What nuances are missing from our understanding of consent? How does racism play a role in our conversations about consent? How can we have radically inclusive education about sex and consent? Effy and Jacqueline sit down with Lydia Collins to talk about consent education, bodily autonomy within the context of race, and the difference between having a type and objectifying or fetishising someone. They explore the missing components of our current consent education and the ways in which we need to revisit our ideas about bodily autonomy and self-perception. About Lydia Collins Lydia Collins (she/her) is an Author, Educator, and Creator with over 5 years of experience in workshop facilitation. She has provided workshops to universities, non-profits, and high schools across North America on various topics including anti-blackness, sexual health education, cultural competency, and radical self-care. Lydia has published 3 chapbooks of poetry between 2019-2021 and produced a collaborative video project Joy Is Our Birthright with UNILEARNAL. Her unwavering love for writing, commitment to activism, and passion for community health are what keep her dedicated to amplifying the most marginalized voices through her work.Tiktok: @lacollinsWebsite: www.lydiacollins.ca New York Times article : Love Isn't a Zero-Sum GameSupport the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

How can feminism expand to make room for and even celebrate intersectionality? What is the role of joy in identity formation? How can we build communities that see and hold all of who we are?Effy and Jacqueline hang out with “Juliet Takes a Breath” author Gabby Rivera to talk about drawing from the collective wisdom of feminism and sex-positivity to create QTBIPOC spaces that prioritize representation and intersectionality. They explore the power of joy, language and storytelling in the construction of identity.More about GabbyGabby Rivera is the author of Juliet Takes a Breath, she’s also the writer of the new Marvel series America—featuring the first queer, Latinx teen-girl superhero, ever—that’s catching headlines from The New York Times, CNN, Vogue, and beyond. When not writing, Gabby speaks on her experiences as a queer Puerto Rican from the Bronx, 2an LGBTQ youth advocate, and the importance of prioritizing joy in QTPOC communities at events across the country. She’s also the host of the Joy Uprising podcast which questions “How do you prioritize JOY?”To find more about Gabbyhttps://gabbyrivera.com/IG: @quirkyricanJoy Uprising podcastJuliet Takes a BreathSupport the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

What is the Madonna-whore complex? Why has this caricature pit women against each other? How can we disrupt the good girl/ bad girl narrative that impacts the way we see and are seen?Inspired by a story shared by our Assistant Producer, Effy and Jacqueline unpack why some men don’t feel like they can get freaky with their girlfriends/fiancés/wives, and instead seek out adventurous or kinky sex with other women. They discuss how media and art perpetuate the binary way that men see women, women see themselves, and anyone in between is not seen. And they dig up images of women that transcend this dichotomy and suggest how we can change the noise, to honor the multiplicity of all humans.Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

How does our upbringing and early childhood experiences affect our mate selection? Do we need to be “healed” to find a healthy relationship? Can the relationships we struggle in the most be places where we can heal and grow? Can trauma be a bonding experience and how is “trauma bonding” different?Effy and Jacqueline explore the love-at-first-sight myth and try to parse apart the difference between attachment wound activation and attraction (and even arousal) - which can all feel confusingly similar to the nervous system when we meet a potential new partner if there’s unaddressed trauma. They discuss what it takes to nurture a relationship where there’s space held for mutual healing.The TikTok that started this discussion can be found here. You can find the playlist of videos we curated while researching this topic here.Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

Why would anyone use sex toys? How do toys enhance the sexual experience? How do you find the right toy and where can you get them? And how do you avoid internal frostbite???Effy and Jacqueline catch up with a long time Friend of the Fox, co-host of Netflix’s Principles of Pleasure, and the creator and host of Sex Ed a Go Go, Dirty Lola, to talk all about sex toys. Self proclaimed dildo swinger, Lola talked through shapes, sizes, materials of classic toys as well as new products on the shelves. They discuss how to bring up toys with partners, how to take care of your prize possessions, and bust any myths and misunderstandings that are out there about sex toys. More about Dirty Lola: Dirty Lola is a sex edutainer, speaker, and self-proclaimed dildo slinger. Known for her live sex ed Q&A show Sex Ed A Go-Go and as a Sexpert on the Netflix docuseries The Principles of Pleasure, Lola has spent almost a decade working to end the stigma and shame surrounding sex and sexuality. Having started her journey sharing personal discoveries with polyamory and kink online, Lola now uses her knowledge, warm candor, and public platforms to teach the masses in person and to rapt Internet audiences.To learn more about Dirty Lola:Twitter: @DirtyLolaInstagram: @DirtyLola DirtyLola.coSupport the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

What is sex misinformation and what kind of sex misinformation is out there? Why is it so prevalent? Why is it important to talk about the false sex narritives and what can we do about stopping the spread of this information?Effy and Jacqueline chat with multi-award-winning reporter and the author of Losing It: Sex Education for the 21st Century, Sophia Smith Galer about prevailing sex myths; how to bust those myths through educating ourselves, and what can we do about changing the culture so the information out there is scientifically accurate and focuses as much on pleasure as sexual health, pregnancy and rape reduction.More about SophiaSophia Smith Galer is a multi-award-winning reporter, author and TikTok creator based in London – making content for over 400,000 followers around the world.Her videos have been viewed over 100 million times and she has been named on the Forbes under 30 list this year as well as a 2022 'Face to Watch' in books by the Evening Standard.Vogue has also recently named her in their list of 2022's 25 most influential women in the UK - alongside Emma Raducanu, Nazanin Zaghari-Ratcliffe and HRH Queen Elizabeth II.Sophia began her career at the BBC where she reported on the complexities of contemporary faith across the BBC World Service, BBC Radio 4 and BBC World News as the network's first Visual Journalist in Faith and Ethics. She now works as a Senior News Reporter at VICE World News where she covers everything from gender violence and technology to the climate crisis and Europe's Christian hard right.In 2021 she won 'Innovation of the Year' for her TikTok journalism at the British Journalism Awards, when she was also named a Voice of Change by TikTok – she was listed as one of their top 100 UK creators for the second year running.Her first book, Losing It: Sex Education for the 21st Century, is out now, addressing the sex misinformation crisis and debunking sex myths.To learn more about Sophia follow her on social media:@sophiasgaler on Twitter and IG, @sophiasmithgaler on TikTokYou can find her book on the Curious Fox reading list.Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

Are there different modes to the same relationships? Can feeling safe, settled and comfy get in the way of passion and the erotic? How do we know what type of connection is available in any given relationship?In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline are exploring a relationship theory that encourages people to consider different states the same relationship. Rest and reason, flirt and f*ck and disconnection. Inspired by Polyvagal Theory, they look into how we can recognize what state the relationship is in, what needs are being met, and how to shift if we want to. Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

We are back with another Fox Tales episode, with stories of lives that challenge the status quo.This week we will hear the story of Bear and Fifi (@bear.n.fifi). A few years into their relationship, after slowly taking down their walls to lean into love and trust, Bear revealed to Fifi that he is transgender and that he wanted to go through the process of transitioning. In this episode, they candidly share the fear, mourning, connection, and surprise that they experience as individuals and as partners during Bear’s journey of discovery and embodiment. Kabir Brown (Bear) is a Black queer transgender man, born and raised in Brooklyn, New York. A clinical case manager for underserved communities, and a private intimacy coach + sex positive space curator, he uses his professional background and intersectional experience of identities to create affirming spaces for his clients. Sofia Mojica (Fifi) is a pansexual Puerto-Rican cis woman from The Bronx, NY. Using trauma-informed neo-tantric techniques, spiritual technologies, and somatic exercises, Fifi guides her clients to develop compassion toward themselves and remove barriers they may have around sex, intimacy, connecting to their physical bodies, and experiencing joy. To find out more about Bear and Fifi, visit their website bearandfifi.com and follow them on Instagram at @bear.n.fifi.Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

Is a relationship a success only if it progresses in a socially prescribed sequence of states from dating to till-death-do-us-apart - also known as the relationship escalator? What is solo polyamory and how is it different from good-old-fashion dating? Why does single-by-choice carry so much stigma?  Effy and Jacqueline invite journalist and author Amy Gahran to the show to discuss the relationship escalator, what it looks like to get off it or opt out of it in the first place, solo polyamory, voluntary singledom, couple’s privilege and its flip side, singleism.  Guiding us in this conversation is Amy Gahran (AKA Aggie Sez)Amy Gahran is the author of "Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator: Uncommon Love and Life." She lives in Colorado. Some people know Amy by her old pen name, Aggie Sez.https://www.facebook.com/offescalatorOffEscalator.comSupport the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

What does it mean to put effort into relationships? Does one person always show up more than the other? Is relationship maths as simple as 50+50 makes 100%?In this revisited episode, Effy and Jacqueline sit down to work out what is the right maths when it comes to the division of effort that goes into a relationship while comparing parental relationship dynamics to adult romantic relationship dynamics. Not all relationships are created equal, not all effort is valued the same. Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes