I Wish You Knew She's Mothering Him (And He'll Leave Her For It)
Jan 1, 2026
Kelsey Wonderlin, a dating coach and creator of the Magnetic Dating Lab, joins Adam Lane Smith to explore the pitfalls women face in dating. They discuss the dangers of attaching too quickly, ignoring red flags, and waiting too long for crucial conversations. Kelsey shares insights on the importance of emotional literacy and setting boundaries, while emphasizing the need to view relationships as partnerships rather than caretaker roles. They stress using intentional vetting questions to foster meaningful connections and ensure mutual values.
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Mothering Sends The Wrong Message
- Women often mother men unintentionally by reducing friction and over-validating them early in dating.
- That dynamic tells capable men everything is fine and pushes away partners who would co-create a relationship.
Kelsey's Early Dating Wakeup
- Kelsey described dating choices she later realized she made like giving repeated chances after being stood up.
- She used therapy and DBT training to recognize patterns and change her decisions moving forward.
Delay Fast Bonding
- Slow bonding: don't treat a great first date as knowing someone; you know less than 1% of them.
- Keep dating other people and pace emotional investment to protect your heart.