
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People
Hosted by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. and Megan Hunter, MBA, It’s All Your Fault! High Conflict People explores the five types of people who can ruin your life—people with high conflict personalities and how they weave themselves into our lives in romance, at work, next door, at school, places of worship, and just about everywhere, causing chaos, exhaustion, and dread for everyone else.
They are the most difficult of difficult people — some would say they’re toxic. Without them, tv shows, movies, and the news would be boring, but who wants to live that way in your own life!
Have you ever wanted to know what drives them to act this way?
In the It’s All Your Fault podcast, we’ll take you behind the scenes to understand what’s happening in the brain and illuminates why we pick HCPs as life partners, why we hire them, and how we can handle interactions and relationships with them. We break down everything you ever wanted to know about people with the 5 high conflict personality types: narcissistic, borderline, histrionic, antisocial/sociopath, and paranoid.
And we’ll give you tips on how to spot them and how to deal with them.
Latest episodes

Mar 28, 2024 • 42min
Defusing Workplace Drama: Expert Advice for Managing High Conflict Personalities
Cherolyn Knapp joins hosts to discuss managing high conflict personalities at work. They talk about identifying subtle signs of high conflict behavior, using 'EAR' statements for communication, and supporting targets of high conflict. Strategies for empowering individuals, setting limits effectively, and introducing workplace coaching program are highlighted.

Mar 21, 2024 • 28min
The Great Custody Debate: Sole vs. Joint in High Conflict Divorces
Exploring the debate between sole and joint custody in high-conflict divorces, focusing on the impact of personality disorders on children and the necessity of setting limits in custody cases. The podcast also touches on parental alienation, teaching emotional skills to teenagers, and navigating high-conflict divorce situations.

Mar 14, 2024 • 28min
Married or Divorced? Examining Women's Happiness in Relationships
Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter discuss women's happiness in marriage, challenging the idea that divorce leads to happiness. They explore gender roles, relationship skills, and the importance of being a whole person. The hosts emphasize that happiness is possible both in marriage and while being single, and highlight the benefits of shared parenting for achieving balance in relationships.

Mar 7, 2024 • 25min
Navigating Concerns of Factitious Disorder: When High Conflict Distorts Perceptions
Exploring factitious disorder in child custody disputes, Bill and Megan discuss the impact on perceptions and conflicts. They highlight deceptive behaviors, challenges in legal proceedings, and effectively navigating concerns with medical professionals. Strategies for addressing suspicions in children without questioning them directly are emphasized.

Feb 29, 2024 • 33min
Drawing the Line: Setting Boundaries for External Conflicts at Work
Learn how managers can navigate divisive societal issues at work by setting clear boundaries and promoting respectful communication. Discover strategies to manage high conflict personalities and prevent aggressive behaviors from disrupting workplace culture. Explore the importance of coaching for improving communication and addressing bullying behaviors in the workplace.

Feb 15, 2024 • 36min
Red Flags in Teen Relationships: Understanding Relationship Violence, Part 2
The podcast delves into teen dating violence, discussing personality disorders' impact on relationships, digital abuse, and intervention strategies. Topics include recognizing early signs of high conflict behaviors, the role of dialectical behavior therapy, and the importance of peer attitudes in teen relationships.

Feb 8, 2024 • 42min
Red Flags in Adult Relationships: Understanding Relationship Violence, Part 1
Exploring red flags in adult relationships, the podcast dives into personality disorders linked to domestic violence, spotting early warning signs, coercive control tactics, impulse control problems, and avoiding relationship blind spots.

Feb 1, 2024 • 29min
Setting Limits Without Going Over the Line
Learn how to set healthy boundaries in high-conflict situations with Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter. From co-parenting to workplace conflicts and suspected lies, they provide practical tips and examples. Practice the BIF method, focus on protecting children, and reality test when needed. Find simple phrases to use when setting boundaries and enhance your most challenging relationships.

Dec 21, 2023 • 18min
Holiday Harmony: Keeping The Peace at Family Celebrations
Learn techniques for managing high-conflict personalities at family gatherings and avoiding unnecessary arguments. Discover strategies for maintaining peace and harmony, including setting ground rules and redirecting conversations. Explore the power of one-on-one conversations in bridging gaps and decreasing polarization. Gain practical tips for hosting peaceful events and handling difficult topics.

Dec 19, 2023 • 24min
Pulling the Plug on a Hostile Conversation
Learn how to defuse tense conversations and exit hostile interactions, with strategies from the High Conflict Institute. Discover techniques to redirect heated exchanges into constructive dialogue and gain insights on setting boundaries. Find out how to regain control in confrontational situations and why it's important to question unverified claims politely. Bill and Megan provide tools to end toxic conversations, maintain self-control, and model peaceful conflict resolution.
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