I Wish You Knew

In this episode, Kelly Chase from Love Is Blind (Season 1) opens up about her journey from heartbreak and self-abandonment to healing, boundaries, and self-love. She shares what led her to go on the show, what she learned from the experience, and what she's looking for now in love, life, and relationships. ✨ Topics Covered: 👉 Why Kelly went on Love Is Blind and what she hoped to find 👉 The hidden reasons people stay in unhealthy relationships 👉 Her “aha” moment after the show ended 👉 What healthy ambition and partnership mean to her 👉 Dating challenges in today’s world—ghosting, emotional unavailability, and more 👉 Why looks aren’t enough and the power of personality 👉 The emotional cost of people-pleasing and external validation 👉 Navigating modern dating with healed energy and clearer boundaries 👉 What women truly want versus what society pushes 👉 Kelly's real talk on being loved with baggage—not despite it Kelly’s story is a powerful reminder that healing takes courage, and love begins with the relationship you have with yourself. If you’ve ever felt stuck in dating cycles, this episode will speak to your heart. Stay tuned for more expert insights and relationship advice in future episodes! If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Attachment Specialist Fixes an Avoidant Woman’  https://youtu.be/zSaZrRedRUc  Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com  ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Follow the “I Wish You Knew” Podcast: -------------------------------------------------- Website:    https://iwishyouknew.show/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theiwishyouknewpodcast/  Tiktok:        https://www.tiktok.com/@iwishyouknewshow  Snapchat:  https://www.snapchat.com/iwishyouknewpod   Twitter /X:  https://twitter.com/iwishyouknewpod  Spotify:      https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ncc0MBgm04xTIQ5ByiCGI  Apple:        https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-wish-you-knew/id1713427809  -------------------------------------------------- Follow Adam Lane Smith: -------------------------------------------------- Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg     Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  Twitter /X: https://x.com/AdamLaneSmith  Threads:   https://www.threads.net/@attachmentadam  Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  -------------------------------------------------- Kelly Chase: -------------------------------------------------- IG: https://www.instagram.com/chaselifewithkelly/?hl=en  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCNqhN0CXWVATKfUjwrm65-g The next episode drops Thursday :) See you there. Visit: https://iwishyouknew.show/ to lean more about the podcast To Learn More About  @AttachmentAdam   https://adamlanesmith.com/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/?hl=en

In this episode, Aurora Culpo returns with a candid and emotionally honest update about her personal life. She opens up about the complexity of dating after heartbreak, the internal battles of self-worth, and how she’s navigating a new relationship under the scrutiny of public attention. From emotional triggers and attachment patterns to navigating jealousy and miscommunication, Aurora invites listeners into the real, often messy, human experience of love and healing. Whether you're single, dating, or rebuilding after pain, her vulnerability offers comfort, wisdom, and perspective. ✨ Key Topics Covered: 👉 Dealing with recurring disappointment in dating 👉 The power of being self-correcting in relationships 👉 Balancing vulnerability with privacy in public platforms 👉 How outside opinions can influence a new relationship 👉 Understanding oxytocin, dopamine, and emotional bonding 👉 The effect of family feedback on self-esteem 👉 Navigating jealousy and insecurity in modern dating 👉 How to approach tough conversations with your partner 👉 Miscommunication risks when texting emotional topics 👉 Attachment styles and how they shape connection This is a grounded, heartfelt episode for anyone who’s ever questioned their worth in love, wrestled with their past, or tried to trust again. Stay tuned for more expert insights and relationship advice in future episodes! If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Attachment Specialist Fixes an Avoidant Woman’  https://youtu.be/zSaZrRedRUc  Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com  ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Follow the “I Wish You Knew” Podcast: -------------------------------------------------- Website:    https://iwishyouknew.show/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theiwishyouknewpodcast/  Tiktok:        https://www.tiktok.com/@iwishyouknewshow  Snapchat:  https://www.snapchat.com/iwishyouknewpod   Twitter /X:  https://twitter.com/iwishyouknewpod  Spotify:      https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ncc0MBgm04xTIQ5ByiCGI  Apple:        https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-wish-you-knew/id1713427809  -------------------------------------------------- Follow Adam Lane Smith: -------------------------------------------------- Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg     Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  Twitter /X: https://x.com/AdamLaneSmith  Threads:   https://www.threads.net/@attachmentadam  Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  ------------------------------------------------- Follow Aurora Cuplo: -------------------------------------------------- Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJao_5jeoi6k1x4M03-v67g    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/auroraculpo/?hl=en  Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@aurora_culpo?lang=en  ------------------------------------------------- To Learn More About  @AttachmentAdam   https://adamlanesmith.com/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/?hl=en  

In this deep and vulnerable conversation, Kyle Cease opens up about his personal journey—from using comedy as a defense mechanism to confronting childhood trauma and stepping into authentic healing. He explores how false identities are formed through pain and how real transformation happens when we face the hidden parts of ourselves. With insights on attachment, inner work, spirituality, and the power of humor, this episode is both heart-opening and thought-provoking.  Topics Covered: 👉 Using comedy as a survival tool in childhood 👉 How childhood trauma shapes false identities 👉 Secure vs. anxious attachment styles 👉 The role of inner work in personal growth 👉 Letting go of external validation and people-pleasing 👉 The connection between sadness, humor, and healing 👉 Struggles with parental relationships and unmet expectations 👉 Social media, dopamine addiction, and emotional avoidance 👉 The tension between self-help culture and authenticity 👉 Why receiving can be difficult—and how to change that 👉 Allowing God or the present moment to guide transformation Kyle’s story is a powerful reminder that healing doesn’t come from chasing success—it comes from turning inward, being honest with ourselves, and allowing the present moment to lead the way. Whether you're just beginning your healing journey or deep in the work, this episode offers insight, permission, and hope. Stay tuned for more expert insights and relationship advice in future episodes! If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Attachment Specialist Fixes an Avoidant Woman’  https://youtu.be/zSaZrRedRUc  Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com  ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Follow the “I Wish You Knew” Podcast: -------------------------------------------------- Website:    https://iwishyouknew.show/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theiwishyouknewpodcast/  Tiktok:        https://www.tiktok.com/@iwishyouknewshow  Snapchat:  https://www.snapchat.com/iwishyouknewpod   Twitter /X:  https://twitter.com/iwishyouknewpod  Spotify:      https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ncc0MBgm04xTIQ5ByiCGI  Apple:        https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-wish-you-knew/id1713427809  -------------------------------------------------- Follow Adam Lane Smith: -------------------------------------------------- Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg     Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  Twitter /X: https://x.com/AdamLaneSmith  Threads:   https://www.threads.net/@attachmentadam  Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  --------------------------------------------------  Kyle Cease: -------------------------------------------------- IG: https://www.instagram.com/evolvingoutloud Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/kylecease  The next episode drops Thursday :) See you there. Visit: https://iwishyouknew.show/ to lean more about the podcast To Learn More About  @AttachmentAdam   https://adamlanesmith.com/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/?hl=en

In this insightful episode, Dr. Alexandra Solomon, a renowned psychologist and expert on relationships and intimacy, joins attachment specialist Adam Lane Smith to answer one of the hardest questions couples face: Can a relationship ever truly recover after an affair? Whether you’ve experienced betrayal or fear it might happen, this episode offers honest answers and real hope. Topics Covered 👉 The psychological impact of infidelity, including PTSD symptoms in betrayed partners 👉 Whether love and trust can truly be rebuilt after someone cheats 👉 Who cheats more—men or women? Exploring modern trends and cultural shifts 👉 What motivates infidelity, and how it’s often tied to identity and emotional disconnect 👉 How insecure attachment styles like anxious-avoidant dynamics set the stage for betrayal 👉 Why communication breakdowns lead to emotional distance and vulnerability to affairs 👉 The path to sexual healing after infidelity and why pleasure can be part of the repair 👉 Unlearning toxic sex scripts shaped by porn and cultural myths 👉 What a “bulletproof relationship” looks like, and how couples can protect against future betrayals 👉 The emotional and behavioral transformation required of the partner who cheated Affairs can devastate—but they can also awaken. Dr. Solomon and Adam Lane Smith share how, with courage and commitment, couples can turn betrayal into breakthrough. For those navigating pain, rebuilding trust, or learning to love securely, this episode offers not just insight—but a roadmap. Stay tuned for more expert insights and relationship advice in future episodes! If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Attachment Specialist Fixes an Avoidant Woman’  https://youtu.be/zSaZrRedRUc  Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com  ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Follow the “I Wish You Knew” Podcast: -------------------------------------------------- Website:    https://iwishyouknew.show/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theiwishyouknewpodcast/  Tiktok:        https://www.tiktok.com/@iwishyouknewshow  Snapchat:  https://www.snapchat.com/iwishyouknewpod   Twitter /X:  https://twitter.com/iwishyouknewpod  Spotify:      https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ncc0MBgm04xTIQ5ByiCGI  Apple:        https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-wish-you-knew/id1713427809  -------------------------------------------------- Follow Adam Lane Smith: -------------------------------------------------- Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg     Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  Twitter /X: https://x.com/AdamLaneSmith  Threads:   https://www.threads.net/@attachmentadam  Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  ------------------------------------------------- Dr. Alexandra Solomon ------------------------------------------------- Website: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/alexandrahs1  ------------------------------------------------- The next episode drops Thursday :) See you there. Visit: https://iwishyouknew.show/ to lean more about the podcast To Learn More About  @AttachmentAdam   https://adamlanesmith.com/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/?hl=en

This engaging discussion dives into the connection between attachment styles and personality disorders. It unpacks how childhood trauma influences emotional regulation and interpersonal relationships. Offering a fresh perspective, the hosts critique the traditional medical model and explore unconventional healing methods. The conversation highlights the dangers of overmedication and promotes community support as a pathway to recovery. A compelling metaphor about love and risk illustrates the complexities of attachment and provides listeners with practical insights for fostering secure connections.

In this episode, Evan Marc Katz joins Adam Lane Smith for a fiery and thought-provoking debate on one of the most challenging questions in relationships: Can we truly change our partner—or is it all about accepting them as they are? From practical dating strategies to deeper emotional dynamics, this conversation dives into the complexities of modern love and long-term compatibility. ✨ Key Topics Covered: 👉 Can good relationships be effortless—or do they always require "hard work"? 👉 Why trying to filter a future husband through dating profiles might be sabotaging your chances 👉 The hidden danger of rushing relationships due to urgency or age 👉 Do men doing more chores really lead to higher divorce rates? 👉 Why chemistry fades—and what truly keeps couples together long-term 👉 Understanding attachment styles: anxious vs. avoidant in real-life dynamics 👉 How discomfort can be a sign of growth in a healthy relationship 👉 Can emotionally avoidant men become devoted, secure partners? 👉 The power of conflict resolution and reading emotional cues 👉 What makes two people truly compatible—beyond cliches Whether you're single and searching or in the middle of navigating a tough dynamic, this conversation offers powerful insights into love, growth, and emotional responsibility. To dive deeper into relationship skills, check out Adam's retreat offerings at https://adamlanesmith.com/retreat/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=avoidant&utm_content=descriptionlink Stay tuned for more expert insights and relationship advice in future episodes! If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Attachment Specialist Fixes an Avoidant Woman’  https://youtu.be/zSaZrRedRUc  Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com  ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Follow the “I Wish You Knew” Podcast: -------------------------------------------------- Website:    https://iwishyouknew.show/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theiwishyouknewpodcast/  Tiktok:        https://www.tiktok.com/@iwishyouknewshow  Snapchat:  https://www.snapchat.com/iwishyouknewpod   Twitter /X:  https://twitter.com/iwishyouknewpod  Spotify:      https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ncc0MBgm04xTIQ5ByiCGI  Apple:        https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-wish-you-knew/id1713427809  -------------------------------------------------- Follow Adam Lane Smith: -------------------------------------------------- Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg     Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  Twitter /X: https://x.com/AdamLaneSmith  Threads:   https://www.threads.net/@attachmentadam  Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  -------------------------------------------------- Evan Marc Katz: -------------------------------------------------- IG: https://www.instagram.com/realevanmarckatz/?hl=en  Website: https://www.evanmarckatz.com/ The next episode drops Thursday :) See you there. Visit: https://iwishyouknew.show/ to lean more about the podcast To Learn More About  @AttachmentAdam   https://adamlanesmith.com/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/?hl=en

Brandon Doerkse opens up about how he nearly lost his marriage due to emotional numbness, distraction, and addiction. For years, he struggled with avoidance, failing to recognize how his actions were eroding the trust and intimacy in his relationship. It wasn’t until he hit rock bottom that he realized the painful truth—his marriage was falling apart, and he was the one responsible. Topics Covered: 👉 The impact of emotional disconnection in marriage 👉 How avoidance and addiction sabotage relationships 👉 Why men must take the first step in healing a broken relationship 👉 Understanding attachment styles and their effect on marriage 👉 The painful realization that led Brandon to transformation 👉 How honesty and accountability helped rebuild trust 👉 The importance of integration with God, family, and self 👉 What true masculine leadership in marriage looks like Brandon’s journey proves that no matter how broken a relationship may seem, healing is possible when a man is willing to confront his shortcomings and take responsibility. His story is a powerful testament to the importance of emotional awareness, faith, and intentional action in restoring love and trust. If this conversation spoke to you, share your thoughts in the comments. Have you faced similar struggles in your relationship? What steps have helped you move forward? Let’s continue the conversation below. Stay tuned for more expert insights and relationship advice in future episodes! If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Attachment Specialist Fixes an Avoidant Woman’  https://youtu.be/zSaZrRedRUc  Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com  ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Follow the “I Wish You Knew” Podcast: -------------------------------------------------- Website:    https://iwishyouknew.show/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theiwishyouknewpodcast/  Tiktok:        https://www.tiktok.com/@iwishyouknewshow  Snapchat:  https://www.snapchat.com/iwishyouknewpod   Twitter /X:  https://twitter.com/iwishyouknewpod  Spotify:      https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ncc0MBgm04xTIQ5ByiCGI  Apple:        https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-wish-you-knew/id1713427809  -------------------------------------------------- Follow Adam Lane Smith: -------------------------------------------------- Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg     Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  Twitter /X: https://x.com/AdamLaneSmith  Threads:   https://www.threads.net/@attachmentadam  Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  -------------------------------------------------- Brandon Doerkse: -------------------------------------------------- IG: https://www.instagram.com/brandontalksmarriage/?hl=en  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@brandontalksmarriage  The next episode drops Thursday :) See you there. Visit: https://iwishyouknew.show/ to lean more about the podcast To Learn More About  @AttachmentAdam   https://adamlanesmith.com/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/?hl=en

In this episode, Adam Lane Smith, the Attachment Specialist, navigates the challenges of a toxic marriage. Through raw and honest conversations, Adam uncovers the root causes of their struggles and offers practical guidance to rebuild trust, communication, and emotional connection. Whether you’re facing similar issues or just want to strengthen your relationship, this episode is packed with insights and advice that can make a real difference. Topics Covered: 👉 The impact of unresolved trauma on marriage and relationships 👉 How pressure and past experiences shape relationship dynamics 👉 Addressing touch aversion and intimacy issues 👉 The importance of emotional regulation and safe communication 👉 Building a healthy legacy for children and breaking toxic patterns 👉 Strategies to create a secure and loving environment for the whole family Adam provides powerful insights and actionable steps to help couples rebuild connection and create a healthier, more fulfilling relationship. No matter where you are in your journey, this episode offers hope and practical guidance to transform your relationship dynamics. Don’t miss this transformative conversation—tune in now! Stay tuned for more expert insights and relationship advice in future episodes! If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Attachment Specialist Fixes an Avoidant Woman’  https://youtu.be/zSaZrRedRUc  Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com  ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Follow the “I Wish You Knew” Podcast: -------------------------------------------------- Website:    https://iwishyouknew.show/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theiwishyouknewpodcast/  Tiktok:        https://www.tiktok.com/@iwishyouknewshow  Snapchat:  https://www.snapchat.com/iwishyouknewpod   Twitter /X:  https://twitter.com/iwishyouknewpod  Spotify:      https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ncc0MBgm04xTIQ5ByiCGI  Apple:        https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-wish-you-knew/id1713427809  -------------------------------------------------- Follow Adam Lane Smith: -------------------------------------------------- Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg     Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  Twitter /X: https://x.com/AdamLaneSmith  Threads:   https://www.threads.net/@attachmentadam  Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  -------------------------------------------------- The next episode drops Thursday :) See you there. Visit: https://iwishyouknew.show/ to lean more about the podcast To Learn More About  @AttachmentAdam   https://adamlanesmith.com/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/?hl=en

In this enlightening discussion, Shallon Lester, known for her tough-love approach to relationships, teams up with Adam Lane Smith to tackle the complexities of avoidant attachment. They uncover the hidden dangers of trusting words alone and unveil red flags that signal emotional unavailability. Shallon shares her strategies for setting boundaries and empowering women to prioritize personal fulfillment. They dive into the challenges of modern dating, encourage effective communication, and emphasize the importance of personal responsibility in seeking genuine connections.

Explore the growing divide between men and women and the societal impacts of modern relationships. Delve into the perception of male weakness and the cultural conflicts arising from changing gender roles. Discover how attachment styles shape emotional connections and the importance of personal responsibility. The crisis of masculinity is examined alongside strategies for men to reclaim their sense of purpose. The conversation highlights the complexities of navigating relationships, self-development, and the evolving dynamics of attraction in today's world.