It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People
Hosted by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. and Megan Hunter, MBA, It’s All Your Fault! High Conflict People explores the five types of people who can ruin your life—people with high conflict personalities and how they weave themselves into our lives in romance, at work, next door, at school, places of worship, and just about everywhere, causing chaos, exhaustion, and dread for everyone else.
They are the most difficult of difficult people — some would say they’re toxic. Without them, tv shows, movies, and the news would be boring, but who wants to live that way in your own life!
Have you ever wanted to know what drives them to act this way?
In the It’s All Your Fault podcast, we’ll take you behind the scenes to understand what’s happening in the brain and illuminates why we pick HCPs as life partners, why we hire them, and how we can handle interactions and relationships with them. We break down everything you ever wanted to know about people with the 5 high conflict personality types: narcissistic, borderline, histrionic, antisocial/sociopath, and paranoid.
And we’ll give you tips on how to spot them and how to deal with them.
Latest episodes
Apr 11, 2024 • 47min
Bringing It to Life #1: Navigating High Conflict Mediation & Poll Results
Family solicitor Elaine Richardson joins hosts Bill and Megan to discuss navigating high conflict mediation, revealing poll results on child custody and women in marriage. They introduce 'Bring It to Life' series, dive into a case study, and explore strategies for handling high conflict personalities. Topics include understanding high conflict behaviors, unconscious bias, and empowering individuals in mediation.
Apr 4, 2024 • 34min
Exploring the Path to Mediation: A Conversation with Sonja Wood
Mediator Sonja Wood shares her journey from chemistry to mediation, facing discrimination and lack of conflict training in Europe. She discusses navigating cultural differences, moving to Texas, and utilizing high conflict methods like BIFF. Sonja emphasizes the importance of conflict resolution skills, continuous education, and supporting mediation in Texas. Tune in for valuable insights on constructive resolution and dealing with high conflict personalities.
Mar 28, 2024 • 42min
Defusing Workplace Drama: Expert Advice for Managing High Conflict Personalities
Cherolyn Knapp joins hosts to discuss managing high conflict personalities at work. They talk about identifying subtle signs of high conflict behavior, using 'EAR' statements for communication, and supporting targets of high conflict. Strategies for empowering individuals, setting limits effectively, and introducing workplace coaching program are highlighted.
Mar 21, 2024 • 28min
The Great Custody Debate: Sole vs. Joint in High Conflict Divorces
Exploring the debate between sole and joint custody in high-conflict divorces, focusing on the impact of personality disorders on children and the necessity of setting limits in custody cases. The podcast also touches on parental alienation, teaching emotional skills to teenagers, and navigating high-conflict divorce situations.
Mar 14, 2024 • 28min
Married or Divorced? Examining Women's Happiness in Relationships
Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter discuss women's happiness in marriage, challenging the idea that divorce leads to happiness. They explore gender roles, relationship skills, and the importance of being a whole person. The hosts emphasize that happiness is possible both in marriage and while being single, and highlight the benefits of shared parenting for achieving balance in relationships.
Mar 7, 2024 • 25min
Navigating Concerns of Factitious Disorder: When High Conflict Distorts Perceptions
Exploring factitious disorder in child custody disputes, Bill and Megan discuss the impact on perceptions and conflicts. They highlight deceptive behaviors, challenges in legal proceedings, and effectively navigating concerns with medical professionals. Strategies for addressing suspicions in children without questioning them directly are emphasized.
Feb 29, 2024 • 33min
Drawing the Line: Setting Boundaries for External Conflicts at Work
Learn how managers can navigate divisive societal issues at work by setting clear boundaries and promoting respectful communication. Discover strategies to manage high conflict personalities and prevent aggressive behaviors from disrupting workplace culture. Explore the importance of coaching for improving communication and addressing bullying behaviors in the workplace.
Feb 15, 2024 • 36min
Red Flags in Teen Relationships: Understanding Relationship Violence, Part 2
The podcast delves into teen dating violence, discussing personality disorders' impact on relationships, digital abuse, and intervention strategies. Topics include recognizing early signs of high conflict behaviors, the role of dialectical behavior therapy, and the importance of peer attitudes in teen relationships.
Feb 8, 2024 • 42min
Red Flags in Adult Relationships: Understanding Relationship Violence, Part 1
Exploring red flags in adult relationships, the podcast dives into personality disorders linked to domestic violence, spotting early warning signs, coercive control tactics, impulse control problems, and avoiding relationship blind spots.
Feb 1, 2024 • 29min
Setting Limits Without Going Over the Line
Learn how to set healthy boundaries in high-conflict situations with Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter. From co-parenting to workplace conflicts and suspected lies, they provide practical tips and examples. Practice the BIF method, focus on protecting children, and reality test when needed. Find simple phrases to use when setting boundaries and enhance your most challenging relationships.
