmentadam  Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  -------------------------------------------------- The next episode drops Thursday :) See you there. Visit: https://iwishyouknew.show/ to lean more about the podcast To Learn More About  @AttachmentAdam   https://adamlanesmith.com/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/?hl=en

In this enlightening discussion, Shallon Lester, known for her tough-love approach to relationships, teams up with Adam Lane Smith to tackle the complexities of avoidant attachment. They uncover the hidden dangers of trusting words alone and unveil red flags that signal emotional unavailability. Shallon shares her strategies for setting boundaries and empowering women to prioritize personal fulfillment. They dive into the challenges of modern dating, encourage effective communication, and emphasize the importance of personal responsibility in seeking genuine connections.

Explore the growing divide between men and women and the societal impacts of modern relationships. Delve into the perception of male weakness and the cultural conflicts arising from changing gender roles. Discover how attachment styles shape emotional connections and the importance of personal responsibility. The crisis of masculinity is examined alongside strategies for men to reclaim their sense of purpose. The conversation highlights the complexities of navigating relationships, self-development, and the evolving dynamics of attraction in today's world.

Alyssa reflects on how a childhood that stifled emotional expression forced her into survival mode, affecting her emotional regulation. They explore the complexities of masculine and feminine energy and how meditation can be both helpful and hindering for avoidant individuals. The conversation highlights the importance of personal accountability and structured programs in healing attachment wounds. Adam emphasizes the value of deep self-reflection in building emotional connections, encouraging listeners to seek support for healthier relationships.

Many women find themselves in relationships that look perfect on paper but leave them feeling unfulfilled. In this episode, dating expert Julia Mazur shares her personal journey of settling in relationships and how she finally broke free. She discusses societal expectations, personal struggles, and the key mindset shifts needed to prioritize yourself in love and life. ✨ Main Topics Covered ✨ 👉 The dating challenges many women face and why they often settle. 👉 The influence of cultural and family expectations on relationships. 👉 The emotional toll of being in a relationship with the “ideal” partner. 👉 How loneliness and lack of fulfillment pushed Julia to reassess her choices. 👉 The dangers of love bombing and future faking in dating. 👉 The importance of filtering potential partners through meaningful questions. 👉 Understanding feminine energy and how it impacts attraction. 👉 Why being interested in your partner is more important than trying to be interesting. Julia emphasizes that true happiness in relationships starts with self-worth and refusing to settle. She encourages women to trust their instincts, set higher standards, and embrace independence rather than staying in relationships out of fear. Stay tuned for more expert insights and relationship advice in future episodes! If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Avoidant Husband & Anxious Wife Coached by Attachment Specialist’ https://youtu.be/QiPEH0o3EKA  Use code: IWYK20 for a 20% Exclusive I Wish You Knew Discount  https://ruggedlegacygrooming.com/ Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com   A special thanks to our sponsor Rugged Legacy Grooming Supply. Look, Feel, and Be your best with personal hair, beard, and grooming products recommended by top relationship and style specialists. And, unlike other brands, Rugged Legacy designs its products with all-natural oils and scents, made right here in the USA.  Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com  ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Follow the “I Wish You Knew” Podcast: -------------------------------------------------- Website:    https://iwishyouknew.show/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theiwishyouknewpodcast/  Tiktok:        https://www.tiktok.com/@iwishyouknewshow  Snapchat:  https://www.snapchat.com/iwishyouknewpod   Twitter /X:  https://twitter.com/iwishyouknewpod  Spotify:      https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ncc0MBgm04xTIQ5ByiCGI  Apple:        https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-wish-you-knew/id1713427809  -------------------------------------------------- Follow Adam Lane Smith: -------------------------------------------------- Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg     Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  Twitter /X: https://x.com/AdamLaneSmith  Threads:   https://www.threads.net/@attachmentadam  Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  -------------------------------------------------- The next episode drops Thursday :) See you there. Visit: https://iwishyouknew.show/ to lean more about the podcast To Learn More About  @AttachmentAdam   https://adamlanesmith.com/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/?hl=en To Learn More About Julia: https://www.instagram.com/jamazur/?hl=en  https://www.instagram.com/pmdpod https://www.tiktok.com/@pmdpod?lang=en 

🎙️ Welcome to this eye-opening episode of "I Wish You Knew" with hosts Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, and Andrey Korikov, CEO and co-founder of Veritas Creative Media.    Emily Humpert opens up about her struggles with relationships, attachment challenges, and emotional intimacy. Adam Lane Smith helps her uncover the roots of her avoidance and how it impacts her connections with others.   Topics Covered: 👉 Struggles with relationships and repeated failures 👉 Avoidant attachment and emotional barriers 👉 Fear of sacrifice in relationships 👉 The myth of a ‘perfect match’ 👉 Recognizing personal needs in relationships 👉 Emotional intimacy challenges for high performers 👉 Family influence on attachment styles 👉 Oxytocin’s role in emotional bonding 👉 Steps toward secure attachment   The episode concludes with a reflection on attachment styles and how emotional avoidance may impact relationships. It emphasizes the importance of emotional connection and suggests working toward secure attachment for long-term relational success. If you’re struggling with attachment challenges, consider joining the Attachment Repair Program to build healthier, lasting relationships.   Stay tuned for more expert insights and relationship advice in future episodes! If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Avoidant Husband & Anxious Wife Coached by Attachment Specialist’ https://youtu.be/QiPEH0o3EKA    Use code: IWYK20 for a 20% Exclusive I Wish You Knew Discount  https://ruggedlegacygrooming.com/   Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com   A special thanks to our sponsor Rugged Legacy Grooming Supply.   Look, Feel, and Be your best with personal hair, beard, and grooming products recommended by top relationship and style specialists. And, unlike other brands, Rugged Legacy designs its products with all-natural oils and scents, made right here in the USA.    Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com 

🎙️ Welcome to this eye-opening episode of "I Wish You Knew" with hosts Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, and Andrey Korikov, CEO and co-founder of Veritas Creative Media.  In this episode, Aurora Culp opens up about her experiences with relationships, attachment styles, and why she tends to be drawn to avoidant men. Through personal stories and deep reflections, she explores the patterns that have shaped her love life and what she’s doing to break free from unhealthy cycles. ✨ Main Topics Covered: 👉 Aurora’s struggles with dating and attraction to avoidant men 👉 The role of attachment theory in romantic relationships 👉 How childhood dynamics with parents influence partner choices 👉 The challenges of dating emotionally unavailable partners 👉 The importance of secure attachment and emotional intimacy 👉 Strategies for fostering healthier relationships and breaking toxic cycles 👉 How waiting three months before commitment can impact dating outcomes If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in unhealthy relationship patterns, this episode is for you. Aurora’s journey highlights the power of self-awareness and growth when it comes to love and attachment.  Stay tuned for more expert insights and relationship advice in future episodes! If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Avoidant Husband & Anxious Wife Coached by Attachment Specialist’ https://youtu.be/QiPEH0o3EKA  Use code: IWYK20 for a 20% Exclusive I Wish You Knew Discount  https://ruggedlegacygrooming.com/ Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com   A special thanks to our sponsor Rugged Legacy Grooming Supply. Look, Feel, and Be your best with personal hair, beard, and grooming products recommended by top relationship and style specialists. And, unlike other brands, Rugged Legacy designs its products with all-natural oils and scents, made right here in the USA.  Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com  ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Follow Aurora Cuplo: -------------------------------------------------- Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJao_5jeoi6k1x4M03-v67g    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/auroraculpo/?hl=en  Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@aurora_culpo?lang=en  -------------------------------------------------- Follow the “I Wish You Knew” Podcast: -------------------------------------------------- Website:    https://iwishyouknew.show/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theiwishyouknewpodcast/  Tiktok:        https://www.tiktok.com/@iwishyouknewshow  Snapchat:  https://www.snapchat.com/iwishyouknewpod   Twitter /X:  https://twitter.com/iwishyouknewpod  Spotify:      https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ncc0MBgm04xTIQ5ByiCGI  Apple:        https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-wish-you-knew/id1713427809  -------------------------------------------------- Follow Adam Lane Smith: -------------------------------------------------- Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg     Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  Twitter /X: https://x.com/AdamLaneSmith  Threads:   https://www.threads.net/@attachmentadam  Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  -------------------------------------------------- The next episode drops Thursday :) See you there.

In this heartfelt conversation, Stephanie Quayle shares her journey of overcoming the tragic loss of her fiancé in a plane crash and the painful truth of his betrayal. She discusses the emotional turmoil that led to self-destruction and her path to emotional healing and self-trust. Stephanie explores the complexities of attachment styles, particularly among high-achievers, and offers insights into rebuilding relationships after loss. Her story is a powerful testament to resilience, vulnerability, and the transformative power of understanding one’s emotions.

This week’s episode features Jessica Preston who dives into the complexities of avoidant attachment in women, exploring personal experiences, emotional patterns, and the impact of past relationships.  🎙️ Welcome to this eye-opening episode of "I Wish You Knew" with hosts Adam Lane Smith, the attachment specialist, and Andrey Korikov, CEO and co-founder of Veritas Creative Media.    The discussion highlights the struggles of avoidant individuals in forming deep connections, the role of masculine and feminine dynamics, and the journey toward self-awareness and healing. ✨ Key Moments ✨ 👉 Personal realization of avoidant attachment after multiple divorce 👉 Audience reflections on avoidance and self-acceptance 👉 The preference for being labeled an "island" over "avoidant" 👉 Introduction to the Attachment Repair Program for healing 👉 How avoidance develops as a self-protection mechanism 👉 The impact of avoidant attachment on past relationships 👉 Exploring masculine and feminine dynamics in attachment styles 👉 Evolutionary perspective on avoidant attachment and survival instincts 👉 How early life experiences shape long-term attachment patterns 👉 Navigating relationships with newfound awareness of avoidance   This conversation emphasizes the importance of self-reflection, personal growth, and addressing deep-seated attachment issues. Whether you're struggling with avoidance yourself or seeking to understand someone who is, this episode offers valuable insights and practical steps toward healing. 🎧    If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘The #1 Reason Most Relationships Fail (And How to Avoid It)’  https://youtu.be/o5cxBp1oBGk    Use code: IWYK20 for a 20% Exclusive I Wish You Knew Discount  https://ruggedlegacygrooming.com/   Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com     A special thanks to our sponsor Rugged Legacy Grooming Supply.   Look, Feel, and Be your best with personal hair, beard, and grooming products recommended by top relationship and style specialists. And, unlike other brands, Rugged Legacy designs its products with all-natural oils and scents, made right here in the USA.  Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com  ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Follow Jessica Preston: -------------------------------------------------- Website:    https://denovofertility.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/denovo_fertility/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/denovofertilitycommunity/  Threads:   https://www.threads.net/@denovo_fertility  -------------------------------------------------- Follow the “I Wish You Knew” Podcast: -------------------------------------------------- Website:    https://iwishyouknew.show/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theiwishyouknewpodcast/  Tiktok:        https://www.tiktok.com/@iwishyouknewshow  Snapchat:  https://www.snapchat.com/iwishyouknewpod   Twitter /X:  https://twitter.com/iwishyouknewpod  Spotify:      https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ncc0MBgm04xTIQ5ByiCGI  Apple:        https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-wish-you-knew/id1713427809    -------------------------------------------------- Follow Adam Lane Smith: -------------------------------------------------- Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg     Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  Twitter /X: https://twitter.com/TheBrometheus  Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro    -------------------------------------------------- Follow Andrey Korikov:   -------------------------------------------------- Website: https://veritascreative.media/    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andreykorikov/  Business Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/veritascreative.media/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andreykorikov  Twitter /X: https://twitter.com/andreykorikov?lang=en  The next episode drops Thursday :) See you there.