Why Anxious and Avoidant Pair Up

Are anxious men unknowingly sabotaging their love life? This video breaks down how anxious attachment affects dating, relationships, and self-worth and how to shift toward secure, confident patterns.

Topics Covered:
👉 Anxious Attachment & Perceived Lack of Leverage
👉 Using Humor in Attachment Work
👉 Dating Struggles: Lack of Safety Cues
👉 Anxious Dating Behaviors
👉 Biological Basis of Anxiety in Dating
👉 Importance of Value & Boundaries
👉 Shifting from Victim to Hero Mindset
👉 The Cycle of Seeking Oxytocin & Dopamine
👉 Why Therapy Often Fails
👉 Timeline & Definition of Secure Attachment

Transform anxious patterns by building value, setting boundaries, and taking consistent action. Relationships improve when fear no longer drives behavior.

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