
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People
Hosted by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. and Megan Hunter, MBA, It’s All Your Fault! High Conflict People explores the five types of people who can ruin your life—people with high conflict personalities and how they weave themselves into our lives in romance, at work, next door, at school, places of worship, and just about everywhere, causing chaos, exhaustion, and dread for everyone else.
They are the most difficult of difficult people — some would say they’re toxic. Without them, tv shows, movies, and the news would be boring, but who wants to live that way in your own life!
Have you ever wanted to know what drives them to act this way?
In the It’s All Your Fault podcast, we’ll take you behind the scenes to understand what’s happening in the brain and illuminates why we pick HCPs as life partners, why we hire them, and how we can handle interactions and relationships with them. We break down everything you ever wanted to know about people with the 5 high conflict personality types: narcissistic, borderline, histrionic, antisocial/sociopath, and paranoid.
And we’ll give you tips on how to spot them and how to deal with them.
Latest episodes

Jun 6, 2024 • 46min
World of Bullies #1: Navigating the New World of Adult Bullying
Bill Eddy, high-conflict personalities expert, discusses adult bullying in a new series. He highlights the impact of COVID-19 on bullying behavior and the need for structure and consequences. The episode addresses media influence and practical ways to deal with bullies, setting the stage for the 'World of Bullies' series.

May 30, 2024 • 21min
Bringing It to Life #6: Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder Part Two with Guest Amanda Smith
Guest Amanda Smith, an expert in Borderline Personality Disorder, discusses the importance of family support and education in helping individuals with BPD. She emphasizes the significance of self-care for family members and suggests creating safety plans to navigate high conflict situations. The podcast also explores the challenges faced by families, strategies for finding common ground, and the role of self-help support groups in mental health.

May 23, 2024 • 34min
Bringing It to Life #6: Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder Part One with Guest Amanda Smith
Special guest Amanda Smith, a DBT expert, discusses Borderline Personality Disorder with Megan Hunter and Bill Eddy. They cover intense emotions, impulsive behaviors, DBT's effectiveness, and court-ordered treatment success stories. Topics include common BPD experiences, recovery strategies, and the emotional struggles individuals face. Valuable insights and strategies for supporting loved ones on the path to recovery.

May 16, 2024 • 44min
Bringing It to Life #5: Navigating Money and Corporate Complexities in High Conflict Divorces with Guest Kate Merrill
California attorney Kate Merrill discusses navigating complex divorce cases involving stock options and corporate issues. The podcast delves into the patterns of behavior in high conflict divorces, emphasizing the importance of financial expertise and being an educated consumer of legal services.

May 9, 2024 • 30min
Bringing It to Life #4: Dealing with High Conflict Personalities in Academia
Expert Megan Hunter and specialist Bill Eddy discuss the challenges of high conflict personalities in academia, providing strategies like the CARS method. They highlight the toll toxic environments take on colleagues and institutions, offering advice on setting boundaries and managing interactions with difficult individuals.

May 2, 2024 • 34min
Bringing It to Life #3: Dealing with Parental Alienation
The podcast delves into parental alienation in divorce cases, distinguishing it from estrangement based on the influencer parent. Treatment involves rebuilding relationships and interventions to address alienation. Real-life cases are discussed, highlighting the impact on children and the need for conflict management strategies.

Apr 25, 2024 • 32min
Bringing It to Life #2: Dealing with High Conflict Personalities in the Workplace
Identifying and managing high conflict personalities in the workplace is crucial for maintaining a healthy work environment. Bill and Megan discuss behavior patterns, consequences of toxic employees, and effective management strategies like coaching and setting limits. They emphasize the importance of early intervention and the positive impact of removing disruptive individuals on workplace culture.

Apr 18, 2024 • 38min
Bringing It to Life #1: Navigating High Conflict Mediation Part Two
Guest Elaine Richardson, a UK solicitor and mediator, discusses navigating high conflict mediations. Topics include identifying high conflict personalities, setting boundaries with challenging clients, and using effective communication strategies like the BIFF method. The podcast provides practical strategies for managing difficult situations and emphasizes the importance of open-mindedness and flexibility in conflict resolution.

Apr 11, 2024 • 47min
Bringing It to Life #1: Navigating High Conflict Mediation & Poll Results
Family solicitor Elaine Richardson joins hosts Bill and Megan to discuss navigating high conflict mediation, revealing poll results on child custody and women in marriage. They introduce 'Bring It to Life' series, dive into a case study, and explore strategies for handling high conflict personalities. Topics include understanding high conflict behaviors, unconscious bias, and empowering individuals in mediation.

Apr 4, 2024 • 34min
Exploring the Path to Mediation: A Conversation with Sonja Wood
Mediator Sonja Wood shares her journey from chemistry to mediation, facing discrimination and lack of conflict training in Europe. She discusses navigating cultural differences, moving to Texas, and utilizing high conflict methods like BIFF. Sonja emphasizes the importance of conflict resolution skills, continuous education, and supporting mediation in Texas. Tune in for valuable insights on constructive resolution and dealing with high conflict personalities.
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