What does scientific research tell us about relationship satisfaction in non-monogamy? What can monogamous folks learn from the research done on non-monogamous relationships? How do monogamy and non-monogamy differ when it comes to relationship satisfaction, mate retention, and conflict resolution?   Effy and Jacqueline chat with Dr. Justin Mogilski about his international research on the best and the worst strategies for navigating consensually non-monogamous relationships. Dr. Mogilski’s research - the first one of its kind conducted with diversity in the data as a priority - identifies nine empirically supported strategies that result in higher relationship quality and sexual satisfaction in non-monogamous relationships. Our guide in this exploration is Dr. Justin Mogilski  Justin K. Mogilski earned his Ph.D. in evolutionary psychology in 2017 from Oakland University. He is an assistant professor at the University of South Carolina, Salkehatchie. He researches how evolution has shaped brain computation to adaptively guide the decisions that people make to initiate, maintain, and dissolve intimate relationships. He has published in evolutionary, social, personality, and sexual psychology journals on topics spanning mate poaching, infidelity, cross-gender friendship, consensual non-monogamy, intimate partner conflict, moral decision-making, morphometric cues of partner attractiveness, and multivariate statistical analyses of human mate preference.You can learn more about Dr. Mogilski:Twitter @justin_mogilskiFacebook lab page facebook.com/MogilskiLabIf you’d like to participate in Dr. Mogilski’s international study of how people maintain multiple, concurrent intimate partners (e.g., polyamory, swinging, open relationships), you can do so by clicking on the link below. Anyone can participate if they're 18 years or older and have at least one current intimate partner. You do not need to be (or have experience) in a non-monogamous relationship. The link leads to Qualtrics. Funding and ethics approval statements can be found via the link.Link: https://uofsc.co1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_7QI9ok5A8AGjMfYSupport the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

As Pride month comes to an end, we were curious: What keeps us from feeling proud of our gender or orientation? How does the politicalization of our gender and orientation impact the way we feel about ourselves? How can we create spaces - within ourselves and within our homes and communities - where our identity as LGBTQ folk can be nurtured? In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline speak with Dr. Ariana Moran and Maxx Fenning about identity formation, internal and external producers of shame and fear about our identity, and what we can do to help ourselves and others embrace the full expression of who we are. Dr. Ariana Moran is a clinical psychologist and the founder and owner of Elemental Psychology PLLC, based in Brooklyn, New York. Her work in the therapy room is focused on helping her clients align with the truest versions of themselves by healing the relationship to self and focusing on the intersections and integration of one’s multiple identities. She practices from a holistic, fundamentally nonjudgmental, feminist, and nonhierarchical framework that encourages her clients to feel empowered in their own agency. Ariana has additional specialization areas in trauma, climate anxiety/ ecotherapy, life transitions, mood disorders, and relationships.To find more about Dr. Ariana Moran, visit elementalpsych.com.Maxx Fenning is the founder and President of PRISM FL Inc, an LGBT nonprofit based in South Florida. Through PRISM FL, Maxx works to expand access to LGBT-inclusive education and sexual health resources for youth in the community. He is a queer educator on social media who regularly posts content and hosts live classes on LGBT history, gender and sexuality, and sexual health.To find out more about Maxx Fenning and Prism, go to @maxxfenning and @prismfl on TikTok and Instagram, and visit PRISMFL.orgSupport the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

What does desire have to do with LGBTQ+ liberation? Is there room for eroticism within the fight for equity? Often when we tell or hear queer stories, they are stories of trauma, sadness and hardship. Even happy tales tend to be stories of overcoming obstacles, winning against adversity, healing from hurt.  In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline speak with Dr. Jaime Grant about how stories of pleasure, delight, satisfaction, and discovery are equally effective within the work towards LGBTQ+ justice - and even more so because they keep us focused on the world we are trying to create. To find out more about JaimeDr. Jaime M. Grant is a lesbian feminist activist, coach, and a sober mother of two, who came of age in feminist and racial justice movements in the 80s. Her sexual liberation workshop, Desire Mapping, has been produced on campuses and at LGBTQ rights conferences around the world; and her podcast, Just Sex, captures the stories of Desire Mappers. Grant’s research has appeared in The Harvard LGBTQ Policy Journal and in SIGNS, the Journal of Culture and Society. Her autobiographical writing appears in Leslea Newman’s The Femme Mystique and Rachel Epstein’s Who’s Your Daddy? She currently serves as research director for the National LGBTQ+ Women’s Community Survey.Twitter: @drjaimegrantPodcast: justsexpodcast Website: www.transformationsconsult.com Dr. Jaime Grant's books:Great Sex: Mapping Your DesireFriendship as Social Justice ActivismSupport the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

This week we bring you a Pride installment of our new feature, Fox Tales: Stories of lives that challenge the status quo.Tiana Glittersaurus Rex is a Black, queer, kinky, polyamorous woman in New York City. Tiana shares her journey of going from a traditional marriage to a joyful and active member of the kink, poly, and femme dom communities. She has not only discovered her authentic self expression but is dedicated to supporting others to do the same through community, advocacy, and education. You can find out more about Tiana on Instagram at @Glittersaurus.Rex or via her organization Sex Work Survival Guide @swsurvivalguide. Listen to the podcast that Tiana produces: Hard or Soft Podcast. If you are in New York for Pride 2022, join Tiana at Kinks & Drinks on June 24th where consent is king, weirdness reigns supreme and ALL bodies are welcome. Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

Erectile dysfunction, STIs, vaccinations, and safe anal play are important conversations for men – particularly queer men – to have with their doctor’s and partners. However sometimes the most important conversations are also the most difficult ones. In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline celebrate Pride and Men’s Health Month by speaking with the “butt stuff” doctor, Mayo Clinic trained gastroenterologist, Doctor Carlton. How can you find the right doctor? What should you ask during your appointment? How can you pleasurably and safely explore anal play? What is unique about sexual health within the gay and queer community? And what is a butt clock?With 3 million likes and over 200,000 followers on TikTok, Doctor Carlton shares his expertise on men’s sexual health and pleasure, tips for tops and bottoms, and sex advice for every body and orientation. To find out more about Dr. CarltonDoctor Carlton is a Mayo Clinic trained gastroenterologist in San Diego, California who you have probably seen on TikTok or Instagram talking about Butt Stuff tips and LGBTQ health. He has been featured on Mashable and in Instinct Magazine and even recently headlined Austin Kink Weekend in Texas. Who better to learn butt stuff from than a doctor who knows all the science and a gay man who has had PLENTY of real life experience with it!Instagram: @doctorcarltonTikTok: @doctorcarltonAs mentioned in the episode:https://heymistr.com/ https://www.glma.org/Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

How can queer folks explore the full scope of their attraction if they are in a monogamous relationship? How can we stay within integrity and still tap into our desire to connect with people of different genders?Inspired by a listener question, Effy and Jacqueline kick off pride month by sharing some strategies for how to explore your sexuality, while staying within your relationship agreements.Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

Even though it sounds different why does it feel like we are having the same fight with our partners over and over again? What does it take to change the patterns we fall into when we are amidst an argument? What are some of the common mistakes that lock us into seemingly irreconcilable discourse? This week Effy and Jacqueline do a coaching session to address the argument patterns Jackie and her partner find themselves in over and over again. After a long text exchange in the middle of the night after one of those arguments, Effy and Jacqueline decide to unpack how Jackie and her partner fight in a recorded coaching session in the hopes that they can bring insight to everyone stuck in their own argument patterns.Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

Why do we say hurtful things to people we love? Why do we make agreements that we can’t or don’t want to keep? Why do we cheat, even when we are mindful of the consequences? Effy and Jacqueline go on a quest to figure out why we step out of integrity in our relationships with others and ourselves and what we can do to prevent those transgressions by exploring the hot-cold empathy gap coined by George Loewenstein, a psychologist and economist at Carnegie Mellon University. They look to the elephant and the rider analogy from the book Switch: How to Change Things When Change Is Hard by Chip and Dan Heath to dissect those behaviour we all do and regret afterwards.Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

All mental health providers are not equal. That doesn't mean good or bad, but simply different training, specialties, and personalities. In this episode, Effy Blue and Jacqueline Misla sit down with Dr. Thomas Whitfield to discuss the best way to find a therapist for your sexual and mental health needs. They explore everything from key phrases to google, the distinction between the types of therapies, and some controversial therapeutic methods for addressing sexual trauma. As mentioned on the episode; Waking Up The Tiger - Peter LevineEpisode 92: Trauma, Sense of Safety and the Soma with Rida KıraşıTo find more about Thomas Whitfield and his work visit his website www.SexEdByThomas.com and on IG and Twitter @twhitfieldphd.Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

In a world where self-care has become synonymous with warm baths and face masks, how can we truly care for ourselves? Is taking it easy and putting your feet up the best way to support your mental health? How can we find a self-care practice that supports our current mental health needs?In honor of mental health month, Effy and Jaqueline take an intentional deep dive into focus on the most important relationship in our lives - our relationship with ourselves. Mentioned on the episode; Episode 33: Finding The Right Therapist for All Lifestyles with Dr. Thomas WhitfieldEpisode 57: Masturbation as self-love and sex nest update with Stella HarrisEpisode 92: Trauma, Sense of Safety and the Soma with Rida KıraşıSupport the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes