I Wish You Knew Schedule Your Feelings. Here's Why.
Jan 23, 2026
Dr. Chris Lee, a neuroscience researcher specializing in men's mental health, unpacks the harsh truth about loneliness and its deadly effects on men's lives. He reveals how our brains, especially the amygdala, can exaggerate threats due to insecure attachments. Scheduling feelings might be unconventional, but it's an effective method for emotional regulation. Chris shares his personal journey with grief and emphasizes the importance of community support in tackling loneliness, along with practical self-regulation techniques to foster emotional safety.
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Schedule Emotions To Avoid Reactive States
- Feelings are real but not facts; label and schedule them instead of reacting instantly.
- Annotate person, place, circumstance, ask "what is this reminding me of?" and postpone processing up to ~12 hours.
Attachment Amplifies Imagined Threats
- Insecure attachment magnifies threat perception and mental rehearsal of worst-case scenarios.
- Adam cites research that an insecure amygdala may hallucinate ~340% more threats, driving wasted energy into 'what if' thinking.
Use Tiny Consistent Steps For Lasting Change
- Build small consistent habits (1% improvements) to rewire neural pathways over time.
- Use daily, weekly and long-term scheduling to let your nervous system anticipate and adapt to change.
