I Wish You Knew The Science of Why Men Cheat (And How to Stop)
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Jan 16, 2026 
Dr. Orion Taraban, a licensed psychologist and bestselling author, explores the psychology behind relationships and attachment. He discusses how love-bombing reveals hidden dynamics in dating and why modern courtship often misses the mark. The conversation highlights the neurochemistry of attraction, commitment, and the vital balance needed for long-lasting relationships. With insights on the role of vasopressin and the importance of shared purpose, Dr. Taraban challenges conventional beliefs about monogamy and encourages redefining relationship goals for deeper connections.
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Start With Simple Courtship
- Do keep early dating simple to test genuine interest and avoid setting unaffordable standards.
- Adam Lane Smith says cheaper, conversation-based courtship reveals if someone likes you or your resources.
Why Love-Bombing Is Effective
- Love-bombing works because people want and enjoy intense romantic stimulation.
- Orion Taraban warns women share responsibility by noticing their own attraction to extravagant treatment.
Intermittent Reinforcement Feels Like A Slot Machine
- Intermittent reinforcement (oxytocin + dopamine) makes anxious partners especially vulnerable to inconsistent affection.
- Andrey Korikov compares that pattern to gambling and warns it entrenches anxious attachment.
