I Wish You Knew

In this episode, Andrey shares how he went from emotionally avoidant to fully committed in marriage. He breaks down the exact values, mindset shifts, and moments that made him stay.  Adam and Andrey explore how real love forms not through perfection, but through shared vision and integrity. This is a blueprint for building lasting connection with an avoidant man. Topics Covered: 👉 What makes an avoidant man choose commitment 👉 How to build lasting love with an avoidant man 👉 The values that made her “the one” 👉 Why a woman’s boundaries increase attraction 👉 How she helped him cross the dopamine crash 👉 What avoidant men secretly need to trust 👉 The power of shared vision, timelines, and direction 👉 Why self-abandonment ruins real connection If you enjoyed watching this episode, you might love 'Why She Doesn’t Want You (Even If She Loves You) '. Watch here:  https://youtu.be/aUMUEbwcVuo Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com  ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Follow the “I Wish You Knew” Podcast: -------------------------------------------------- Website:    https://iwishyouknew.show/    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theiwishyouknewpodcast/   Tiktok:        https://www.tiktok.com/@iwishyouknewshow    Snapchat:  https://www.snapchat.com/iwishyouknewpod    Twitter /X:  https://twitter.com/iwishyouknewpod   Spotify:      https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ncc0MBgm04xTIQ5ByiCGI   Apple:        https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-wish-you-knew/id1713427809   ------------------------------------------------- Follow Adam Lane Smith: -------------------------------------------------- Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/   Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg      Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/   Twitter /X: https://x.com/AdamLaneSmith   Threads:   https://www.threads.net/@attachmentadam   Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  The next episode drops Thursday :) See you there.

Emily Humpert, known for her candid discussions on attachment issues, joins host Adam Lane Smith to explore emotional intimacy and the struggles of feeling unlovable. They dive into how perfectionism and shame can damage relationships, the difference between emotional safety and intimacy, and the importance of vulnerability. Additionally, they discuss the role of vasopressin in bonding, and the healing potential of emotional intimacy. This enlightening conversation offers hope and practical insights for those navigating the complex world of attachment.

Explore the critical balance between love and emotional safety in relationships. Discover how attachment theory can reshape your perspective on connection. Learn about effective communication methods, including the benefits of text messaging for anxious partners. Delve into the importance of rebuilding trust and emotional bonds through consistent positive experiences. Uncover the innovative COO/CEO model for emotional teamwork and the value of vulnerability in conversations. Plus, hear strategies for nurturing a legacy of emotional safety for future generations.

In this conversation, Adam welcomes Margarita Nazarenko, a viral voice of tough love on relationships, for a deep, honest dialogue about anxious attachment, emotional patterns, and why so many women end up chasing emotionally unavailable men. Margarita offers clarity, accountability, and practical wisdom to break the cycle of toxic relationships and build something truly healthy. Topics Covered: 👉 Why women with anxious attachment chase emotionally unavailable men 👉 The damage of mothering men and the false thrill of romantic pursuit 👉 How childhood wounds and abandonment issues shape relationship patterns 👉 The long term impact of emotionally absent fathers on children 👉 How to stop repeating generational pain through conscious healing 👉 Why secure, available men are often overlooked by anxious women 👉 A practical inner child healing practice to rewire your attachment style 👉 The difference between genuine connection and trauma bonds 👉 How to protect your energy, value, and future as a woman 👉 Why waiting to be chosen doesn’t make you weak, it makes you wise You deserve to be chosen, cherished, and safe, not constantly chasing love that won’t stay. If this episode resonated, don’t forget to subscribe and share it with someone who needs to hear this truth. More raw and transformative conversations coming soon. Stay tuned for more expert insights and relationship advice in future episodes! If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Attachment Specialist Fixes an Avoidant Woman’  https://youtu.be/zSaZrRedRUc  Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com  ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Follow the “I Wish You Knew” Podcast: -------------------------------------------------- Website:    https://iwishyouknew.show/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theiwishyouknewpodcast/  Tiktok:        https://www.tiktok.com/@iwishyouknewshow  Snapchat:  https://www.snapchat.com/iwishyouknewpod   Twitter /X:  https://twitter.com/iwishyouknewpod  Spotify:      https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ncc0MBgm04xTIQ5ByiCGI  Apple:        https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-wish-you-knew/id1713427809  -------------------------------------------------- Follow Adam Lane Smith: -------------------------------------------------- Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg     Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  Twitter /X: https://x.com/AdamLaneSmith  Threads:   https://www.threads.net/@attachmentadam  Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  Margarita Nazarenko: Website: https://www.margaritanazarenko.com IG: https://www.instagram.com/margarita.nazarenko?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ== Youtube: https://youtube.com/@Margarita.Nazarenko?si=4FjXe2NpgP0fer21 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@margarita.nazarenko?_t=ZS-8vAmQU2w0b2&_r=1 -------------------------------------------------- The next episode drops Thursday :) See you there. Visit: https://iwishyouknew.show/ to lean more about the podcast

Jessica Baum, a leading attachment expert and author of 'Anxiously Attached,' joins Adam Lane Smith to explore the pivotal role of emotional safety in relationships. They discuss how attachment styles affect adult connections, the impact of childhood experiences, and the need for vulnerability. Baum emphasizes that emotional safety isn't just about feeling secure but about being present with pain and fear. The duo also highlights the dangers of unrealistic expectations and self-abandonment in love, advocating for authentic communication and mutual understanding to foster deeper intimacy.

In this episode, Andrey and Adam dive deep into the foundations of trust-based communication in both professional and personal relationships. They unpack the dangers of transactional thinking, explore how poor communication sabotages connection, and offer practical insight into building relationships rooted in mutual respect rather than leverage. Topics Covered: 👉 The danger of giving power based solely on talent 👉 Why standardization and Six Sigma don't inspire Gen Z workers 👉 The shift from performance-based to trust-based leadership 👉 How fear and unmet expectations destroy relationships 👉 The role of masculine relationships and loyalty in high-performing teams 👉 Love, loyalty, and servitude in business culture 👉 How attachment wounds impact negotiation and influence 👉 The legal and ethical principles of “good faith” negotiation 👉 Why old systems of influence are collapsing in the age of AI 👉 Why leverage-based leadership is unsustainable If this conversation shifted the way you think about negotiation, leadership, or connection—there’s more where that came from. For deeper insight into building trust-based relationships in business and life, visit adamlainsmith.com.  Stay tuned for more expert insights and relationship advice in future episodes! If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Attachment Specialist Fixes an Avoidant Woman’  https://youtu.be/zSaZrRedRUc  Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com  ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Follow the “I Wish You Knew” Podcast: -------------------------------------------------- Website:    https://iwishyouknew.show/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theiwishyouknewpodcast/  Tiktok:        https://www.tiktok.com/@iwishyouknewshow  Snapchat:  https://www.snapchat.com/iwishyouknewpod   Twitter /X:  https://twitter.com/iwishyouknewpod  Spotify:      https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ncc0MBgm04xTIQ5ByiCGI  Apple:        https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-wish-you-knew/id1713427809  -------------------------------------------------- Follow Adam Lane Smith: -------------------------------------------------- Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg     Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  Twitter /X: https://x.com/AdamLaneSmith  Threads:   https://www.threads.net/@attachmentadam  Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  -------------------------------------------------- The next episode drops Thursday :) See you there. Visit: https://iwishyouknew.show/ to lean more about the podcast To Learn More About  @AttachmentAdam   https://adamlanesmith.com/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/?hl=en

In this episode, Kelly Chase from Love Is Blind (Season 1) opens up about her journey from heartbreak and self-abandonment to healing, boundaries, and self-love. She shares what led her to go on the show, what she learned from the experience, and what she's looking for now in love, life, and relationships. ✨ Topics Covered: 👉 Why Kelly went on Love Is Blind and what she hoped to find 👉 The hidden reasons people stay in unhealthy relationships 👉 Her “aha” moment after the show ended 👉 What healthy ambition and partnership mean to her 👉 Dating challenges in today’s world—ghosting, emotional unavailability, and more 👉 Why looks aren’t enough and the power of personality 👉 The emotional cost of people-pleasing and external validation 👉 Navigating modern dating with healed energy and clearer boundaries 👉 What women truly want versus what society pushes 👉 Kelly's real talk on being loved with baggage—not despite it Kelly’s story is a powerful reminder that healing takes courage, and love begins with the relationship you have with yourself. If you’ve ever felt stuck in dating cycles, this episode will speak to your heart. Stay tuned for more expert insights and relationship advice in future episodes! If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Attachment Specialist Fixes an Avoidant Woman’  https://youtu.be/zSaZrRedRUc  Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com  ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Follow the “I Wish You Knew” Podcast: -------------------------------------------------- Website:    https://iwishyouknew.show/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theiwishyouknewpodcast/  Tiktok:        https://www.tiktok.com/@iwishyouknewshow  Snapchat:  https://www.snapchat.com/iwishyouknewpod   Twitter /X:  https://twitter.com/iwishyouknewpod  Spotify:      https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ncc0MBgm04xTIQ5ByiCGI  Apple:        https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-wish-you-knew/id1713427809  -------------------------------------------------- Follow Adam Lane Smith: -------------------------------------------------- Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg     Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  Twitter /X: https://x.com/AdamLaneSmith  Threads:   https://www.threads.net/@attachmentadam  Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  -------------------------------------------------- Kelly Chase: -------------------------------------------------- IG: https://www.instagram.com/chaselifewithkelly/?hl=en  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCNqhN0CXWVATKfUjwrm65-g The next episode drops Thursday :) See you there. Visit: https://iwishyouknew.show/ to lean more about the podcast To Learn More About  @AttachmentAdam   https://adamlanesmith.com/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/?hl=en

In this episode, Aurora Culpo returns with a candid and emotionally honest update about her personal life. She opens up about the complexity of dating after heartbreak, the internal battles of self-worth, and how she’s navigating a new relationship under the scrutiny of public attention. From emotional triggers and attachment patterns to navigating jealousy and miscommunication, Aurora invites listeners into the real, often messy, human experience of love and healing. Whether you're single, dating, or rebuilding after pain, her vulnerability offers comfort, wisdom, and perspective. ✨ Key Topics Covered: 👉 Dealing with recurring disappointment in dating 👉 The power of being self-correcting in relationships 👉 Balancing vulnerability with privacy in public platforms 👉 How outside opinions can influence a new relationship 👉 Understanding oxytocin, dopamine, and emotional bonding 👉 The effect of family feedback on self-esteem 👉 Navigating jealousy and insecurity in modern dating 👉 How to approach tough conversations with your partner 👉 Miscommunication risks when texting emotional topics 👉 Attachment styles and how they shape connection This is a grounded, heartfelt episode for anyone who’s ever questioned their worth in love, wrestled with their past, or tried to trust again. Stay tuned for more expert insights and relationship advice in future episodes! If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Attachment Specialist Fixes an Avoidant Woman’  https://youtu.be/zSaZrRedRUc  Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com  ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Follow the “I Wish You Knew” Podcast: -------------------------------------------------- Website:    https://iwishyouknew.show/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theiwishyouknewpodcast/  Tiktok:        https://www.tiktok.com/@iwishyouknewshow  Snapchat:  https://www.snapchat.com/iwishyouknewpod   Twitter /X:  https://twitter.com/iwishyouknewpod  Spotify:      https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ncc0MBgm04xTIQ5ByiCGI  Apple:        https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-wish-you-knew/id1713427809  -------------------------------------------------- Follow Adam Lane Smith: -------------------------------------------------- Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg     Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  Twitter /X: https://x.com/AdamLaneSmith  Threads:   https://www.threads.net/@attachmentadam  Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  ------------------------------------------------- Follow Aurora Cuplo: -------------------------------------------------- Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJao_5jeoi6k1x4M03-v67g    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/auroraculpo/?hl=en  Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@aurora_culpo?lang=en  ------------------------------------------------- To Learn More About  @AttachmentAdam   https://adamlanesmith.com/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/?hl=en  

In this deep and vulnerable conversation, Kyle Cease opens up about his personal journey—from using comedy as a defense mechanism to confronting childhood trauma and stepping into authentic healing. He explores how false identities are formed through pain and how real transformation happens when we face the hidden parts of ourselves. With insights on attachment, inner work, spirituality, and the power of humor, this episode is both heart-opening and thought-provoking.  Topics Covered: 👉 Using comedy as a survival tool in childhood 👉 How childhood trauma shapes false identities 👉 Secure vs. anxious attachment styles 👉 The role of inner work in personal growth 👉 Letting go of external validation and people-pleasing 👉 The connection between sadness, humor, and healing 👉 Struggles with parental relationships and unmet expectations 👉 Social media, dopamine addiction, and emotional avoidance 👉 The tension between self-help culture and authenticity 👉 Why receiving can be difficult—and how to change that 👉 Allowing God or the present moment to guide transformation Kyle’s story is a powerful reminder that healing doesn’t come from chasing success—it comes from turning inward, being honest with ourselves, and allowing the present moment to lead the way. Whether you're just beginning your healing journey or deep in the work, this episode offers insight, permission, and hope. Stay tuned for more expert insights and relationship advice in future episodes! If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Attachment Specialist Fixes an Avoidant Woman’  https://youtu.be/zSaZrRedRUc  Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com  ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Follow the “I Wish You Knew” Podcast: -------------------------------------------------- Website:    https://iwishyouknew.show/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theiwishyouknewpodcast/  Tiktok:        https://www.tiktok.com/@iwishyouknewshow  Snapchat:  https://www.snapchat.com/iwishyouknewpod   Twitter /X:  https://twitter.com/iwishyouknewpod  Spotify:      https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ncc0MBgm04xTIQ5ByiCGI  Apple:        https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-wish-you-knew/id1713427809  -------------------------------------------------- Follow Adam Lane Smith: -------------------------------------------------- Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg     Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  Twitter /X: https://x.com/AdamLaneSmith  Threads:   https://www.threads.net/@attachmentadam  Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  --------------------------------------------------  Kyle Cease: -------------------------------------------------- IG: https://www.instagram.com/evolvingoutloud Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/kylecease  The next episode drops Thursday :) See you there. Visit: https://iwishyouknew.show/ to lean more about the podcast To Learn More About  @AttachmentAdam   https://adamlanesmith.com/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/?hl=en

In this insightful episode, Dr. Alexandra Solomon, a renowned psychologist and expert on relationships and intimacy, joins attachment specialist Adam Lane Smith to answer one of the hardest questions couples face: Can a relationship ever truly recover after an affair? Whether you’ve experienced betrayal or fear it might happen, this episode offers honest answers and real hope. Topics Covered 👉 The psychological impact of infidelity, including PTSD symptoms in betrayed partners 👉 Whether love and trust can truly be rebuilt after someone cheats 👉 Who cheats more—men or women? Exploring modern trends and cultural shifts 👉 What motivates infidelity, and how it’s often tied to identity and emotional disconnect 👉 How insecure attachment styles like anxious-avoidant dynamics set the stage for betrayal 👉 Why communication breakdowns lead to emotional distance and vulnerability to affairs 👉 The path to sexual healing after infidelity and why pleasure can be part of the repair 👉 Unlearning toxic sex scripts shaped by porn and cultural myths 👉 What a “bulletproof relationship” looks like, and how couples can protect against future betrayals 👉 The emotional and behavioral transformation required of the partner who cheated Affairs can devastate—but they can also awaken. Dr. Solomon and Adam Lane Smith share how, with courage and commitment, couples can turn betrayal into breakthrough. For those navigating pain, rebuilding trust, or learning to love securely, this episode offers not just insight—but a roadmap. Stay tuned for more expert insights and relationship advice in future episodes! If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Attachment Specialist Fixes an Avoidant Woman’  https://youtu.be/zSaZrRedRUc  Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com  ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Follow the “I Wish You Knew” Podcast: -------------------------------------------------- Website:    https://iwishyouknew.show/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theiwishyouknewpodcast/  Tiktok:        https://www.tiktok.com/@iwishyouknewshow  Snapchat:  https://www.snapchat.com/iwishyouknewpod   Twitter /X:  https://twitter.com/iwishyouknewpod  Spotify:      https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ncc0MBgm04xTIQ5ByiCGI  Apple:        https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-wish-you-knew/id1713427809  -------------------------------------------------- Follow Adam Lane Smith: -------------------------------------------------- Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg     Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  Twitter /X: https://x.com/AdamLaneSmith  Threads:   https://www.threads.net/@attachmentadam  Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  ------------------------------------------------- Dr. Alexandra Solomon ------------------------------------------------- Website: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/alexandrahs1  ------------------------------------------------- The next episode drops Thursday :) See you there. Visit: https://iwishyouknew.show/ to lean more about the podcast To Learn More About  @AttachmentAdam   https://adamlanesmith.com/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/?hl=en