It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People
TruStory FM
Hosted by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. and Megan Hunter, MBA, It’s All Your Fault! High Conflict People explores the five types of people who can ruin your life—people with high conflict personalities and how they weave themselves into our lives in romance, at work, next door, at school, places of worship, and just about everywhere, causing chaos, exhaustion, and dread for everyone else.
They are the most difficult of difficult people — some would say they’re toxic. Without them, tv shows, movies, and the news would be boring, but who wants to live that way in your own life!
Have you ever wanted to know what drives them to act this way?
In the It’s All Your Fault podcast, we’ll take you behind the scenes to understand what’s happening in the brain and illuminates why we pick HCPs as life partners, why we hire them, and how we can handle interactions and relationships with them. We break down everything you ever wanted to know about people with the 5 high conflict personality types: narcissistic, borderline, histrionic, antisocial/sociopath, and paranoid.
And we’ll give you tips on how to spot them and how to deal with them.
They are the most difficult of difficult people — some would say they’re toxic. Without them, tv shows, movies, and the news would be boring, but who wants to live that way in your own life!
Have you ever wanted to know what drives them to act this way?
In the It’s All Your Fault podcast, we’ll take you behind the scenes to understand what’s happening in the brain and illuminates why we pick HCPs as life partners, why we hire them, and how we can handle interactions and relationships with them. We break down everything you ever wanted to know about people with the 5 high conflict personality types: narcissistic, borderline, histrionic, antisocial/sociopath, and paranoid.
And we’ll give you tips on how to spot them and how to deal with them.
Episodes
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Nov 21, 2024 • 33min
Family Court Q&A: Parental Alienation, Abuse Claims, and When to Stop Fighting
The hosts dive deep into the complexities of parental alienation and estrangement, clarifying the emotional struggles faced by families navigating high-conflict situations. They tackle listener questions about when to give up the fight in court against manipulative ex-partners and highlight the concept of 'legal abuse.' Discussions also examine how ADHD can affect parenting dynamics and advocate for more individualized assessments in family court. Insights into the prevalence of false allegations illuminate the challenges faced by protective parents.
Nov 14, 2024 • 38min
Paranoid Personality Profiles: 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life (Part 7)
Dive into the complexities of paranoid high conflict personalities, marked by deep mistrust and suspicion. Learn practical strategies for managing these relationships, like clear communication and boundary-setting. Explore how societal factors and digital spaces can amplify paranoia. Discover the impact of social media on trust and misinformation, and gain insights into navigating the challenges these personalities present. This insightful journey equips listeners with the tools to handle interactions with those who can complicate life.
Nov 7, 2024 • 36min
Histrionics Unveiled: The 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life (Part 6)
Dive into the world of histrionic high conflict personalities and discover their dramatic need for attention and exaggerated behaviors. Explore how these traits manifest in both men and women, challenging cultural stereotypes. Delve into the impact of social media on these personalities and learn why setting boundaries is essential. The podcast also shares practical strategies for managing relationships with histrionic individuals, revealing the complexities and emotional toll involved. Expect enlightening insights and relatable examples that resonate!
Oct 31, 2024 • 48min
Unmasking the Narcissist: The 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life (Part 5)
Dive into the complex world of narcissistic high conflict personalities. Discover the stark differences between grandiose and vulnerable narcissists, each with their unique traits and behaviors. Learn about the alarming link between narcissism and domestic violence, and why sincere apologies are usually an illusion. The discussion emphasizes the emotional turmoil faced by victims and offers insights into navigating these toxic relationships. Real-life examples provide essential tools for recognizing and managing interactions with narcissistic individuals.
Oct 24, 2024 • 30min
Asked and Answered: Your Questions on High Conflict Personalities, Relationships, and Self-Improvement
Megan dives into the complexities of dealing with high conflict personalities and the importance of self-awareness. She offers strategies for minimizing damage in co-parenting and emphasizes seeking therapy for emotional regulation. Navigating relationships with those who have borderline personality disorder is also explored, alongside building bonds in blended families. Listeners gain valuable insights on fostering self-worth and positive decision-making, aiming to improve their lives amidst challenging dynamics.
Oct 17, 2024 • 47min
Empowering Domestic Violence Victims: Law Enforcement Strategies for High Conflict Situations with Nick Hartbauer
Nick Hartbauer, a law enforcement officer with 16 years of experience in handling domestic violence, shares his insights on navigating high-conflict situations. He highlights the significance of recognizing high conflict personalities and their emotional patterns to improve victim support. Nick discusses how educating victims about the unlikely change in abusive partners can empower them to escape dangerous relationships. He also elaborates on effective strategies for responding to both low-risk and high-risk domestic violence calls.
Oct 10, 2024 • 37min
High Conflict and Intimate Partner Violence: The 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life (Part 4)
Explore the intricate relationship between high conflict personalities and domestic violence. Understand how borderline and antisocial personality disorders can escalate intimate partner violence. Discover the challenges professionals face in identifying true perpetrators and how emotional dynamics play a role in abusive situations. Learn about the significant distinctions between high conflict families and domestic violence cases. This discussion also emphasizes the importance of accountability and effective interventions for perpetrators.
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Oct 3, 2024 • 37min
The High-Conflict Borderline Personality: The 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life (Part 3)
Bill Eddy, co-founder of the High Conflict Institute and expert on high conflict personalities, joins Megan Hunter, a specialist in communication and conflict resolution, to delve into high conflict borderline personalities, also known as 'Love You Hate You' types. They discuss emotional volatility, the tendency for all-or-nothing thinking, and the behaviors of lying and revenge-seeking. The duo emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and highlights that more than half of those with borderline personality disorder exhibit high conflict traits, offering strategies for navigating these challenging dynamics.
Sep 26, 2024 • 36min
The Antisocial Personality: The 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life (Part 2)
Explore the dark world of cruel con artists with antisocial personality traits. Discover the key red flags that reveal their manipulative nature and charm. Learn how over-empathizing can put you at risk, and why thorough vetting is essential in relationships. The complexities of sociopathy, psychopathy, and the emotional pitfalls are discussed in depth. Gain insights on how to set boundaries and protect your reputation when confronting these high-conflict individuals. Professional guidance is emphasized for navigating these tricky dynamics.
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Sep 19, 2024 • 31min
Recognizing High Conflict Patterns: The 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life (Part 1)
Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter, co-founders of the High Conflict Institute, discuss the five types of high conflict personalities who can disrupt your life. They explain how these individuals often lack self-awareness and demonstrate consistent patterns of blame-shifting and extreme behaviors. Practical strategies for managing interactions with these personalities are shared, including the CARS method for effective communication. The conversation sets the stage for a deeper exploration of these personalities in future discussions.
