I Wish You Knew Why Anxious Guys Struggle in Love (And How to Fix It)
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Nov 28, 2025 Guest Trevor Hansen, a former therapist and content creator, dives into the world of anxious attachment and its impact on relationships. He humorously highlights how anxious men often signal low safety through their nervous behaviors and eagerness. Trevor shares his personal journey from anxious dating to coaching others on building confidence through boundaries and accountability. They discuss the biological underpinnings of attachment and emphasize shifting from a victim to a hero mindset as a key to improving romantic connections.
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Crisis Sparked Trevor's Career Shift
- Trevor Hansen recounts dating struggles leading to an engagement that ended, a jaw injury, job loss, and his turn to therapy.
- Those crises prompted him to study marriage and family therapy and later shift to coaching.
Safety Cues Beat Grand Gestures
- Anxious men often fail to give subconscious safety cues like calm confidence, which makes dates feel tense to partners.
- Trevor Hansen explains this lack of safety causes ghosting and low attraction despite good intentions.
Run Short Low-Pressure First Dates
- Keep first dates short, public, and low-pressure to test chemistry without overinvesting time or expectation.
- Trevor Hansen suggests simple meetups give a clear sample and reduce false positives that lead to heartbreak.
