It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People
TruStory FM
Hosted by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. and Megan Hunter, MBA, It’s All Your Fault! High Conflict People explores the five types of people who can ruin your life—people with high conflict personalities and how they weave themselves into our lives in romance, at work, next door, at school, places of worship, and just about everywhere, causing chaos, exhaustion, and dread for everyone else.
They are the most difficult of difficult people — some would say they’re toxic. Without them, tv shows, movies, and the news would be boring, but who wants to live that way in your own life!
Have you ever wanted to know what drives them to act this way?
In the It’s All Your Fault podcast, we’ll take you behind the scenes to understand what’s happening in the brain and illuminates why we pick HCPs as life partners, why we hire them, and how we can handle interactions and relationships with them. We break down everything you ever wanted to know about people with the 5 high conflict personality types: narcissistic, borderline, histrionic, antisocial/sociopath, and paranoid.
And we’ll give you tips on how to spot them and how to deal with them.
They are the most difficult of difficult people — some would say they’re toxic. Without them, tv shows, movies, and the news would be boring, but who wants to live that way in your own life!
Have you ever wanted to know what drives them to act this way?
In the It’s All Your Fault podcast, we’ll take you behind the scenes to understand what’s happening in the brain and illuminates why we pick HCPs as life partners, why we hire them, and how we can handle interactions and relationships with them. We break down everything you ever wanted to know about people with the 5 high conflict personality types: narcissistic, borderline, histrionic, antisocial/sociopath, and paranoid.
And we’ll give you tips on how to spot them and how to deal with them.
Episodes
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Jul 18, 2024 • 27min
REBROADCAST: Walking Away
Tangled relationships with high-conflict individuals can leave you feeling drained. Discussing when it's okay to walk away, the hosts explore the emotional fallout and guilt that often accompanies such decisions. They dive into managing familial ties and the complexities of leaving toxic dynamics, emphasizing the importance of setting boundaries. With insights on effective communication and emotional clarity, they offer strategies for coping and moving forward. Navigating these tricky waters can be tough, but recognizing your worth is essential.
Jul 11, 2024 • 23min
REBROADCAST: Let a Win Be a Win in High Conflict
Explore the unique perspectives on winning in high conflict situations. Discover why progress, not perfection, is key and the importance of celebrating small victories. Learn to choose your battles wisely and recognize when it’s time to step back. Delve into the blame game often played by high conflict individuals and how to navigate relationships with them effectively. This intriguing discussion offers practical strategies to engage constructively while keeping emotions in check.
Jul 4, 2024 • 31min
World of Bullies #5: Strategies for Dealing with Bully Neighbors
Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter from the High Conflict Institute talk about dealing with bully neighbors, identifying bullying behavior triggers, and resolving conflicts through calm conversations, mediation, legal options, and involvement of law enforcement if necessary. They highlight the importance of recognizing patterns and considering moving as a last resort for wellbeing.
Jun 27, 2024 • 32min
World of Bullies #4: Recognizing and Confronting Bullying Behavior in Leaders
Experts Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter discuss bullies as leaders, their personality traits, and the impact on organizations. They emphasize the need for clear policies, setting limits, and consequences. Introduction to New Ways for Work for Leaders training program.
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Jun 20, 2024 • 31min
World of Bullies #3: Unveiling the Invisible Enemy - Confronting Family Bullies
Bill and Megan from the High Conflict Institute discuss identifying and dealing with family bullies. They talk about how bullies isolate targets, the role of 'negative advocates,' and tactics to maintain control. The importance of recognizing patterns, seeking support, and protecting vulnerable family members is highlighted.
Jun 13, 2024 • 41min
World of Bullies #2: Unmasking Bullies in the Workplace and Mediation with Michael Lomax
Guest Michael Lomax, co-founder of High Conflict Institute, discusses workplace bullying and mediation. Key topics include identifying bullies' characteristics, handling bullying allegations, and strategies for managing high conflict personalities in professional settings.
Jun 6, 2024 • 45min
World of Bullies #1: Navigating the New World of Adult Bullying
Bill Eddy, high-conflict personalities expert, discusses adult bullying in a new series. He highlights the impact of COVID-19 on bullying behavior and the need for structure and consequences. The episode addresses media influence and practical ways to deal with bullies, setting the stage for the 'World of Bullies' series.
May 30, 2024 • 20min
Bringing It to Life #6: Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder Part Two with Guest Amanda Smith
Guest Amanda Smith, an expert in Borderline Personality Disorder, discusses the importance of family support and education in helping individuals with BPD. She emphasizes the significance of self-care for family members and suggests creating safety plans to navigate high conflict situations. The podcast also explores the challenges faced by families, strategies for finding common ground, and the role of self-help support groups in mental health.
May 23, 2024 • 33min
Bringing It to Life #6: Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder Part One with Guest Amanda Smith
Special guest Amanda Smith, a DBT expert, discusses Borderline Personality Disorder with Megan Hunter and Bill Eddy. They cover intense emotions, impulsive behaviors, DBT's effectiveness, and court-ordered treatment success stories. Topics include common BPD experiences, recovery strategies, and the emotional struggles individuals face. Valuable insights and strategies for supporting loved ones on the path to recovery.
May 16, 2024 • 43min
Bringing It to Life #5: Navigating Money and Corporate Complexities in High Conflict Divorces with Guest Kate Merrill
California attorney Kate Merrill discusses navigating complex divorce cases involving stock options and corporate issues. The podcast delves into the patterns of behavior in high conflict divorces, emphasizing the importance of financial expertise and being an educated consumer of legal services.
